Catholic Brides question

Are you able to say your own vows at the church?
Are you having full mass?

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i believe you can........im not having a full mass....

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From what I understand your vows are the Catholic Church standard vows. You cannot write your own. But, you might want to double check with your priest on this one, perhaps there are slight variations??? I know for a fact however, you cannot aid things like 'I promise to always make your favorite dinner and walk the dog' type of things... LOL They also will guide you on the readings and the psalm....

Also, I am having the full Mass.... wouldn't have it any other way. A good friend is playing the organ, another is cantoring, FH's friend is a priest and is marrying us, my friend's son is our altar boy and friends of mine will be the eucharistic ministers. In fact, it really is the Mass that I am most looking forward to on my wedding day.

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No mass for us, just ceremony. As far as vows are concerned, we're doing the traditional vows, and then Darren will be saying his own vows to my son Lucas, as well as an exchange of rings. Our church allows this! I know it's going to be beautiful

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Posted by enjft

Are you able to say your own vows at the church?
Are you having full mass?

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I am Catholic so I have many friends who have been married in church. A full mass takes about 45 mins to 1 hr. No mass is like 20-30mins. I think both bride and groom have to be catholic for a full mass (??). Some said their own vows or stayed with the traditional vows. My sister went to pre-cana and she got a book with different variations on the traditional vows, but her DH wanted to write his own. I have had friends who were not allowed to change anything at all, so it depends on the church you attend. My pastor is pretty flexible.

Hope that helps
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My friend recently got married .. . and her church mader her say the traditional vows, and then after that - they had their own. I dont know if im doing that

I will be having a full mass.

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I am not having a full mass, but I am sure it wouldn't be a problem to say our own vows..

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I'm having a full mass and I'm thinking you would have to stick w/the traditional Catholic vows.

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I'm not sure about the vow thing, but I'm not; I wouldn't be able to get it out, I'm way too emotional

At first we were going to have just a ceremony, but changed it to a full mass

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i asked our priest and they said we can't change the vows they are the standard.. he did say that we could add soemthing after we say the traditional vows.

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I think I would be too nervous to try and say my own vows, and FH agrees with me, So we're going to stick with traditional vows. We're also going to have a full mass.

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i dont think you can say your own vows in the catholic church. i am having a full mass - but you can just have the ceremony if you like.

call your church and ask - they will be able to tell you.

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I'm having a full mass and taking traditional vows. I think there are 2 sets of traditional vows to choose from.

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My FH is not Catholic - but we will be having a full mass and saying the standard vows. I would be too nervous to have to say my own.

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We are saying the traditional vows. We are not having a full mass, just a ceremony.

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Posted by Caligirl

I'm not sure about the vow thing, but I'm not; I wouldn't be able to get it out, I'm way too emotional

At first we were going to have just a ceremony, but changed it to a full mass

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Just kidding Daphny.... I can't wait to see u....

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Traditional vow...we are not that creative anyways.

And yup..you guessed it , full mass.....as I've said before and I'll say again...

Kneel, Sit, Kneel, Sit, Stand, Kneel, Sit, Kneel, Stand and then get drunk

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You can write your own vows... I just had my last night of pre cana last night and we went over that... unless it differs from church to church. We're using the standard vows.. i'll be way too nervous to deal with that haha... We're not having a full mass... just the wedding ceremony.

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The vows don't vary much from the traditional vows...I think they took out obey but basically you have to say their vows...Sometimes if you have a good relationship with your priest they will let you say your own. AS far as a full mass I'm not having one being that FH is not Catholic but the only aspect missing form a full mass and the cermony is the communion.... Everything else is done its like 45 minutes.

Both me and FH felt that people are there to see us get married not really to attend a church service so we wanted it this way anyway.

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we're not having a full mass b/c its on a sunday....but we would like to say our own vows after the traditional.....