need reception advice YET agian

ok so yes my wedding was postponed because of my soon to be born baby boy.......plus we wanted to have our wedding upstate since its so much more affordable. Well we are still beating ourselves up on how we r paying for everything ( we r paying for everything ourselves) ........so after talking to my dad today he gave me 2 options

1. shorten our guest list, keep the wedding in oct and he would pay for it at the reception hall

or
2. move the wedding to summer and have a catered party at his house (which is beautiful and huge, and has a huge backyard)...and keep the number of people we currently have on our list

what would you girls do????

im so confused i feel like i have been changing and planning forver i just want everything set allready!!! HELP!!

Re: need reception advice YET agian

A summer backyard wedding, lets you make it as unique as you want it to be. There are soo many options that are open to you and you are able to invite all the people you really want to share your day, so I'd vote for the backyard wedding.

Honestly, if my parents owned a home that would have been my first choice.

ETA: With reception halls come rules, I HATE rules! lol

Re: need reception advice YET agian

I think it depends on whether or not you'd be abe to cut your guest list or not, or whether you actually want to.

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i think that a nice summer wedding in his backyard would be beautiful! what a nice change after alwyas going to catering halls---hope this helps :)

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I think you've waited, postponed, and planned long enough. I want to say Life is short - just get married!! But I know you want to do it 'right' so you'll have to weigh out what means the MOST to you at this point...and that depends on how much you have to cut your guestlist.

So that's really what's at the heart of the matter here - how drastic of a cut do you have to make?

Re: need reception advice YET agian

i'd move it to summer backyard. u can keep the list and backyard parties are fun & unique.

Re: need reception advice YET agian

The backyard wedding seems like a good idea.

My cousin had a wedding in my grandfather's backyard and the setting was great. They got a huge tent and a dance floor. You can do so much with it (unfortunately they didn't but that's another story!)

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I think the backyard party sounds like it could be really nice and much more personal than a hall. Even better, all of the people you want to include will be able to come!

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you have to do whats right for you! I went to a great 'backyard' reception upstate last summer....the had a tent with chinese lanterns/white lights, a ton of great food and lots to drink. what i found was great is that it wasn't your average 5 hour reception, we were there from like 4pm till 11 or 12.....which was great and we had soooo much fun! Although it depends on your neighbors how long they'll tolerate the music!! There are pluses for both, for me it would come down to, do I want to find a caterer/dance floor/tent and all that other stuff, or just let the hall take care of it. I think either way its going to be great!!! GOOD LUCK!!!!

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Which one do you have your heart set on? I would personally chose the backyard, that way I could do whatever I wanted, and have a bigger guest list, but that is you choice. Send me pics of his backyard TJ, I wanna see what I am missing in Upstate! lol!!! Which summer, 06 or 07????

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I have to say if it was up to me Id pick the backyard summer wedding.
Which one do you REALLY want? Maybe if you try to cut your list down that might help you decide-there may more people you want to be there then you are willing to cut which might help make your decision easier.

HTH

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Just a thought...'they' say that a backyard, tent wedding can be more expensive than a catering hall-you'd have to be careful! Good lUck

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Backyard weddings can be beautiful. Just don't forget the tents.

Good Luck!

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Posted by Pookiesangel

A summer backyard wedding, lets you make it as unique as you want it to be. There are soo many options that are open to you and you are able to invite all the people you really want to share your day, so I'd vote for the backyard wedding.

Honestly, if my parents owned a home that would have been my first choice.

ETA: With reception halls come rules, I HATE rules! lol

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First choice would be the home

Re: need reception advice YET agian

whats more important than having all of your friends and family present at your celebration? To me, nothing! I would choose the backyard - how beautiful and unique!

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Posted by 08/06

Just a thought...'they' say that a backyard, tent wedding can be more expensive than a catering hall-you'd have to be careful! Good lUck

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This is also true!

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Posted by 08/06

Just a thought...'they' say that a backyard, tent wedding can be more expensive than a catering hall-you'd have to be careful! Good lUck

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I'd love a backyard wedding and considered it but the costs came out to be more (all the rentals) plus my dad did not want all those people at his house

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Posted by Jackie&Justin

Which one do you have your heart set on? I would personally chose the backyard, that way I could do whatever I wanted, and have a bigger guest list, but that is you choice. Send me pics of his backyard TJ, I wanna see what I am missing in Upstate! lol!!! Which summer, 06 or 07????

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jacks??? 07? come on girl im done waiting!!! lol

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Thats true!!!!! I'll come to the backyard wedding! I think it will be fun!

jacks

Re: need reception advice YET agian

If I had a big enough house and yard, I would have loved to have it in my backyard. There are so many options; you can decorate it exactly as you want...they rent out almost everything nowadays...