(REPOST BHB) Invite wording!! - longer than i realized!

OK....so FH and I sat down last night and figured out what invites we wanted, and what our wordings/fonts would be etc...
so today i am talking to my mother and telling her all that we picked...I said for the invite we are planning on putting


(Brides Parents)
and
(Grooms Parents)
invite you to share in the joy of
the marriage uniting their children
(Bride)
and
(Groom)
This celebration of love will be
on (Date)
(Year)
etc etc etc....

My mom is now very mad/upset/hurt (I dont know what)...b/c we are putting FH's parents names. I explained to her this was an invitation for our marriage..and we felt it was important to have both their names...well, she thinks b/c they are not going 50/50 on the wedding (which my parents never expected...but Fh's parents are paying for the band, the flowers and the rehersal dinner)..i feel
#1. we like the wording including both set which mean to much to us
#2. Fh;s parents while not paying for 1/2...are still helping with a significant amount of money.

My questi0on is what should we do...should we re-word to not offend my mother...or hope that she eventually can see where we are coming from????

Re: (REPOST BHB) Invite wording!! - longer than i realized!

It's your wedding...do what makes you happy!

Re: (REPOST BHB) Invite wording!! - longer than i realized!

WERE PUTTING

MR & MRS PRESHYS PARENTS
INVITE YOU
MARRIAGE THEIR DAUGHTER
PRESHY 7
TO
FH
SON OF
MR AND MRS FHS PARENTS
ETC.

Re: (REPOST BHB) Invite wording!! - longer than i realized!

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Posted by Preshy7

WERE PUTTING

MR & MRS PRESHYS PARENTS
INVITE YOU
MARRIAGE THEIR DAUGHTER
PRESHY 7
TO
FH
SON OF
MR AND MRS FHS PARENTS
ETC.

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We are doing the same and FH's parents are contributing minimally. Actually, it is customary for Jewish wedding invitations to list both parents regardless of who is paying because it is considered the joining of two families. If the costs are split 50/50 then they go at the top. If not, the FH's parents go under his name.

Personally, I wouldnt do it any other way. Regardless of the fact that they arent really paying at all, or how I may feel about them, I think FHs parents should be acknowledged on some level as the people who brought him into the world.

Re: (REPOST BHB) Invite wording!! - longer than i realized!

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Posted by Goldi1021

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Posted by Preshy7

WERE PUTTING

MR & MRS PRESHYS PARENTS
INVITE YOU
MARRIAGE THEIR DAUGHTER
PRESHY 7
TO
FH
SON OF
MR AND MRS FHS PARENTS
ETC.

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We are doing the same and FH's parents are contributing minimally. Actually, it is customary for Jewish wedding invitations to list both parents regardless of who is paying because it is considered the joining of two families. If the costs are split 50/50 then they go at the top. If not, the FH's parents go under his name.

Personally, I wouldnt do it any other way. Regardless of the fact that they arent really paying at all, or how I may feel about them, I think FHs parents should be acknowledged on some level as the people who brought him into the world.

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my thoughts exactly....maybe we will think about putting them under fh's name....thats the way i am looking at it, the joining of two families....NOT ooohhhh....who paid more!!!
i love my mom..and i see where she is coming from...i do...but i hope she can take a step back and realize this is important to us. FH WANTS his parents on there..and i completely agree!

Re: (REPOST BHB) Invite wording!! - longer than i realized!

You can 'borrow' my words to your mom if it helps. Let us know how it turns out. Good luck.

Actually, since my father passed away in July, were a sore subject for us. Dad's hard work is paying for the wedding he will never see. Since a person who is deceased cannot perform an act of inviting, we decided to honor him by having my mom listed as the sole hostess as 'Mrs. Dad's name' because a widow retains her husband's name until and unless she re-marries. She wanted EVERYONE to know who was paying for the wedding. I said to her 'Mom, you were a housewife for 49 years! TRUST ME. People will know who is paying!'

Re: (REPOST BHB) Invite wording!! - longer than i realized!

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Posted by VogueBride

My mom is now very mad/upset/hurt (I dont know what)...b/c we are putting FH's parents names. I explained to her this was an invitation for our marriage..and we felt it was important to have both their names...well, she thinks b/c they are not going 50/50 on the wedding (which my parents never expected...but Fh's parents are paying for the band, the flowers and the rehersal dinner)..i feel
#1. we like the wording including both set which mean to much to us
#2. Fh;s parents while not paying for 1/2...are still helping with a significant amount of money.

My questi0on is what should we do...should we re-word to not offend my mother...or hope that she eventually can see where we are coming from????

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My mother had the same reaction when my sister set out the wording for her invitations. My sister compensated by putting

Mrs. Bride's Mother invites you to the marriage of her daughter
Bride's Name
to
Groom's Name,
son of Mr. & Mrs, Groom's parents,

instead of Mrs. Bride's Mother, and Mr. & Mrs. Groom's Parents invite you to the marriage of their children.