bridal shower HELP

question--who gets invited to the shower?
My mom needs help!

FH has a HUGE family so by the time all the women are invited & my tiny family is its over 50 then a few co workers its 75

Is it ok not to invite every woman??? such as parents friends wives...

thanks!

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I did not invite every woman from the guest list. I invited immediate family, closest friends and told FMIL to feel free to add people to the list. I think 30 were invited total.

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ok great thanks!!

anyone else do this too?

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i won't invite all the women. i think bridal showers should be more intimate than weddings. my sisters all invited only close friends and close family members, and I think I will do the same. prob wouldn't hit more than 30 people.

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ok so what about your registry? Usually from my understanding you put registry cards in for the bridal shower

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I am far away from my bridal shower, so I don't really know too much about it. But if it's a surprise, wouldn't it be up to the person who is throwing the party to determine how many is a good number?

But if you are involved in planning it, then I would say it's def OK to cut some people (even though I am sure that is hard). If money is tight, maybe just keep it to family and close friends. If you don't hang out with co-workers outside of work, maybe they can be cut (especially if they are going to be invited to the wedding). HTH

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yes it is a surprise but I need to give a guest list...

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i only gave my moh a guest list of 35, and only about 25 came, which was perfect for me because i liked how intimate it was.

i believe etiquette says you don't have to invite everyone on your wedding guest list, but everyone on your shower guest list should be invited to your wedding.

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Posted by breezy1120

yes it is a surprise but I need to give a guest list...

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Hmmmmm.

Well maybe you can make the list and designate 'must invites' (family, close friends, etc) and 'if there's room invites' (co-workers, aquaintances, etc. Then whoever the official hostess if for your shower can make the decision based on money, room, or whatever.

That might take some of the pressure off of you (because we all know us can use a break!!!!!!!)

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also wanted to add...

i didn't invite coworkers on my guest list, our office usually throws showers/parties for ppl so i am hoping i'll have a shower thrown at work closer to the actual wedding

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Posted by Mayflower

also wanted to add...

i didn't invite coworkers on my guest list, our office usually throws showers/parties for ppl so i am hoping i'll have a shower thrown at work closer to the actual wedding

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I agree on that one!!! My job does the same thing, so more than likely when the time comes my co-workers won't be invited.