ADVICE! overwhelmed with moving out of parents house!

well... the wedding was 3 weeks ago, we bought a house like 6 months ago, but since i'm a teacher, i put off moving out of my parents house tll after the wedding, cause i knew i would have all summer off to do it.... but now i'm feeling sooo overwhelmed!! i have so much stuff from my childhood and high school and stuff that i don't want to get rid of, but don't really have room for at the new house.... just looking for any hints you guys might have... did you leave anythng at your parents house? any way of deciding what to leave and what to take with you? its just nuts trying to pack up the first 25 years of my life!

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awwww- i so feel for you!

I do have a lot of stuff from childhood still at my parents house ... BUT they will be moving in a year or so and I will need to decide what to do with it...

just a suggestion:
do one quick elimination of anything you can!
Buy those photo/video boxes... i say probably 3 and fill it with what you MUST keep- whatever doesnt fit you could make a scrapbook- or allow yourself one more box- and then discard the rest- i know its hard- trust me i do... but if you dont have an attic/basement to keep it in...what will you do? good luck!

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I went through the same thing last summer when I got married. I had lived in my parents house for 28 years (with the exception of college) and had accumulated a LOT of stuff.

One piece of advice a former bride gave me was to take pictures of your room the way it is now before you dismantle it. You will want it later in life when your mom redecorates your room


Then you need to think of how far away you will be from your parents house and that will help you determine what to take now. Also, ask your parents if they mind if you leave some belongings there. Some parents want you to take EVERYTHING when you leave, others are more leniant.

Take your clothing, shoes and personal items right away. Take your legal documents.Take some of your favorite books or movies. Take your CD's. Take some stuffed animals to help make your new place feel comfy and help you feel safe if you ever have a sleepless night where your DH is snoring instead of holding you

Leave your doll collection, your yearbook, your old papers, and sports equipment you 'think' you might use.

Once you are in your place for a few months, you will see what you miss and you will go back and get it. Then you can figure out if it is time to discard some of the stuff left behind or pack it in your parents' attic.

Good luck! It is a tough transition for those of us who have lived home for so long, but in time you start to create a home with your DH and feel more comfortable in your new place.

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I left alot of stuff at my parents house - books, BArbie Dolls, stuffed animals, all of that childhood stuff that I cannot part with and want for my kids one day.

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I cant even imagine how hard this is going to be for me...good luck

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I think xjulietx said it perfectly.
I couldn't agree more. I also had a hard time moving out of my mom's house. I too lived there all my life other an college. It was really hard to clean out my room. I moved all my clothes and personal items out right after the wedding but it wasn't until a few months after the wedding that I did an entire clean out. I just spent all day in there and got rid of all the things that I no longer needed. I certainly did shed a few tears and I still get a little sentimental if I go in there when I visit. It's strange to leave a place that you have called home for 26 years. Just give it time.
Good Luck!!!!

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Thank you for this post. I'm getting married next Saturday and am sooo sad thinking that this is the last week that I am going to live in my house, sleep in my bed, and see my family every night...and my dog Coco - oh I'll miss him too. It's really getting the best of me. I don't know what to do. I'm taking it out on my mother in a mean way - she is always crying too b/c she's going to miss me soo much. I almost feel guilty for leaving. Just had to vent. Anymore advice on how to make it easier for the last week??

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Posted by xjulietx

One piece of advice a former bride gave me was to take pictures of your room the way it is now before you dismantle it. You will want it later in life when your mom redecorates your room

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that is great advice!

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It can be very overwhelming i know!!!

First, I agree on the taking a picture. My parents re-did my room starting the moment i got the last box out I think!

Its funny, when I moved I felt like I had SO much room, because now I had a whole house to put things in, not just one bedroom.

I held my breath and just got rid of the un-sentimental stuff before I could talk myself out of it. Kept the sentimental stuff but asked my parents if I could leave 2 boxes in their attic until I got completley unpacked and settled. 11 months later, they are still storing it for me :) hheeeeeheeeehehe

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I feel the same way. I'm moving out in october, but i will leave my room just the way it is. When i come back to visit it will still be there with all my stuffed animals and everything.

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Posted by summer06bride

I cant even imagine how hard this is going to be for me...good luck

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Same here!

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I know when I moved out of my parents house last year (FI and I moved in together) it was so hard.

What made it alittle bit easier was that about a year before I moved out, my parents and I went through our attic and got rid of the junk. When we were finished, I was left with a giant rubbermaid bin full of childhood things in their attic that they said I could leave there until I have my own home.

Having done that already, it really made things easier for me. All I had to pack up were my clothes and any decorating stuff (candles, pictures and any artwork, etc.). If you're honest with yourself and you go through things little by little, it will all get done.

Try to set reasonable goals for yourself. Seperate everything one day... Maybe by age. Then everyday, try to finish one pile. Before you know it - you will be finished. That's how I did it.

Good luck!!!