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What do you say when friends ask about prices?
dante31300 Posted: Oct 11, 2006 10:26 AM+
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What do you say when friends ask about prices?

It seems like there is no discretion these days everytime I say I am at viewing a RH my friends ask how much they are charging per person. Since when are these questions appropriate? How do you tell someone in a nice way that it is none of their business?
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thelastresort Posted: Oct 11, 2006 10:30 AM+
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Re: What do you say when friends ask about prices?

If it really bothers you, just say you can't recall off hand.
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ChrissynRicky Posted: Oct 11, 2006 10:30 AM+
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Re: What do you say when friends ask about prices?

I personally didn't care if people asked me how much....so I always answered them honestly.

For your situation - I guess the best way of answering would be saying something along the lines of 'I'm not really comfortable discussing that.'
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Kara and Todd Posted: Oct 11, 2006 10:36 AM+
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Re: What do you say when friends ask about prices?

'I'd rather not talk about it.'

Or, for those with senses of humor, 'Why? Would you like to contribute?'

I really understand the annoyance at such personal questions. After I got my job right out of law school, I cannot tell you how many people asked me how much money I was making!

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soon2bmrsdunn Posted: Oct 11, 2006 10:39 AM+
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Re: What do you say when friends ask about prices?


Posted by ChrissynRicky

I personally didn't care if people asked me how much....so I always answered them honestly.

For your situation - I guess the best way of answering would be saying something along the lines of 'I'm not really comfortable discussing that.'

I feel the same way. I amswer honestly.
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neener1211 Posted: Oct 11, 2006 10:41 AM+
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Re: What do you say when friends ask about prices?


Posted by Kara and Todd

'I'd rather not talk about it.'

Or, for those with senses of humor, 'Why? Would you like to contribute?'

I really understand the annoyance at such personal questions. After I got my job right out of law school, I cannot tell you how many people asked me how much money I was making!




I answer the exact same way...'Why? Would you like to contribute?' That usually gets them laughing and off the topic...
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laural2979 Posted: Oct 11, 2006 10:43 AM+
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Re: What do you say when friends ask about prices?

Talking about prices really doesn't bother me. It could be that the people who are asking you feel the same way that I do. Why don't you just tell them that you don't feel comfortable talking about it?
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GabrielleandJohn Posted: Oct 11, 2006 10:45 AM+
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Re: What do you say when friends ask about prices?

I understand both answers. Although I never share my salary with anyone other then my headhunter and don't feel that is an appropiate question to ask anyone but the president (his salary is public info) I don't feel uncomfortable sharing hall costs.

I tell people because, well they ask and they may be shopping around for a friend. Luckily ppl don't ask about my hall too much but when they do I tell them. Mostly they ask about the more popular halls that I looked at before choosing mine.
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Trishthedish Posted: Oct 11, 2006 10:58 AM+
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Re: What do you say when friends ask about prices?


Posted by soon2bmrsdunn


Posted by ChrissynRicky

I personally didn't care if people asked me how much....so I always answered them honestly.

For your situation - I guess the best way of answering would be saying something along the lines of 'I'm not really comfortable discussing that.'

I feel the same way. I amswer honestly.



I agree with this too.
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jenn122397 Posted: Oct 11, 2006 10:58 AM+
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Re: What do you say when friends ask about prices?

If a close friend asks me i dont get upset - if a stranger or someone i dont really know that well i feel that it is tacky.

Like for example, one day we went to a BBQ and this guy we just met is like oooo tell me how much your paying - tell me tell me cuz i guarantee i can get it for cheaper because i kno someone there bla bla bla little does he know that my family is good friends with someone at a much higher level than his 'so called' friend. I just thought it was really rude
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nbc188 Posted: Oct 11, 2006 10:59 AM+
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Re: What do you say when friends ask about prices?

If it's someone I didn't mind sharing the info with, I told them (or at least a ballpark #). Anyone else, I would tell them you'd rather not say. It's none of their business!
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OrangeGrl Posted: Oct 11, 2006 11:06 AM+
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Re: What do you say when friends ask about prices?

I think it is a little rude no matter who is asking. I usually just say 'Oh we got a good price, more than I thought but totally worth it' That usually makes them realize I don't want to tell them. If they still ask I go with 'Millions, hahaha wanna help pay?' Then they let off. The only people that know what we are paying are my FH, his mom and dad, my mom and dad and me...that's the only people who should know!
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CKJ906 Posted: Oct 11, 2006 11:09 AM+
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Re: What do you say when friends ask about prices?

I told them, I really didn't care.
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soon2bcopswife Posted: Oct 11, 2006 11:13 AM+
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Re: What do you say when friends ask about prices?

I didn't really care at all. People were usually asking more so because they were so amazed at how expensive a wedding can be.
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DanNette Posted: Oct 11, 2006 11:17 AM+
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Re: What do you say when friends ask about prices?

Only really close friends have asked and those people I don't mind telling, but when others ask, I just laugh and say, 'Oooh enough!' Then change the topic! Then is they are persistant I just say well under $200.00 that leaves a big enough range to just leave them confused.
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angnick Posted: Oct 11, 2006 03:06 PM+
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Re: What do you say when friends ask about prices?

i'm pretty honest with most people.

most people who asked were girls who were looking for a hall.

some others asked because i think they were trying to figure out how much to give! LOL

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MJDoc12 Posted: Oct 11, 2006 03:12 PM+
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Re: What do you say when friends ask about prices?

i either say 'not comfortable talking about $$'

or if they are close friends...i give them a ballpark figure

what's sad is i think some ppl ask...so they can make sure they 'cover' their plate. my brother asked me this and actually SAID that was why he wanted to know.

i told him we're paying $500 per person. Bwuahahaah!
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Fall07Bride Posted: Oct 11, 2006 03:15 PM+
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Re: What do you say when friends ask about prices?

i think a lot of friends ask b/c they arent married yet and currious and other just want to know how much they should give you as a gift!

for the ones that are being nosey - just make up something!
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EGreene79 Posted: Oct 11, 2006 03:25 PM+
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Re: What do you say when friends ask about prices?

It depends on the person - I have a few friends that I'm very frank with about money, but it's usually the ones that have similar financial situations. Other's I'm more vague.

I have one friend that gets really upset when we talk about money and thinks it's very inappropriate, so I try to limit the conversations around her. Especially when people start asking what to give as gifts - it makes her very uncomfortable. I've told her to just tell people she's not comfortable discussing money.
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Kerrycec Posted: Oct 11, 2006 03:31 PM+
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Re: What do you say when friends ask about prices?

it didn't bother me, but honestly, I only got around 5 folks who asks me that. I was 100% open on liweddings though. Anything to help each other out
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