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Swan06
I'm married!!!!!!!!!!
Member since 6/05 1614 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/3/2006 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club
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Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
Why do men think that the wedding planning is our job? Is it me or weren't they the ones that asked us to marry them? This planning is so overwhelming. I think my fiance was all there at first until other men starting telling him to let me do all of the work. RRRR, men.
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Posted 8/3/05 2:47 PM 
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beautyq115
Board Princess
Member since 12/04 16774 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/16/2006 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club...AMAZING
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
Posted by Swan06
Why do men think that the wedding planning is our job? Is it me or weren't they the ones that asked us to marry them? This planning is so overwhelming. I think my fiance was all there at first until other men starting telling him to let me do all of the work. RRRR, men.
I mean I am definetely doing the leg work..but I love it. He does come with me to all of the vendor meetings though
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Posted 8/3/05 2:51 PM
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Goldi1021
Growing a miracle in my belly!
Member since 1/05 12772 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/18/2006 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Temple Avodah
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
Oh dear, this is my dream - to plan my own wedding without intereference. I have a GROOMZILLA who wants to be a part of everything to the point where he makes flow charts, graphs and lists for everything.
Moral of the story: Be careful what you wish for.
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Posted 8/3/05 2:57 PM
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Swan06
I'm married!!!!!!!!!!
Member since 6/05 1614 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/3/2006 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
My whole thing is that if something goes wrong it's not my sole fault. It's our fault  I just got annoyed last night seeing him plan someone's event. For the last two nights he's been on the computer. He was sooooo helpful at first with finding the location and now forget about it.
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Posted 8/3/05 3:03 PM
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hsacks23r
I was a fun bride
Member since 1/05 6086 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/13/2006 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Three Village Inn
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
that is soo true-- im galde he dosnt realy do anything-- and he knows all this planning makes me happy so he just lets me go-- and when i aske him a question he put his imput 
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Posted 8/3/05 3:06 PM
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Swan06
I'm married!!!!!!!!!!
Member since 6/05 1614 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/3/2006 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
Let me ask you ladies this::: Are you doing it all by yourself??? Or do you have your mom & friends helping you? See I'm doing it all by myself so I'm just overwhelmed.
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Posted 8/3/05 3:07 PM
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jens
Board Fanatic
Member since 6/05 688 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/30/2006 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Gurney's A+
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
They do have it easy, i'm planning w/no other help. I finally gave him projects, he is in charge of getting the guest hotel shuttle, our limo to and from airport. I'm sure i'll be giving him more.
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Posted 8/3/05 3:30 PM
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Jen2999
What's next?!
Member since 11/04 9849 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/7/2006 4:00 PM
Wed. Location:
CHATEAU LA MER--AMAZING!
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
I had to FORCE FH to help me research honeymoon spots yesterday....He loves planning and helping me as long as he isnt responsible for actually DOING it LOL
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Posted 8/3/05 3:33 PM
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ElegantBride
Newlywed
Member since 1/05 1571 total posts
Wedding Date:
1/1/2013 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
My fiancee is great. I give him all the credit with all of the major vendors. He is excellent with negotiating. He does not want to deal with the minor details though he does want to see what I have in plan. His trained phrase (especially when we register) is "Whatever you want" He cracks me up.
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Posted 8/3/05 3:36 PM
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jes81276
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 3/05 1896 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/21/2006 4:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Hamlet at Willow Creek
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
Posted by ElegantBride
My fiancee is great. I give him all the credit with all of the major vendors. He is excellent with negotiating. He does not want to deal with the minor details though he does want to see what I have in plan. His trained phrase (especially when we register) is "Whatever you want" He cracks me up.
Same here - I feel more comfortable with him negotiating w/all the vendors - I'm such a push over that I will be like "OK" to anything. However, with all of the "little" stuff, he says whatever you want....sounds good to me!
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Posted 8/3/05 3:55 PM
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OctBride05
Where did the time go????
Member since 3/02 5832 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/26/2006 4:00 PM
Wed. Location:
watermill
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
My fh helped pick out the reception hall and thats about it. I am happy to be doing all the stuff myself. I do tell him what I am getting and never book anything without talking to him first, but I am honestly more happy this way. I am the type of person who likes to do everything on my own.
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Posted 8/3/05 3:59 PM
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CTarantino
04-28-06
Member since 11/04 2451 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/28/2006 5:00 PM
Wed. Location:
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
Posted by Swan06
Let me ask you ladies this::: Are you doing it all by yourself??? Or do you have your mom & friends helping you? See I'm doing it all by myself so I'm just overwhelmed.
I am with you..my mom and everyother close woman lives out of town and state so I am doing all this on my own and FH is no help. I was starting to stress but I just booked DJ so I am good on everything else for a while 
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Posted 8/3/05 4:05 PM
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kellwolfe
It's An Obsession
Member since 12/04 4122 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/8/2006 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Hamlet WindWatchA+++++++++++++++++++
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
I hear ya Mike isnt it to it - he likes me to tell him wants going on but that its - to be honest i like it better that way for me - I have been doing everything with my mom and its been a lot of fun
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Posted 8/3/05 4:11 PM
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metmymatch
Board Fanatic
Member since 7/05 973 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/11/2006 4:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Coindre Hall
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
my fi is awful. his ONE job was to try and find hotel to block rooms at. i gave him TWO MONTHS to do it. i even went on mapquest and got a list of hotels in the area of our site. initially, all i heard from him was biatching that he didn't have time to call them. um, hello, buddy - how's about not playing x-box for 5 hours on a saturday and make some calls. i mean, seriously, as much as i love planning the wedding did he really think i WANTED to spend god knows how many hours in the evenings & on weekends looking at i don't know how many photographer & videographer sites to find a handful of ones that we might like?
GRRRR 
anyhow, we are now about 6 weeks PAST the due date of his little project and the only thing he has is the information i sent him about one of the hotels based on a review (thankfully, i know how he works and this doesn't really ahve to be done until early next year)
i think what bothers me is that i don't even get a thank you for it. it's like they think that b/c we want a wedding & like talking about it that we like all the research, negotiating and planning it takes so our efforts go overlooked. (sorry, this has turned into a bit of a vent!)
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Posted 8/3/05 4:13 PM
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Tommylove
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 1/05 1026 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/1/2006 1:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Coral House A+
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
Tell me about it, I keep telling him all of the things that I have to get done and he says....."Yeah and I still have to look for a Tux"........real funny, right!!!
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Posted 8/3/05 4:34 PM
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Swan06
I'm married!!!!!!!!!!
Member since 6/05 1614 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/3/2006 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
With the awful advice his friends gave him, he doesn't do as much as I feel he should. He even has the nerve to get mad at me after we speak to vendors if I don't ask them the right questions. While we're there he tell me questions I should ask the vendor. RRR. I am not happy right now. Bridezilla has taken over. I just wish my sweet Fiance was back and would be as helpful with me as he is with everyone else.
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Posted 8/3/05 4:45 PM
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Goldi1021
Growing a miracle in my belly!
Member since 1/05 12772 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/18/2006 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Temple Avodah
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
Posted by Swan06
Let me ask you ladies this::: Are you doing it all by yourself??? Or do you have your mom & friends helping you? See I'm doing it all by myself so I'm just overwhelmed.
I make all of the appointments with vendors on my own. Up until now, FH and I have gone to various vendors together and bring my mother back to the ones we like best as she is paying for the wedding. Mom is older and is sometimes in a wheelchair or walks with a cane so doing the legwork is difficult. She does not want to be left out of things and I make sure she isn't. I am also the youngest of four. There have been weddings and Bar/Bat Mitzvahs (similarly planned like weddings) that my family has hosted. If you hung around long enough to absorb the information, you already knew what to do in terms of planning. I already knew to visit and book the vendors that would cost the most first and work my way down. FH is the oldest child in his family. His family never did a wedding before so it was all new to him and he wanted to be a part of it. We ended up booking every vendor I liked best anyway. He is a project manager and I am a "go with my gut" kind of person.
At my age, (35 today actually) you have been to enough weddings to know what you want and what you don't. Every suggestion is played off as well received and then you do what YOU want to do anyway. My wedding has been planned in my head for YEARS. When people offer opinions, it annoys me. What one person feels is beautiful, I often find gaudy and overdone.
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Posted 8/3/05 4:58 PM
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SummerBride06
SummerBaby08 on the way!!
Member since 5/05 3936 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/8/2006 10:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Westbury Manor A+
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
mine doesn't understand why i'm doing it so early since the wedding is a year away. first of all, i'm off for the summer so it's much easier. and also, i want it DONE so i can get my life back
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Posted 8/3/05 5:01 PM
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Swan06
I'm married!!!!!!!!!!
Member since 6/05 1614 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/3/2006 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
I went to the library yesterday and got him a book. I forgot the name. I think it was the Grooms Guide. I read the first chapter and loved the advice!!! It talked about asking your FW what her dream wedding consists of and how to be supportive. It tells the groom why women feel the way they do about weddings. Basically since we've been little girls we've had in our head an idea of what our ideal wedding would be like. It's our dream and something we hold sacred. Our grooms will be the only ones who will look into our eyes when our dream becomes a reality and we say, "I do." It also tells the groom that we'll be back to our loveable selves after the wedding .
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Posted 8/3/05 5:11 PM
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shellnroc
My Everything!
Member since 9/04 4961 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/9/2006 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Villa Lombardi's.... Beyond Amazing!
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
My FI was there when we were checking out halls. Now he is mostly like, I'll give you money you book who you like. Which is good sometimes but I would like a little more involvement. He went with me last night when we booked our photographer but that was like pulling teeth.
I do understand that he works alot and we live a bit far from eachother. But I alway say it is your wedding too.
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Posted 8/3/05 6:20 PM
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Love_my_Freddybear
I love my Freddybear!!!
Member since 6/05 2015 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/3/2005 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
**LARKFIELD MANOR**
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
FH does not have it easy........he is the one who has to give me money money money!!!
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Posted 8/3/05 6:33 PM
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DrBeLLaRoSe
Board Fanatic
Member since 2/05 997 total posts
Wedding Date:
1/1/2011 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Huntington
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
i hear ya.
i am planning the wedding completely by myself (no help from anyone) and it gets frustrating when my fiance magically thinks i am going to get everything done. So i whine and complain a little bit and i give him extremely specific things that i need help for him to do and he does them! he actually gets things done a lot faster than i would be able to do them. So it kinda works out... i do all the research and figure out what i want, he makes the final decision and does all the legwork like calling the vendors and negotiating prices and signing contracts.
Try to get him involved more... when we went to meet with the photographer, my fh set it all up himself and we went to the city, had a great time with the photographer, and then went out to dinner and made a night of it.
good luck with everything!
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Posted 8/3/05 8:39 PM
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LaurenluvsTJ
Married life is sweet!
Member since 1/05 11868 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/28/2006 12:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Westbury Manor
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
He has come with me too ALL the appointments and even though I have to ask him a million times to do something he eventually gets it done and has never complained.
I think the reason guys aren't as into it is because they just want to get married and think they don't care about the whole big hoopla. (although i think they secretly do )
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Posted 8/3/05 8:50 PM
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shellnroc
My Everything!
Member since 9/04 4961 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/9/2006 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Villa Lombardi's.... Beyond Amazing!
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
Posted by LaurenluvsTJ
He has come with me too ALL the appointments and even though I have to ask him a million times to do something he eventually gets it done and has never complained.
I think the reason guys aren't as into it is because they just want to get married and think they don't care about the whole big hoopla. (although i think they secretly do )
I think you are right!!!!!!
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Posted 8/3/05 9:05 PM
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Swan06
I'm married!!!!!!!!!!
Member since 6/05 1614 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/3/2006 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club
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Re: Our Fiance's have it easy!!!
My fiance helped me out last night!!!! I felt bad and maybe thought to myself..."Why not be wonder woman and do it all by yourself?" But I realized that I was starting to hate the planning process. It's too much work to take by yourself!!! I just want to get it out of the way. I think it's the vendors that have me feeling so blahhhh. The only things that I feel good about are my dress and Dj. I still don't have a florist & Photographer/videographer because I can't stand the ones I've met. I haven't found the one. Wish me luck ladies!!! I'm going to need it!!!!
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