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Melissa&Steve
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Member since 12/05 343 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/23/2006 5:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Thatched Cottage
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bridal shower etiquette question...
Is it the MOH's responsibility to pay for the shower or is it split w/the BM's and/or MOB??
TIA!!!
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Posted 2/12/06 10:10 PM 
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October Bliss
Beyond Obsession
Member since 8/05 7629 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/8/2006 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Country Gardens @ East Wind
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
Traditionally, the entire BP splits the cost with no help from MOB.
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Posted 2/12/06 10:15 PM
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sarahbelle
Old Married Lady
Member since 11/04 4160 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/8/2006 12:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Westbury Manor A++++
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
I think the MOH would splint the cost amongst the BP either with or without help from the MOB.
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Posted 2/12/06 10:21 PM
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BJandDan
Happily Married :)
Member since 6/05 4574 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/1/2006 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Westbury Manor- A+++
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
My response from BHB.....
I believe it depends on each person current situation and what they all agree on. Your shower is only one of the things they are involved financially for your wedding. No one is responsible for anything if they financially can't do it.
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Posted 2/12/06 10:22 PM
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MattsBride
Married over a year! Oh My!
Member since 11/05 2925 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/16/2006 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Galaxie Caterers
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
In my family the MOB always pays for the shower.
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Posted 2/12/06 10:24 PM
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evnme
Aloha!
Member since 6/05 9527 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/21/2006 4:00 PM
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
for my shower--MOB and MOG are splitting the cost.
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Posted 2/12/06 10:28 PM
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msnora
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Member since 2/06 802 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/23/2006 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Crowne Plaza Hotel JFK
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
For my shower the costs are being split between the MOB, MOH and BM's ....
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Posted 2/12/06 10:31 PM
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TheBigDay
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Member since 9/05 746 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/8/2006 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Done
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
I think traditionally the BP... when i was my friends maid of honor, the MOB and MOG gave us money to help..
but tradition these days is out the window with most things.. FH side of the list is mostly FH's mom's friends, if she insists on having all her friends invited it would be incredibly unfair for her to expect my BP to pay for them all w/o help.. not only that i know FMIL will expect top noch! soo.. i have made it clear to FH that his mother has to be fair to my BP financially.. either she invites what they can afford or she helps pay for what they can not.. i WILL NOT have my bridesmaids put out by FMIL wanting all her friends there.. i dont think it be an actual issue i know FMIL will help, but i wanted to make sure he understood the fairness if such an issue does arrise... Other than that, I think the BP MOB MOG tend to work that stuff out amongst themselves honestly... when i was MOH, i wanted to make sure all sides were involved.. it is their children... so i had tham all over for lunch with the BP to hang out and throw out ideas and stuff.. it was fun getting together behind the brides back  and everyone love it... (so i am told)...
Message edited 2/12/2006 10:38:00 PM.
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Posted 2/12/06 10:32 PM
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Goldi1021
Growing a miracle in my belly!
Member since 1/05 12772 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/18/2006 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Temple Avodah
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
My MOH organized it, but the expenses were split amongst by entire BP and family.
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Posted 2/12/06 10:39 PM
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milerose
WOW TWO YEARS ALREADY!
Member since 10/05 1641 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/16/2006 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Leonard's of Great Neck A-
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
My mom is throwing my shower. Not all people can do that but I know for a fact that she dosent want to ask my BM's for money. They aleady have to pay for dresses, shoes, hair, bachelorette party, etc.
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Posted 2/12/06 10:42 PM
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diggity10
One year!!!
Member since 2/05 1566 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/9/2006 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Westbury Manor
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
Posted by milerose
My mom is throwing my shower. Not all people can do that but I know for a fact that she dosent want to ask my BM's for money. They aleady have to pay for dresses, shoes, hair, bachelorette party, etc.
my mom feels the same way...
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Posted 2/12/06 11:31 PM
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AlliNMatt06
I'm Married!!!!!!!
Member since 8/04 2943 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/25/2006 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Hamlet Wind Watch A+++++++++
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
My mom and sister (MOH) are doing the bridal shower I am sure. None of my BM have much money, so I don't expect them to run the party.
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Posted 2/13/06 12:50 AM
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donofrio
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Member since 7/05 292 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/23/2006 2:00 PM
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
Posted by evnme
for my shower--MOB and MOG are splitting the cost.
Same here!
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Posted 2/13/06 7:31 AM
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I'm married!!!!!
Member since 8/05 1267 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/2/2006 12:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Flowerfield
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
I just did one.. and we all paid for it.......including the mother and her daughters...
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Posted 2/13/06 7:44 AM
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july06bride
Happy First Anniversary to Us!
Member since 12/04 7794 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/1/2006 2:45 PM
Wed. Location:
East Wind Estate
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
My mom is paying for mine and my MOH is one month before me and her mother is paying for hers, all I paid for were some prizes for games
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Posted 2/13/06 11:11 AM
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BEANS
It's An Obsession
Member since 12/04 4618 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/10/2006 12:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Crest Hollow-A++++++
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
Posted by diggity10
Posted by milerose
My mom is throwing my shower. Not all people can do that but I know for a fact that she dosent want to ask my BM's for money. They aleady have to pay for dresses, shoes, hair, bachelorette party, etc.
my mom feels the same way...
So does mine.
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Posted 2/13/06 11:16 AM
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M&S Sept12006
2 Years Down...
Member since 3/05 5843 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/1/2006 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Westbury Manor - A
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
My MOH is throwing my bachelorette party (in South Beach Miami) and therefore my mom is throwing my Bridal Shower...
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Posted 2/13/06 11:20 AM
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steflily
Officially a Baker!
Member since 11/04 1537 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/11/2006 3:15 PM
Wed. Location:
Bellport Country Club A++++
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
Traditionally, the MOB should not be involved in the shower since she is the host of the wedding. The BP hosts the shower. But things are different now. Hosts does not = pay for. I've been a BM 4x and the MOB helped each time. And I know that my mother contributed to my (cancelled  ) shower.
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Posted 2/13/06 11:25 AM
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seta
Can you get over yourself?
Member since 6/05 3927 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/21/2006 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Fox Hollow - N/A
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
Posted by BEANS
Posted by diggity10
Posted by milerose
My mom is throwing my shower. Not all people can do that but I know for a fact that she dosent want to ask my BM's for money. They aleady have to pay for dresses, shoes, hair, bachelorette party, etc.
my mom feels the same way...
So does mine.
Same here. I have been to about 10 showers in the past few years and I think the brides mom or bride/grooms mom paid for them.
I have also been in several BP's and was never expected to pay for the shower, just to contribute to a bigger shower gift.
I guess things vary from situation to situation, I also do not think there is any right or wrong answers. Years ago the brides parents paid for the entire wedding and the grooms parents bought furntiture....Times are changing...as are traditions!!!
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Posted 2/13/06 11:30 AM
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nicpizzo
I'm Married!!!!
Member since 1/04 1127 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/2/2006 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Estate at East Wind
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
Posted by milerose
My mom is throwing my shower. Not all people can do that but I know for a fact that she dosent want to ask my BM's for money. They aleady have to pay for dresses, shoes, hair, bachelorette party, etc.
My mom too, and that was her feeling with not asking for any help financially from the bridal party.
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Posted 2/13/06 12:20 PM
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kissy27
Sweet Memories
Member since 4/04 10934 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/31/2006 4:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Floral Terrace
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
Posted by nicpizzo
Posted by milerose
My mom is throwing my shower. Not all people can do that but I know for a fact that she dosent want to ask my BM's for money. They aleady have to pay for dresses, shoes, hair, bachelorette party, etc.
My mom too, and that was her feeling with not asking for any help financially from the bridal party.
this was the same for me...I know that my FSIL & SIL paid for the favors but that was their choice...My mom wanted to give them money...Plus my MOH made chocolate lollipops to go with the favors...My mom did not feel it was the responsiblity of the BP to pay
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Posted 2/13/06 12:22 PM
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sarahthegreat
sweet pea
Member since 11/03 6398 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/4/2006 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
stewart manor country club
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
these days, the rules do not apply. in my cars, the mob and mog are splitting the costs. my mom pays for her guests and fmil pays for hers. bp will get a gift and split costs on invites and such.
also when we planned my sisters shower, i asked for $$ from mob abd mog, who were more then happy to chip in.
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Posted 2/13/06 12:35 PM
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JCam695
Married my True Love
Member since 8/05 1479 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/24/2006 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
DeSeversky - B+
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
I know for mine, my mom and all of my BMs chipped in.
For other when I've been a BM, we all split and sometime the mom helped.
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Posted 2/13/06 1:19 PM
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suzybilly819
MARRIED
Member since 8/05 1323 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/15/2006 12:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Venetian Yacht club
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
I think it depends on the situation. In my family, the Mother of the Bride has hosted the shower. My aunt, who was the mother of the groom paid for the shower, I think it all depends on the financial situation of the parties. MOH and BP may not be able to afford to host a shower. On top of buying a dress, bach party, etc...
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Posted 2/13/06 1:24 PM
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serendipity0680
I'm a Mrs!!!
Member since 11/04 1943 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/8/2006 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
The Harbor Club - Huntington
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Re: bridal shower etiquette question...
Traditionally the entire BP splits the cost of the shower.
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Posted 2/13/06 1:32 PM
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