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DO I KEEP MY SIL IN THE BRIDAL PARTY OR NOT!!

CrescentBride606 Posted: Dec 09, 2005 02:30 AM+

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Posted: Dec 09, 2005 02:30 AM

DO I KEEP MY SIL IN THE BRIDAL PARTY OR NOT!!

SHE IS DUE TO GIVE BIRH TO HER FIRST CHILD ON MY WEDDING DAY!! her and my brother didn't think it was gonna be that easy..they just got married in august..she wants to be in the bp, and she wants to get a dress, empire waist, ? i want her to be in it but she'll be 9 months!

KarAnthony Posted: Dec 09, 2005 06:07 AM+

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Posted: Dec 09, 2005 06:07 AM

Re: DO I KEEP MY SIL IN THE BRIDAL PARTY OR NOT!!

I would ask her what she wants to do and go from there...

clw924 Posted: Dec 09, 2005 06:24 AM+

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Posted: Dec 09, 2005 06:24 AM

Re: DO I KEEP MY SIL IN THE BRIDAL PARTY OR NOT!!

I would let her be a part of it if she would like to, but just keep in mind that she may not be there that day. They may be rushing to the hospital. It is nice that she is making the effort to be a part of your day. You are lucky to have a nice SIL.

MissMelissa Posted: Dec 09, 2005 06:57 AM+

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Posted: Dec 09, 2005 06:57 AM

Re: DO I KEEP MY SIL IN THE BRIDAL PARTY OR NOT!!

my sister was preggo in mine, but she wanted to do it

tracy2246 Posted: Dec 09, 2005 07:44 AM+

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Posted: Dec 09, 2005 07:44 AM

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I would also ask what she plans on doing with the baby-she may not want to leave a small baby all day and that means she plans on having the baby with her all day-

heatherfaith Posted: Dec 09, 2005 08:03 AM+

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Posted: Dec 09, 2005 08:03 AM

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I think its a little nutty thats someone would want to be a bm 9 months pregnant. I wouldn't have her as a bm anymore. but thats me.

kam29 Posted: Dec 09, 2005 08:13 AM+

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Posted: Dec 09, 2005 08:13 AM

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My best friend found out that she was due on my exact wedding day and still wants to be a BM. She even wanted to order a BM dress but I wouldn't allow it, we will find something comfortable for her to wear if she makes it.

I would discuss it, my friend was adamant that she was still going to be in the wedding party, it meant a lot to her.

ChrissynRicky Posted: Dec 09, 2005 08:17 AM+

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Posted: Dec 09, 2005 08:17 AM

Re: DO I KEEP MY SIL IN THE BRIDAL PARTY OR NOT!!

She said she wants to be the BP, so let her stay in the BP

soon2bmrsdunn Posted: Dec 09, 2005 08:38 AM+

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Posted: Dec 09, 2005 08:38 AM

Re: DO I KEEP MY SIL IN THE BRIDAL PARTY OR NOT!!

Posted by clw924

I would let her be a part of it if she would like to, but just keep in mind that she may not be there that day. They may be rushing to the hospital. It is nice that she is making the effort to be a part of your day. You are lucky to have a nice SIL.

I agree.

eroxgirl Posted: Dec 09, 2005 08:40 AM+

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Posted: Dec 09, 2005 08:40 AM

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Anything is possible - she could deliver 2 weeks late, 2 weeks early, or right on time - you never know. I say let the decision be hers, because only she knows how she's feeling and she'd probably be hurt if you kicked her out of the BP. One of my BMs was in tears when she told me that she was preggo because she was afraid I was going to kick her out. I could never have done that to her though.

RadioLau Posted: Dec 09, 2005 08:41 AM+

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Posted: Dec 09, 2005 08:41 AM

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I would let her make the decision.

VogueBride Posted: Dec 09, 2005 09:28 AM+

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Posted: Dec 09, 2005 09:28 AM

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my FSIL is due 2 days b4 the wedding....we gave her the option and she backed out....but i still wanted her in if thats what she chose. we gave her a reading instead and we havea backup just in case

CrescentBride606 Posted: Dec 09, 2005 11:22 AM+

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Posted: Dec 09, 2005 11:22 AM

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SHE WANTS t be in it so bad , i cna' say no, just hope that she goes late or really early!

VogueBride Posted: Dec 09, 2005 11:27 AM+

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Posted: Dec 09, 2005 11:27 AM

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i think it will all wokr out!!! my FSIL is 3 hrs away from my wedding...so for her..god forbid she came and didnt have the baby yet and went into labor..it wouldnt be the best scinerio...so thats why..butyour sil loves you so much to be trying to do everything she can to be in your wedding!!!! its really such a compliment to the wonderful person you are!!!

waterspout4 Posted: Dec 09, 2005 11:29 AM+

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Posted: Dec 09, 2005 11:29 AM

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Give her the option, but understand she might not be there. My SIL gave birth to both her kids before 7 months. You never know what's going to happen and you have no control over it. Leave it totally up to her and roll with the punches.

There are many reasons for which a BM can't make it at the last minute, this is the best reason.

Mrs. Powell Posted: Dec 09, 2005 11:30 AM+

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Posted: Dec 09, 2005 11:30 AM

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If she wants to a part of your BP then let her do it.

SuzBride Posted: Dec 09, 2005 11:32 AM+

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Posted: Dec 09, 2005 11:32 AM

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Posted by soon2bmrsdunn

Posted by clw924

I would let her be a part of it if she would like to, but just keep in mind that she may not be there that day. They may be rushing to the hospital. It is nice that she is making the effort to be a part of your day. You are lucky to have a nice SIL.

I agree.

me three. Don't boot her out just because she is pregnant - esp. if she wants to be in your wedding.

MattsBride Posted: Dec 09, 2005 11:34 AM+

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Posted: Dec 09, 2005 11:34 AM

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My friend is preggo, she's due a couple weeks before my wedding. She still wants to be in the BP. She's going to order the dress bigger and have it taken in. If she goes late, then she won't be able to be in the BP, but we'll wait and see what happens. I think if she wants to be in it than let her. The worst thing that could happen is she can't make it because she's making you a niece or nephew!