Nosey family members and friends

Any advice on how to answer when someone ( family or friends) asks how much you are paying pp? i feel like its none of their business!!! although it would be nice if they covered their plates! if you have any experience in this area please shed some light, for i know this is something i'll be dealing with

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ask them if they are paying for the wedding. Only the people paying for the wedding should know that info. After that, there is no need.

As far as covering their plates, either way, don't hold your breath.

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i would just say something like im paying alot - and laugh it off and make it into a joke - so then they feel a little dumb - and they'll realize thats not something you want to disclose! and you wont be looked upon as mean or anything!

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Posted by bride2b24

Any advice on how to answer when someone ( family or friends) asks how much you are paying pp? i feel like its none of their business!!! although it would be nice if they covered their plates! if you have any experience in this area please shed some light, for i know this is something i'll be dealing with

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I'm in the same boat as you trust me and i know how awkward it'll be when the first person asks. My FH feels like it's no big deal to tell family members and friends but I totally disagree. I don't want to have to see their reaction when I tell them u know what i mean? So he can tell his family if he wants but my family and friends won't be hearing it from me.

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Why do people ask that?

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OMG ......My FH is just like yours!!! he tells his whole family all of our financial bussiness until I had to really sit down with him and say that it wasnt appropriate....he just thought it was normal! my fam isnt like that so i know it isnt i even had to remind him not to tell people how much he paid for my ring!

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Posted by Love4Eva

i would just say something like im paying alot - and laugh it off and make it into a joke - so then they feel a little dumb - and they'll realize thats not something you want to disclose! and you wont be looked upon as mean or anything!

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That's what I would do, or say something like trust me enough.

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Posted by bride2b24

OMG ......My FH is just like yours!!! he tells his whole family all of our financial bussiness until I had to really sit down with him and say that it wasnt appropriate....he just thought it was normal! my fam isnt like that so i know it isnt i even had to remind him not to tell people how much he paid for my ring!

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His friends know that too He doesn't do it to brag or anything, he just doesn't see the big deal in telling people when they ask. I'm the complete opposite. I guess it's a guy thing

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I don't understand why anyone would ask you then unless they were planning on contributing to the cost of the wedding.
You should say to them 'why, are you paying?'

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There are actually a few people on here who ask those questions as well. Doesn't really bother me, but it's really not right to do, being that there is a board that the vendors can help them and be specific to there needs as opposed to as what deal I got. Everyone is different!

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Make a joke like: 'Our first born child.' and if they insist on asking more, sternly, but politely say, 'I'd rather not talk about numbers, if you don't mind.'

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its sick to say but some people want to know how much you are paying so they know how much they should give you. Technically a wedding gift from a person should at least cover their plate.

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yeah i dont get why people do it either....i think i am gonna go with the first born child!

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tell them it's costing enough. that will shut them up

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Posted by Missladybug15

its sick to say but some people want to know how much you are paying so they know how much they should give you. Technically a wedding gift from a person should at least cover their plate.

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I don't agree with this. It is nobody's business what you pay. Equally, you should give what can afford.

Maybe you should ask them what they plan on giving you as a gift?

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Tell them that you would rather not say-or ball park-

you should ask why how much you giving us? Imagine-

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we got a really great deal so if i told them how much id get crap.. i'm just telling them that we got a great deal wich could mean anything ..

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It's funny...cause I was just in this situation. One of my roomate's is EXTREMELY secretive, and would never ever discuss any type of finances with us. But, he asked me the other day what our budget was for the wedding, and how much we were paying pp. Because I'm close to him, I was able to jokingly tell him that was a rude question, and he seemed to be real apologetic for asking...like he didn't know. Come to find out, when I was out, he asked my FH the same thing!!!!! and my FH responded with a similiar response to mine!
I have no idea why he would ask this...especially since he is such a secretive person.

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grr i hate when they ask that- i just say alot -want to contribute and they shut up

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just tell them it is a lot and if they say whats a lot $50,000 (or whatever number) say yeah.