MOB Rant (sorry... long vent ahead)

My mother thinks everything needs to revolve around her.... HELLO...Who's freakin' wedding is this anyway??? I can't help that she lives in another state and far away, she's the one that chose to go there. I didn't want my shower to be a surprise, so now the date that we picked, (and that was good for her), is no longer good. I have not one free weekend between now and my wedding, and I specifically held that date just for this purpose. MY FMIL canceled a trip so she could be there. So why should I - THE BRIDE, have to bend over backwards to accomodate everyone else so nobody but ME is inconvienced. Then.... I'm having a surprise party for FH in a couple of weeks, my mother intends to be here because her and her boyfriend will happen to be on vacation up here that week. When I told her when to expect my first and then my final dress fitting she told me that she just can't keep coming back and forth like this, and I need to decide what's more important, FH's b-day or her being here for my dress fitting. HELLO!!!! that should be a no brainer. When I told her my dress fitting she got upset because now she feels left out of a family party for FH. He'll have another b-day for crying out loud! I'm getting married ONCE! And since my final fitting will be a week and a half before the wedding, she can't come for that b/c it's too close to the wedding, and she can't come, fly home and the fly back a week later. I thought this was supposed to be MY day and I thought it was supposed to be about ME?? I can't help the fact that she's where she is, and everything I do is an inconvience to her.

There's so much more to this, but I'm an hysterical mess right now (and of course I'm at work). I ended up hanging up on her. She told me I was too up tight about everything. And that 'she told me so' that it would be too stressful, planning a wedding and moving into a new house all at the same time. (we close next week, and I move in, in 3 weeks).

Thanks for letting me vent...

Re: MOB Rant (sorry... long vent ahead)

Re: MOB Rant (sorry... long vent ahead)

Not sure if it's a full moon, or maybe the something in the air....

Today was my father's turn.... he calls me, at aowrk and it all starts off nicely, then just goes downhill. I can't understand why it is that my parents can't just say their happy for me, or that their excited about my plans/visions for my wedding which I've waited so long for. But can only find negative things, or critisize or just find fault w/everything. I just don't understand.

I mean... my mother I can understand, we just don't have a good relationship. But my father... well, I'm super close with him. When FH and I first started looking for a house, he wanted to help us b/c he knows alot about real estate. Everytime I asked if he wanted to come to an open house with us, it was always one excuse or another. Now that we are closing on Friday, I asked if he was going to come see the house but he's too tired....

Then both my parents (I should mention my parents are divorced). Keep making comments that they think my FIL's may be too controlling, or too involved in our lives. They absolutely are not. They never ask questions, or force their opinions on us. They don't even give us their opinions unless we specifically ask for them. My father got upset b/c my FFIL is coming to the closing with us.... FH asked his father to come along for the final walk through on Friday, b/c he's good at finding things we may miss. I asked my father first, so it's not an issue of jelousy. According to my father he is either too tired or too busy.

I'm very sad.. I mean, I just want someone other than my FH to share in the excitement of my wedding. I keep bending over backwards for everyone to make sure they are happy, when it's MY wedding! I didn't want a big wedding, but yet we have almost 500 people on the guest list. But I can't say anything, because our parents are paying for it.

I sit at work and cry, and this should be the happiest time of my life. I just feel like my parents just don't care.

Re: MOB Rant (sorry... long vent ahead)

So sorry you are dealing with this. We are here for you.