Repost BHB: Some people are rude & weird...(kind of long)

One of my good friends at work is getting married in September. When I went out with her and her sister one day, her sister told me she planned her bridal shower the day of my wedding w/out knowing. She said she couldnt change the date but the shower starts at 12:00 and my friend would definetely make it to the reception.

Rewind a little: My friend is dating a nice guy but his family is a little bizarre. They are big on 'family gatherings' and birthdays which is great, but my friend finds it a little odd. Her boyfriend also has a hard time saying no to his family. It just so happens my friends fiancee's birthday is on my wedding day also the day of my friends shower.

Fast forward: About a week after I hung out with my friend and her sister, her sister e-mailed me to tell me that although my friend replied yes to my wedding, her fiancee's family made plans to have birthday cake with him after her bridal shower (aka...the night of my wedding) and they would not be attending. She was only the messenger. My friend's fiancee asked her to contact me. Can we say ******* *******? He is 30 and he knows his girlfriend has been looking forward to my wedding for a year and a half and he can't have his b-day the next day, he has to have it the night of my wedding? Besides, she cant stand all his family gatherings and obligations they have. And even if my wedding wasn't that night, she wouldnt want to hang out with his family after her bridal shower. She would want to go through all her gifts.

So, another friend of ours from work and I were discussing this. She also said there is no way my friend is going to miss my wedding for a birthday cake. She even planned a surprise party for him around my wedding day. And she is going to miss it for a ******* birthday cake. So I e-mailed her sister tonight and told her that I am going to count them, that I think it is unfair of my friends fiancee, and that in my honest opinion (and she knows I am right) there is no way my friend (who is 33 & obviously mature) is going to miss my wedding to have a birthday cake for her boyfriend (who is 30).

Does anyone else think this is ******* bizarre? I know my friend is going to flip a lid when after the shower she thinks she has to get ready for my wedding and he says, 'no honey, we're going to go to my parents house for b-day cake.' What an *******!