Why must this happen before the wedding(vent very long)

We live under his parents because his parents can't afford the morgage without Eddies contribution with that in mind....Okay story goes.... About 3 weeks ago I called the girl who normaly cuts my hair to see if she'll do a side job. It would be me and 2 other girls. She told me $100 each. okay so she's making $300 in her own pocket. So Fmil gives me a number of a woman that her manager knows. Said she'll give me a good deal so I called her. She's the same price except sh's $10-15 more on the trial. And Andrea(Fmil) says what about her hair. I don't know. Why can't she come here afterwards. She wasn't too happy with that answer. So I spoke to my mom and asked can Andrea come over for her hair. My mom said nothing against her but she has alot that day. Having people over and for another to get the hair done is a bit much and the woman said she had to be at my moms at 5am for 3 girls. I wasn't going to get up at 4am so Andrea can get her hair done. So I decided to use my girl. So Andrea can use the one she got. Again she wasn't happy. I called the woman to let her know I decided not to use her and that Andrea would still like to get her hair done. I give her Andreas number. 1 1/2 weeks later this woman decides to call Andrea back. Says she won't do just one girls hair. She'll do at least 2.

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So one of my Bm's is Fmil's daughter. She said that she'll get her hair done with her mom. Why are we deciding on this a week before people !!!!!
So Fh got pissed at his mom. He runs upstairs and has a fight with her. Why are you changing things around. Your being difficult. He asked me if my girl will do just 2 people. I told him I'm at a stand still, the salon isn't open on Sunday or Monday. He told his mom that and that wasn't good enough.
So yesterday I had to drop off my dress at my moms and to spend some time with her. He calls me up saying he's out. Scared the crap out of me. What do you mean, i ask. I'm out of the house. His mom blew up and said this is her house to get downstairs or leave. She doesn't even want to see the sight of us. Says nasty things about me. And tells her son SHE'S NOT LOOKING FOWARD TO SUNDAY!!!!! Who tells there kids that!!! So now We want to move. But Eddie says he can't. His father could die any day. He should be on disability. He has a calcium thing hanging off his heart and if it falls he can die. So if we do his parents can't afford this place. Why me, the week of!!!!!! Thanks a bunch for listening!!!!

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Wow, I am so sorry you are going through this. Try to focus on your upcomming wedding. I wish I had some great words of wisdom but I don't. All I can give you is

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I'm so sorry!!!!! I'm sure your FMIL didn't mean the things she said and doesn't realize the difficulties she's causing. I'm sure she's very stressed out about her son getting married, her husband dying, and the finances. Just let things cool down and talk to her tomorrow so this can be worked out before the big day!! We're here for you!!!

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Don't even think about the housing issue until after the wedding and HM. That will also give evryone time to cool off. Just focus on your beautiful wedding day and let everything else roll off for the time being.

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Posted by nferrandi

Don't even think about the housing issue until after the wedding and HM. That will also give evryone time to cool off. Just focus on your beautiful wedding day and let everything else roll off for the time being.

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I agree

It sounds like your FMIL is being very sensitive. Believe it or not a wedding can be very diffficult for the parents too. It sounds like she depends on your FH for a lot, esp since her husband is sick. I would just ignore it the best you can, be the better person.

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sorry that u have to deal with this the week of your wedding.

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Wow...I'm sorry you're going thru this.

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to you! I hope it calms down soon and you can enjoy this week and the wedding.

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sorry you are going through this... hopefully FMIL will calm down and this will blow over. just remember -- either way -- you are getting married! and it will be the best day of your life!

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Hang in there!

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i'm sorry

do you live there as well? if so, i would suggest staying at your mom's until the wedding. let this thing blow over...or at least get you out of the environment so you are not completely stressed for sunday.

good luck and hang in!

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Posted by nferrandi

Don't even think about the housing issue until after the wedding and HM. That will also give evryone time to cool off. Just focus on your beautiful wedding day and let everything else roll off for the time being.

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Exactly, things were probably said that were not meant,

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Weddings are emotional and having one with a sick family member is NOT easy. Be thankful that your FH father is alive to see you both get married...my FH father passed away a year ago. Just let them use who they want for their hair and you use your person, that'll make everyone happier. I'd prob tip the girls who lost your Fsil's apt a little extra for the tip since she lost $$.

Everything will work out!! I agree that you should think about staying at you mom's place. I know it's your big day but think of how your Fmil feels with a wedding coming up and she is loosing her husband and can't even support herself...it'll be OK, you'll have a beautiful wedding!

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I thank everyone for their support through this time. We haven't spoken to her since and we live down stairs. I keep telling Fh to talk to his father about his mothers behavior but he's never home. he works 6 days a week from 6am to 11pm. Thanks again!!

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Posted by jilmadison

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Posted by nferrandi

Don't even think about the housing issue until after the wedding and HM. That will also give evryone time to cool off. Just focus on your beautiful wedding day and let everything else roll off for the time being.

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I agree

It sounds like your FMIL is being very sensitive. Believe it or not a wedding can be very diffficult for the parents too. It sounds like she depends on your FH for a lot, esp since her husband is sick. I would just ignore it the best you can, be the better person.

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I agree! It's probably hard on your FMIL. It stinks that she has to cause such problems. Hang in there because I'm sure that everything will turn out perfect. And what a great FH you have! He went to battle against his mom for you! Hang on to that one!