My 'Crazy Mother' post... in sympathy for RachelisEngaged

Rachel I am feeling your pain..I personally feel that mothers KNOW of their power over their children (especially daughters!) and use it when things are unfamiliar or not going their way... or in the case of my crazy arse mother, just because she feels like it!!

So it's Thanksgiving Day and my mother drags me out of bed to go do a Turkey Trot. I was happy to join her, even though I got about 2 hours sleep. YAY for being healthy...

fast forward to us finishing the trot and walking around the park. She asks who we have decided to do readings at the wedding, and I tell her. WELL... there is where my happy holidy ended. I decided to ask my Aunt #1 (her sister) but she feels that I should ask Aunt #2(her other sister). OK... but I would still like to find something for Aunt #1 to do in the church ceremony. She doesn't understand... why I 'can't just do this one thing to make her happy',' she doesn't ask much'.. so now what do I do? I really want to include both, so it's probably what I will do.... but I just don't get why so many people feel it is their god given right to inflict (nice choice of word here...) their opinion in areas where it isn't asked for. Sorry for the rant... there are so many more but I'll hold back Thanks so much for listening....

Re: My 'Crazy Mother' post... in sympathy for RachelisEngaged

I feel your pain. If she uses that 'can't you just do that one thing for me' business-tell her...ok are you sure this is the one thing (and only one thing) you want?

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Posted by Blu-ize

I feel your pain. If she uses that 'can't you just do that one thing for me' business-tell her...ok are you sure this is the one thing (and only one thing) you want?

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Good advice!

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Posted by Blu-ize

I feel your pain. If she uses that 'can't you just do that one thing for me' business-tell her...ok are you sure this is the one thing (and only one thing) you want?

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I LOVE that! But knowing my mother, it would be one LIST, not just one thing. This is why I don't ask what they would like in OUR wedding. I've already compromised a lot, so I feel like anymore 'little changes' will make it less and less what FH and I really want.

My new thing is to tell my mother that when she gets married again and has a wedding of her own.. she can do whatever she wants!

Re: My 'Crazy Mother' post... in sympathy for RachelisEngaged

So sorry Erin!!! I can't believe mom is being difficult I think she is just trying to make this wonderful day of yours perfect & doesn't realize that she is causing you to get so fustrated!!!

I guess I better get my game on for when I am dealing with her for the shower

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Maybe your two aunts could share a reading. We have an aunt and cousin (her daughter) sharing a reading so we could include them both. Just an idea.

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Posted by kissy27

So sorry Erin!!! I can't believe mom is being difficult I think she is just trying to make this wonderful day of yours perfect & doesn't realize that she is causing you to get so fustrated!!!

I guess I better get my game on for when I am dealing with her for the shower

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All I have to say is GOOD LUCK with her Kristen! I am beyond past at my wits end.. there is no reasoning with the woman. Any decision I make is prefaced with 'Thats different, but I guess thats you' or ' You are forgoing all tradition, aren't you?'. I just feel very overwhelmed sometimes, like there are way too many cooks stirring the pot. I have learned to keep quiet, but at the same time, my 'inner voices' are tired of not being heard! lol.....

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Posted by RadioLau

Maybe your two aunts could share a reading. We have an aunt and cousin (her daughter) sharing a reading so we could include them both. Just an idea.

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This is a great idea And I have proposed it (hence why I like it ) but momzilla still doesn't understand why I need to include Aunt #1 at all.

Re: My 'Crazy Mother' post... in sympathy for RachelisEngaged

Momzilla! I love it! I would do what you want to do. She'll get over it and she doesn't have to understand why.

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I am so sorry that you are going through this

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Thanks for all you kind thoughts ladies.. it really does mean a lot!

I have just come to the realization that I have to grin and bear it, and try not to sweat the small stuff... but I KNOW that eventually I will have a blow out and I'm going to wait for something good to throw a fit over

THen maybe my mother will have a reason to call me Bridezilla.. thats my personal favorite of all of her comments!

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Posted by Kiddo115

Thanks for all you kind thoughts ladies.. it really does mean a lot!

I have just come to the realization that I have to grin and bear it, and try not to sweat the small stuff... but I KNOW that eventually I will have a blow out and I'm going to wait for something good to throw a fit over

THen maybe my mother will have a reason to call me Bridezilla.. thats my personal favorite of all of her comments!

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I mean I am sure my mother , FI and brothers have some comments that they would say about me being Bridezilla..but I really don't care

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Whats funny is that FH gets angry when my mom calls me Bridezilla... cause I have been so lax in all the planning and stuff. And it's just not in me to obsess over small details or to give people lip. So it bothers him (and me too ofcourse ) when 'crazy' calls me that.

So now I call her momzilla Cause I feel, if the shoe fits... wear it!