How are you deciding when the 'right' time to TTC is?

Just curious how others are judging this.
Although I wish I could start right away I also want a bit of 'alone' time with my almost-new husband. I think we need to find our home first and get settled, recoup some of the savings we are spending on the wedding and then TTC. But in all honestly there will probably never be a perfect time anyway. We can always use more money in the bank, more time to travel together, a better job that is family-friendly. I am just curious how and why you decided when the right time was.

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Michele, I agree with you that there is no perfect time. One of the reasons DH and I got married was to have children. I think we both felt that we've had a lot of alone time, since we lived together for 4 years before being married. We weren't in debt after our wedding, but like you, we had to start saving again. We know that in order to have a large sum of money for a downpayment on a house, it would be almost 5 years, and we didn't want to wait that long. So, we're going to buy a larger co-op, we started looking and hopefully will be moving before the baby comes in June!
Edited to say that finishing my education was also a deciding factor, I finished my Master's last year, and that made me feel like I was ready to TTC.

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Every couple is different. Some people say that they will TTC when they get ahead financially. It's different with everyone. You will never be financially ready. Things always come up.Decide whats best for the two of you.

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I agree Sue. I am just curious how people decide that's all.

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Michele, I think it would be a good idea to try to save up a little bit after all the wedding and honeymoon expense. I don't think people should put it off too long because you'll never feel like you're ever really financially ahead. Expenses will always come up. You could sit down together and see what bills you have to cover each month.

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I would like to know how you decide to have them in the first place.
I don't know if I will ever be ready to change my life in such a dramatic way.
24/7 for 20 years is overwhelming to me.
The biggest responbility you can consider.

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I don't think we'll ever be financially 'ready'! But we'd love to get a house first, and get somewhat settled before a baby comes along.....I don't want to wait too long though!

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The clock is about to strike midnight.
Thats what made us decide that its now or never

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My suggestion is that before you decide to wait or seize the moment, visit your doctor and discuss it with her/him. Sometimes there are situations that give new food for thought.

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we are now thinking waiting until I get tenure at my school. But it seems so far away. But we decided, we would like to do more things around the house first, before having a baby.

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We are waiting until the summer to TTC. That will give us a bit of time together and hopefully we will find a house by then. And we will never 'enough' money in the bank, etc....we already know that.

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We are waiting about 3 - 4 years (atleast that's what we think right now). The reasons being:
We are in the process of closing on a house. So that's step 1. But we want some 'alone' time to not worry and enjoy each other. I want to finish up my masters and continue to establish my career.
When the kids do come, I hope to work part-time, and still live comfortably on DH's salary. Also, I'm 26, so I'm not really worried about a 'clock' ticking (DH is 32). He doesn't mind having children a little later in his life and I would like to be pregnant by the time I'm 30. But that's because I married at 26. Everyone's situation is different!

Good Luck with whatever you decide

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ok, i know that you are talking about when is the right time to have kids... but, and i know this is stupid... what does TTC stand for...

by the way, i am 31 my husband is 32, and we just got married.. i want to wait a little while.. husband wants them now.. but i don't think he realizes the change of life it will create.. i see what my friends go through, and while i want them, i want to just relax for a bit, and kinda get things in order as much as possible.. i don't want to wait too long.. becuase as my doctor says.. 31 is the age you want to start having these kids..LOL.... can you imagine.. i still FEEL like a kid.. now i am supposed to have them.. OMG!!!

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TTC means 'trying to conceive.'

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I'm with you tami - I am 31 and 10 months :) And I still don't feel like an adult. DH wants kids right away, (he is 29) but I said no way, that I will ttc in a year maybe, but not now. I am just not ready yet - I like my freedom, selfish I know. I also know that just because you ttc, doesn't mean it will work, especially as you get older. scary stuff.

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Im 35 rob is 37- and we are married 2 years this past JulY. Dated for 4 years...
WE decided we wanted a little time as Mr and Mrs b4 mom and dad. Had to get to know each others habits a bit better as we did not live together b4 hand...and also to see what our spending patterns were and to solidify our team approach to the things that pop up in life.
So, I was about 3 months preg for our 2nd anniv.

I didn't want to wait much longer since I did get married later in life. What can I saay? It took me a bit longet to find my Prince!

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ttc! AHHH!!! thanks novembebride... like DUH on me...LOL!!

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No problem. I still don't know all the abbreviations yet myself.

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You can also look at it this way..
The average time before a woman gets pregnant is about a yeat ( I said average)
When you hit your 30's ( not to scare anyone) your doctors will tell you that it even can get a little harder.
I had my 6 year old son when I was 24 ( and it was just that once we hadnt used protection, just ONCE)
Now I am 31 and have been trying for a year.
If you really want children, definilty wait until you are somewhat ready but keep in mind that the process can take a while.
Now I look at it like, every month I waited was a month I could of conceived. Makes me sad