NWR - Holiday Stress

Its not even Thanksgiving yet & we are arguing about where to spend Christmas. My FMIL invited my parents & my sister's family to her house for Christmas Day. My sister's MIL has been widowed for about 5 yrs & by herself . Her other son could care less & has his own agenda. So my mom invites her over every Christmas Day. Now its not my place to ask my FMIl to invite her. Personally why should I?? Last Christmas Eve she invited my parents NOT me & FH. I usually spend Christmas Eve with my parents while my sister goes to her MIL house. this was the first time she invited them.

My mother said to invite FMIL to my parent's apartment. Personally, i think thats rude. Plus my parents live in small 2 BR apartment & its very cramped.

I feel very hurt. for almost 15 yrs my parents have accomodated around my sister & her plans. Now i am getting married & they can't even spare one day. I am their daughter too. why do they always have to accomodate my sister?? My sister doesn't even get along with her FMIL. where i have a great relationship with my FMIL. Am i being selfish??

HELP !!!

Re: NWR - Holiday Stress

No you're not being selfish. I just think they're trying to make it easier for your sister's MIL because she's widowed and the holidays are rough.

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Posted by MiciB115

No you're not being selfish. I just think they're trying to make it easier for your sister's MIL because she's widowed and the holidays are rough.

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i know. i'm just getting tired always accomodating everybody.. when its my turn, i have to be understanding

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Posted by shoegal68

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Posted by MiciB115

No you're not being selfish. I just think they're trying to make it easier for your sister's MIL because she's widowed and the holidays are rough.

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i know. i'm just getting tired always accomodating everybody.. when its my turn, i have to be understanding

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I know it sux. When you and FH decide to have a family just make sure that it's always at your place. Just think, you won't want to have to lug everything for the kids to a home where they won't have all their toys and be comfortable.

Re: NWR - Holiday Stress

It does sux but, I would just ask FMIL if she minded if she came, that way you can spend the holidays the way you would like with your new and old family! I'm sure she could care less about 1 more person.

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Posted by MiciB115

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Posted by shoegal68

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Posted by MiciB115

No you're not being selfish. I just think they're trying to make it easier for your sister's MIL because she's widowed and the holidays are rough.

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i know. i'm just getting tired always accomodating everybody.. when its my turn, i have to be understanding

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I know it sux. When you and FH decide to have a family just make sure that it's always at your place. Just think, you won't want to have to lug everything for the kids to a home where they won't have all their toys and be comfortable.

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i know i can't wait!! i just really don't know what to tell my FMIL. i told her we don't have a big family & its just us. I didn't think that my sister's MIL would be issue since they spend Christmas Eve with her. Why can't parents just tell my sister if you don't want to come fine but you are on your own then.