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vinnysgrl
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Member since 2/06 927 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/8/2006 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
swan club
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when should the shower be
my FH last night said to me that my moh better have my shower 3mos before the wedding. because he feels money wise it would be better for his family to spread out gifts....since i dont have a mother my moh(my cousin is handeling it) i feel rude telling her when to have it what do u think
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Posted 2/17/06 10:51 AM 
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pigs222seal
Getting ready for the summer!!
Member since 2/05 2147 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/10/2006 11:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Westbury, NY
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Re: when should the shower be
This is tough.....do you have any other BM? If you do, maybe you can talk to them as well.
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Posted 2/17/06 10:56 AM
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cindyandkevin
To have and to hold
Member since 2/05 21575 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/10/2006 5:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Stonebridge Country Club
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Re: when should the shower be
I think you could express your FH wishes to your MOH, she should understand as long as she hasn't booked anything yet. Just do it casually, say "so FH and I were talking and he was kind of hoping that..." Or if FH and your MOH have a good relationship ask him to talk to her himself, that way you won't inadvertently find out anything that you don't want to. It seems like a reasonable request so I'm sure your MOH will understand, I mean, same goes for your side of the family as well. 
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Posted 2/17/06 11:02 AM
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AlliNMatt06
I'm Married!!!!!!!
Member since 8/04 2943 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/25/2006 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Hamlet Wind Watch A+++++++++
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Re: when should the shower be
Usually I go to showers about a month or so before.
I am sure you could have it sooner, but you need to talk to your MOH. Tell her your concerns. She might already have plans in the works.
Message edited 2/17/2006 11:06:28 AM.
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Posted 2/17/06 11:04 AM
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vinnysgrl
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Member since 2/06 927 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/8/2006 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
swan club
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Re: when should the shower be
thank u guys....ill try talking to her without sounding pushy
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Posted 2/17/06 11:18 AM
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R&J0806
I have the greatest husband!
Member since 9/05 1620 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/6/2006 11:15 AM
Wed. Location:
Fox Hollow
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Re: when should the shower be
mine will be 4 months ahead...my FMIL ruined the surprise.
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Posted 2/17/06 12:25 PM
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cantwait2bewed
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 11/04 2587 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/29/2006 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Majestic Gardens
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Re: when should the shower be
it should be 1 month or earlier before the wedding. Most showers are like 2-3 months before. I am just waiting for mine to happen.
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Posted 2/17/06 12:27 PM
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ali120206
Over a year!
Member since 10/05 4386 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/2/2006 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Hyatt Windwatch
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Re: when should the shower be
Most showers I have been to have been about 3-4 mos before on average.
It's kind of nice for you in a way too to have it then because closer to your wedding date you will have so much other stuff that you need to do!
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Posted 2/17/06 1:31 PM
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reenielady
Happiness is Bliss
Member since 12/05 1117 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/28/2006 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Woodbury Country Club
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Re: when should the shower be
Your FH should casually bring it up with your MOH have you started planning the shower yet and just mention his concerns.
Regarding spreading the gifts out FH family knows there is going to be a shower so can't they just buy the presents before hand and hang on to them. Just make sure you register really early if you aren't registered already.
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Posted 2/17/06 1:36 PM
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LMFitz
Baby The Dog!!
Member since 10/04 1501 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/5/2006 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Crescent Beach Club
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Re: when should the shower be
mine is March 26 and my wedding date is May 5.....about 6 weeks.
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Posted 2/17/06 1:38 PM
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October Bliss
Beyond Obsession
Member since 8/05 7629 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/8/2006 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Country Gardens @ East Wind
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Re: when should the shower be
If FH wants it to be at a specific time, then he should be the one to say something. You as the bride - stay out of it.
Advice from someone who has been the person responsible for planning a shower.
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Posted 2/17/06 1:40 PM
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autumn
Good bye 06 board its been fun
Member since 10/04 3126 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/7/2006 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Majestic Gardens A++++
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Re: when should the shower be
I don't know when mine will be, one of my sisters' is having a baby so everyone is planning her shower at the moment. I am so strapped for cash because of the wedding I don't know how much money I can contribute. I already mention that to my mom and other sister. Lets just say I didn't get the respond I was looking for.
Ask your FH to talk to your MOH.
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Posted 2/17/06 2:12 PM
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vinnysgrl
Board Fanatic
Member since 2/06 927 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/8/2006 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
swan club
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Re: when should the shower be
yeah i we are already registered and i already gave her a list of names and addresses of everyone that needs to be invited...so ill tellFH to talk to her
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Posted 2/17/06 2:33 PM
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leese
Sweet Married Kisses
Member since 11/04 4773 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/25/2006 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Floral Terrace, Floral Park
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Re: when should the shower be
Posted by October Bliss
If FH wants it to be at a specific time, then he should be the one to say something. You as the bride - stay out of it.
Advice from someone who has been the person responsible for planning a shower.
BINGO!
I had no idea about anything with my showers....that's the way it should be!
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Posted 2/17/06 3:02 PM
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hsacks23r
I was a fun bride
Member since 1/05 6086 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/13/2006 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Three Village Inn
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Re: when should the shower be
well I am at my 3 month mark and nothing yet....
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Posted 2/17/06 3:47 PM
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