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Out with some friends talking about wedding stuff (a friend of mine just got engaged as well) and a friend of a friend made a comment that people who get $$$ from their parents are spoiled. When I asked her why she made this comment, she said that they aren't living as adult life. They still have Mommy and Daddy paying for them. That its better when the FH and you do it all on your own. I told her that my FIL's are helping with some of the process but FH and I are putting together as well. That she shouldnt make general statements like that. I left her alone and didnt take the conversation any further, I knew we would get into an argument. I think at the time she just didnt want us talking about wedding things anymore. Which is fine, but no need to make comments to offend anyone.
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Thats crazy. I am not getting the help but I think there is nothing wrong if the parents help out.

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How Rude!! I would invite anyone who wants to give me money to come on down. This does not make me spoiled. Some people need to think before they speak.

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Your friend really shoudnt make those comments but lets face it financial brudens can be tough. If your friend has to pay her own way for everything because her parents cannot help or choose not to then its obviously hard for her. She prob. is just trying to make herself feel better since shes the one who has to stress about finances.

Her general statements are a little uncalled for. However, I know a few women who get everything they want and need on a silver platter and honestly I do think that the people I know have no idea what the real world is like because they never have to worry about anything.

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Oh and so I dont get bashed I have to stress that I am not saying its a bad thing when parents help or pay for the wedding.

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Where i come from the parents are OBLIGATED to throw their childrens weddings!!!!
Everyone is entitled to thier opinions howvere when it comes to offending someone....kepp it to urself
Im getting a ton of help form both sides..his fam and my fam.
My dad is paying for allt he hall expenses and throwing us an E-party..i work my a$$ off everyday from 6.30-7 am to 6.30at night..u show me one spolied kid that does that..oh did i forget to mention that my pay is like petty cash?!?!

ur freind made me

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And let me say another thing lol
Some posts on here shock me. Some posts are just so unreal and they sound like they are coming from the most spoiled people on earth. I think a lot of people need to realize that money and 'things' do not buy happiness.

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Posted by prettyprincess07

Out with some friends talking about wedding stuff (a friend of mine just got engaged as well) and a friend of a friend made a comment that people who get $$$ from their parents are spoiled. When I asked her why she made this comment, she said that they aren't living as adult life. They still have Mommy and Daddy paying for them. That its better when the FH and you do it all on your own. I told her that my FIL's are helping with some of the process but FH and I are putting together as well. That she shouldnt make general statements like that. I left her alone and didnt take the conversation any further, I knew we would get into an argument. I think at the time she just didnt want us talking about wedding things anymore. Which is fine, but no need to make comments to offend anyone.
What do you think?

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Hold on ,, Im 35 & so is FH,, Let me tell u , we both work great jobs & do well for ourselves,.. but once u get engaged & are planning a wedding all that money goes out the door its like working for free almost , Who get this deposit ,how much is that deposit, . $500 here $1000 there,,
So if my mom , or dad wanna help out , Be my guest ,, please,,,, Help,,,

So tell your friend , or whoever said that , wait till she gets deeper into planning,,

& One more thing,, Even if we all had the money to pay for it all on our own, I know that most out parents have waited long for this day for us. So if they wanna do something to help pay , thats a honor to most,,


Hmmm,,, Yea What I said,,




edited to add,, sorry i dont mean to come across like a crazy woman , but it just made me mad when i saw what she said to you. .. esepcially when we are all struggling to make a nice wedding for ourselves,,

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FH & I are paying for the entire wedding BUT I would gladly take $$$ from anyone who offered it, including our parents!!!

That's a ridiculous comment. It sounds like she is jeaouls.

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that's just ignorant. a lot of people dont realize how much it costs to plan a wedding - so maybe that's where her comment came from... I WISH 'mommy and daddy' were paying or helping...

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Posted by lilqtpie2181

Where i come from the parents are OBLIGATED to throw their childrens weddings!!!!

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I have to agree with this - and I have been called spolied by a few people- who are obviously just jealous IMO

but weddings, college and a car were all things that MY parents felt were there responsibliy- does that make me spoiled? to some people yes- on Long Island I feel like it makes me average- sorry if you don't agree

I don't ask my Dad to buy me a new purse- he would die of laughter- but he does help me out along the way-

there is a big difference between parents paying for a wedding and parents giving you money to live off of

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OK- her saying it is better to pay for it yourself is true for the simple fact it's your money and you spend it on the things you want. when people arepaying they can and are going to give their 2 cents.

me personally I think this girl is jealous because you have family helping you and she may not
she prob feels why is she paying for her wedding herself and everyone gets help ..

on the other hand dh and i paid for our OWN wedding. A lot and i mean a lot of money went into it . our parents did help us with little things and we took their offer lol .

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Posted by Beth1210

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Posted by lilqtpie2181

Where i come from the parents are OBLIGATED to throw their childrens weddings!!!!

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I have to agree with this - and I have been called spolied by a few people- who are obviously just jealous IMO

but weddings, college and a car were all things that MY parents felt were there responsibliy- does that make me spoiled? to some people yes- on Long Island I feel like it makes me average- sorry if you don't agree

I don't ask my Dad to buy me a new purse- he would die of laughter- but he does help me out along the way-

there is a big difference between parents paying for a wedding and parents giving you money to live off of

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YES!!!!My thought exatly. my parents have not oaid a bill of mine since I was 14... Since i always had a job i always paid my own way.. weather it was clothes or a cell phone, even a car and ins.
In college they paid tuition and i payed for books and that always costed me like 2k...grr...
BUT... doctors and serious issues my parents felt like he is obligated to help!!! call me spoiled if u want but....i know I have busted my butt even though i was told I dont have to.

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Posted by lilqtpie2181

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Posted by Beth1210

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Posted by lilqtpie2181

Where i come from the parents are OBLIGATED to throw their childrens weddings!!!!

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I have to agree with this - and I have been called spolied by a few people- who are obviously just jealous IMO

but weddings, college and a car were all things that MY parents felt were there responsibliy- does that make me spoiled? to some people yes- on Long Island I feel like it makes me average- sorry if you don't agree

I don't ask my Dad to buy me a new purse- he would die of laughter- but he does help me out along the way-

there is a big difference between parents paying for a wedding and parents giving you money to live off of

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YES!!!!My thought exatly. my parents have not oaid a bill of mine since I was 14... Since i always had a job i always paid my own way.. weather it was clothes or a cell phone, even a car and ins.
In college they paid tuition and i payed for books and that always costed me like 2k...grr...
BUT... doctors and serious issues my parents felt like he is obligated to help!!! call me spoiled if u want but....i know I have busted my butt even though i was told I dont have to.

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I agree with your point. I had to make it on my own since I decided not to follow my family's religion. Seeing how FH's family is so supportive and want to help make a special day even Happier than we can imagine. I don't feel spoiled. I feel privilaged that they care enough about us to want to help. Since I am not their blood family and they have loved me as their own from when he and Istarted dating-

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Posted by Dom n Nic

OK- her saying it is better to pay for it yourself is true for the simple fact it's your money and you spend it on the things you want. when people arepaying they can and are going to give their 2 cents.

me personally I think this girl is jealous because you have family helping you and she may not
she prob feels why is she paying for her wedding herself and everyone gets help ..

on the other hand dh and i paid for our OWN wedding. A lot and i mean a lot of money went into it . our parents did help us with little things and we took their offer lol .

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every family is different- my DH parents are the opposite of mine- and I see how hard that has been for him

My dad likes to help me with things- he feels like if he gives me certain things it will help me to succed in life

he supports me in all my decessions- from my wedding to my career choices- emotionally and finacnically if I need it

I feel that I am lucky to have such a great support system

even though my Dad doesn't ask questions if I need to borrow money or something- it still kills me to ask- I try to do everything on my own

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Posted by Beth1210

every family is different- my DH parents are the opposite of mine- and I see how hard that has been for him

My dad likes to help me with things- he feels like if he gives me certain things it will help me to succed in life

he supports me in all my decessions- from my wedding to my career choices- emotionally and finacnically if I need it

I feel that I am lucky to have such a great support system

even though my Dad doesn't ask questions if I need to borrow money or something- it still kills me to ask- I try to do everything on my own

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I agree 100%,, My mom is paying for my dress, bought the favors for the e party & wedding, & out & about shopping for things for both wedding & e party,, I always say how much, & she says 'FUHGEDDABOUDIT' i wish i could do more,,

im the only daughter , so i think that has alot to do with it to,,

that girl is way way jealous

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Posted by bella11

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Posted by Dom n Nic

OK- her saying it is better to pay for it yourself is true for the simple fact it's your money and you spend it on the things you want. when people arepaying they can and are going to give their 2 cents.

me personally I think this girl is jealous because you have family helping you and she may not
she prob feels why is she paying for her wedding herself and everyone gets help ..

on the other hand dh and i paid for our OWN wedding. A lot and i mean a lot of money went into it . our parents did help us with little things and we took their offer lol .

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, they helped with little things?????
Nic...you got your entire apt furnished, a VERY generous gift from both set of parents and even more after the wedding....The amount they spent on you and Dom is more than some parents contribute towards weddings....

Go feed LMNOP!!!!!

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the aftermath was all paid for lol
the actaully wedding no lol
i didnt get lmnop yet lol
after work

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Posted by Dom n Nic

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Posted by bella11

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Posted by Dom n Nic

OK- her saying it is better to pay for it yourself is true for the simple fact it's your money and you spend it on the things you want. when people arepaying they can and are going to give their 2 cents.

me personally I think this girl is jealous because you have family helping you and she may not
she prob feels why is she paying for her wedding herself and everyone gets help ..

on the other hand dh and i paid for our OWN wedding. A lot and i mean a lot of money went into it . our parents did help us with little things and we took their offer lol .

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, they helped with little things?????
Nic...you got your entire apt furnished, a VERY generous gift from both set of parents and even more after the wedding....The amount they spent on you and Dom is more than some parents contribute towards weddings....

Go feed LMNOP!!!!!

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the aftermath was all paid for lol
the actaully wedding no lol
i didnt get lmnop yet lol
after work

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