Not feeling happiness from vip's re: wedding.

this is mostly a rant.

i feel like my family couldn't really care less about the wedding. my mom has done nothing but given me pure grief, although she's been pushing for me to get married for a long time now. and they both like fh, so it's not that they're not happy about that.

but i haven't really seen much joy from them. i can barely speak to my mom b/c she's either in a bad mood and speaks with an attitude or she sounds disinterested in anything i have to say - this is even before the wedding.

they said if we got married in 2007 that they would help us with the payments. fh and i have already put down about $4,000 in deposits/payments and i've yet to seriously see anything or hear anything regarding my parents helping pay. this really isn't about the money at all. it's just one of the many things.

fh and i CANNOT pay for the wedding if they do not help us, but i don't like asking for money and even worse now with my mom's mood. she wants me to include her in EVERYTHING, but then doesn't really show any happiness, excitement, or interest when i do try to talk about the wedding.

i asked my bro if he wanted to be an usher and he sounded annoyed. bro and i get along pretty well and i was surprised at his reaction (maybe b/c he really knows NOTHING about weddings), but i wish that my family would just be excited, interested, or happy with me at this time.

part of me wishes the wedding would just get here so that i wouldn't feel so disappointed and sad about all the planning.

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talk to them about how u feel.....and if things don't change don't get sad about planning....talk to ur friends....have them share in ur excitement

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You need to not let your family get to you and be happy for yourself....I am going thru something similar me and my bro don't talk at all anymore for about 5-6 months and he does not want to be in the wedding party anymore...and other fam crap is going on so I can relate....I just don't let them bother me...my parents are not really involved I must say I am the only one involved, but I can't and I don't let it get me down...This is about you and FH cheer up and forget everyone else...make your appointments and etc and ask your mom if she wants to come along if she says no or I am tired (something my mom says) say ok I was just asking becuase you said you wanted to do things with me...remind her so she can't complain but try not to get upset people are who they are some are just that way, and some people that are unhappy want others to be unhappy too....regardless of what it is this is a time of happiness for you enjoy the planning and just brush off those that are runing it for you.

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you shou sit down with your parents and discuss this with them.

This is suppossed to be the happiest time of your life, maybe that would help

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I felt the same way - in fact my parents only got excited about a month before the wedding. It was sort of depressing to come on this site and see so many posts about bridal showers (I had to plan my own) and BMs helping with dress shopping and DIY items. In rerospect, I wish that I had more help and support from my family and bridal party but I am even prouder of the outcome because I didn't have their support. My wedding turned out beautifully and it was because I cared and put the work into it.

Everything will work out. I was so proud of myself on my wedding day b/c I looked around and saw everyone having a good time and I knew that I did that. No one else but ME.

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this was my philosphy on the whole paying deal... if you have guests that you invited, you need to pay... no $, no guests. everyone goes through this types of things during the planning, I swear that's why everyone says the wedding day is the happiest day of their life, you're just happy the planning is done!

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I'm sorry everyone is not acting more excited about your wedding. That stinks! Maybe they are worried about the financial part of it? I would talk to them and tell them how you are feeling otherwise they will continue to give you grief.

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you have FM

Re: Not feeling happiness from vip's re: wedding.