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As a guest at a wedding, do you tip the staff?
Hallowedding Posted: Nov 01, 2005 11:55 AM+
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As a guest at a wedding, do you tip the staff?

Just wanted to see what we all do. We tipped our table server at a few weddings we went to because the service they provided to us was extraordinary.
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tracy2246 Posted: Nov 01, 2005 11:56 AM+
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Re: As a guest at a wedding, do you tip the staff?

We usually do because that way the drinks keep coming and the staff gets you whatever you want-
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hocus Posted: Nov 01, 2005 11:57 AM+
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Re: As a guest at a wedding, do you tip the staff?

At parties I might tip someone who really went of their way to do something. But I think only people who really drink a lot give tips.

Adina
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dianadrw Posted: Nov 01, 2005 11:59 AM+
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Re: As a guest at a wedding, do you tip the staff?

I only tip if the person goes out of his/her way. I feel as a guest at a wedding, a certain level of service is expected. But if someone goes above and beyond, I feel they should be recognized.
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jilmadison Posted: Nov 01, 2005 12:02 PM+
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Re: As a guest at a wedding, do you tip the staff?

My FH ALWAYS tips, a lot too.

He used to work for a catering hall when he was in HS so he tends to be very generous
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Jennie0898 Posted: Nov 01, 2005 12:05 PM+
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Re: As a guest at a wedding, do you tip the staff?

Usually we tip them so that we get 'special' treatment. I know it sounds crazy but we've had waitstaff get us drinks while we're out on the dancefloor when they're not even supposed to be getting us any kind of beverages!
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BEANS Posted: Nov 01, 2005 12:05 PM+
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Re: As a guest at a wedding, do you tip the staff?


Posted by tracy2246

We usually do because that way the drinks keep coming and the staff gets you whatever you want-



We do the same. The whole table pitches in & gives the waiter money.
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MissingTheBGene Posted: Nov 01, 2005 12:05 PM+
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Re: As a guest at a wedding, do you tip the staff?

We tip them, yes.
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eroxgirl Posted: Nov 01, 2005 12:07 PM+
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Re: As a guest at a wedding, do you tip the staff?

This is standard practice for my FIL, but I personally never have.
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roxyspark Posted: Nov 01, 2005 12:07 PM+
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Re: As a guest at a wedding, do you tip the staff?


Posted by tracy2246

We usually do because that way the drinks keep coming and the staff gets you whatever you want-



If I go to a wedding with my drinking friends, everyone at the table gives $10 - $20 at the beginning of the reception to make sure the drinks keep coming.

Otherwise, I would only tip the bartender.
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KatyD Posted: Nov 01, 2005 12:26 PM+
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Re: As a guest at a wedding, do you tip the staff?

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Beth1210 Posted: Nov 01, 2005 12:29 PM+
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Re: As a guest at a wedding, do you tip the staff?

I always tip the bartender

never the waiter- but I would if I got really good service

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Bobbysgirl Posted: Nov 01, 2005 12:30 PM+
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Re: As a guest at a wedding, do you tip the staff?

I personally never have.... just the bar staff - pretty decent too - the drinks just seem to taste better when we do
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Preshy7 Posted: Nov 01, 2005 12:45 PM+
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Re: As a guest at a wedding, do you tip the staff?

just the bartender but it depends on the situation

if its crowded- ill slip him a $10 - and my drink is there every time before i reach the bar!

if i have no cash on me- then i cant tip

fh likes to tip bartender too

ive never tipped the waiter
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nov2004bride Posted: Nov 01, 2005 12:49 PM+
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Re: As a guest at a wedding, do you tip the staff?


Posted by roxyspark


Posted by tracy2246

We usually do because that way the drinks keep coming and the staff gets you whatever you want-



If I go to a wedding with my drinking friends, everyone at the table gives $10 - $20 at the beginning of the reception to make sure the drinks keep coming.

Otherwise, I would only tip the bartender.



We do the same thing
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Mrs.A2006 Posted: Nov 01, 2005 12:49 PM+
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Re: As a guest at a wedding, do you tip the staff?

I will tip the waitstaff if they go above and beyond, some people just put in the extra effort. I always tip the bartender when I go to get a drink.
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Mayflower Posted: Nov 01, 2005 12:50 PM+
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Re: As a guest at a wedding, do you tip the staff?

usually tip the bartender for the first drink or two...and then again at the end if the service was good.

have never tipped the servers
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Laura&Phil Posted: Nov 01, 2005 12:59 PM+
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Re: As a guest at a wedding, do you tip the staff?

I have tipped the bartender, coatroom, valet and bathroom people but never the wait staff. All they have ever done for me at any wedding I attended was to take my order and bring food. I have never seen them bring drinks etc to the table. I always go to the bar for my own drinks. I have only begun to wonder about this recently with vendors adding tip into costs and then people tipping on top. I hate to think that the wait staff doesn't get their tips but I wouldn't be surprised. The whole wedding thing gets sooo expensive!!
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nferrandi Posted: Nov 01, 2005 01:47 PM+
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Re: As a guest at a wedding, do you tip the staff?

We always tip the bartenders, but at one wedding the waiter was so good that we didn't need to go to the bar, so we tipped him. Of course we also tip the valet guy.
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JimmysBride Posted: Nov 01, 2005 01:49 PM+
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Re: As a guest at a wedding, do you tip the staff?

Only the bartenders.
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