when should the shower be

my FH last night said to me that my moh better have my shower 3mos before the wedding. because he feels money wise it would be better for his family to spread out gifts....since i dont have a mother my moh(my cousin is handeling it) i feel rude telling her when to have it what do u think

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This is tough.....do you have any other BM? If you do, maybe you can talk to them as well.

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I think you could express your FH wishes to your MOH, she should understand as long as she hasn't booked anything yet. Just do it casually, say 'so FH and I were talking and he was kind of hoping that...' Or if FH and your MOH have a good relationship ask him to talk to her himself, that way you won't inadvertently find out anything that you don't want to. It seems like a reasonable request so I'm sure your MOH will understand, I mean, same goes for your side of the family as well.

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Usually I go to showers about a month or so before.

I am sure you could have it sooner, but you need to talk to your MOH. Tell her your concerns. She might already have plans in the works.

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thank u guys....ill try talking to her without sounding pushy

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mine will be 4 months ahead...my FMIL ruined the surprise.

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it should be 1 month or earlier before the wedding. Most showers are like 2-3 months before. I am just waiting for mine to happen.

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Most showers I have been to have been about 3-4 mos before on average.

It's kind of nice for you in a way too to have it then because closer to your wedding date you will have so much other stuff that you need to do!

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Your FH should casually bring it up with your MOH have you started planning the shower yet and just mention his concerns.

Regarding spreading the gifts out FH family knows there is going to be a shower so can't they just buy the presents before hand and hang on to them. Just make sure you register really early if you aren't registered already.

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mine is March 26 and my wedding date is May 5.....about 6 weeks.

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If FH wants it to be at a specific time, then he should be the one to say something. You as the bride - stay out of it.

Advice from someone who has been the person responsible for planning a shower.

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I don't know when mine will be, one of my sisters' is having a baby so everyone is planning her shower at the moment. I am so strapped for cash because of the wedding I don't know how much money I can contribute. I already mention that to my mom and other sister. Lets just say I didn't get the respond I was looking for.


Ask your FH to talk to your MOH.

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yeah i we are already registered and i already gave her a list of names and addresses of everyone that needs to be invited...so ill tellFH to talk to her

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Posted by October Bliss

If FH wants it to be at a specific time, then he should be the one to say something. You as the bride - stay out of it.

Advice from someone who has been the person responsible for planning a shower.

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BINGO!

I had no idea about anything with my showers....that's the way it should be!

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well I am at my 3 month mark and nothing yet....