was the first year of marriage difficult for you?

dh & i are about to celebrate 1 month married tomorrow ( ). and its got me thinking ...

not sure if its that we're still in the honeymoon phase, but honestly, it sorta feels like it did when we were dating ... just happier and more secure in our relationship.

maybe i feel that way b/c we lived together for a few years before getting engaged?

i've heard over the years so many people say that the first year of marriage can be difficult, so i was wondering if you found it to be true???

what was your experience like?

(i included a poll if you want to answer anonymously)

Re: was the first year of marriage difficult for you?

I think it can be tough for people who get married and live together for the first time. DH and I stayed at each others places a lot but this was our first mutual space....getting used to his living style was a big adjustment (he's lucky he's so cute!).. and the dramas of house hunting were rough but I wouldn't call it a tough year.

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DH and I have been living together for 5 yrs now. This year was very hard on us, but more a final and sickness than anything else. However we are looking forward to 08. Things should be better now that we have things situated. However DH and I have survived worse. So we are pretty possative about things.

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It was awesome... but hard too because we hadnt lived together before so that was a BIG adjustment. We also went right into a house so we had to adjust to paying all those bills and such but other than that it was SUPER!

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I am with Jenn. Our first year of marriage was wonderful but we had minor bumps in the road. We had purchased our home 7 months before the wedding but we both didn't live in it together until the day after our wedding. It was an adjustment to get use to each other's living style (even though we had spend many weekends together & weeks away together). Once we got that under our belt, it was actually fun! We also had to come to the table paying a lot more bills then we were use to & that got 'hairy' at times. Also dividing up the chores was difficult just because my DH came from a house where his mom did everything & he rarely had to lift a finger..

All in all though, I think both of is was prepared for the first year of marriage & didn't go into it blindsided thinking it was going to be sheer bliss. Once we came home from our HM, we went right back to reality & we knew that we would fight, it was part of nature...As we are now rapidly approaching 2 years, I can honestly say that our relationship is so much stronger then it ever way. The first year was fun despite whatever we might have faced. The enjoyment definately was knowing that everyday I would see my husband...

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We're a little of column A and B.

We had lived with one another for 2-3 years before marriage, but marriage brought on its own struggles as we adapted to the fact that it's not his/her family, it's OUR family. We had to learn that each other came first before our parents needs, or those of our siblings.

The other LARGE hurdle was that we bought a house 3-4 months after our wedding. If that doesn't create stress, I don't know what does!

Every relationship has its ebs and flows, and we get through each one together and in tact! Now that we're past the 1 year mark, I can happily say that every argument/disagreement was worth it, because it made our relationship stronger, and in the end, it made us closer.

Re: was the first year of marriage difficult for you?

honestly i've enjoyed every moment! the only adjustment for both of us (and i'm sure this is with everyone) is bills bills bills lol. BOY have our finances taught us a lot! but we really are enjoying each other i'm glad i can't complain yet lol.

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It was an adjustment since we had both lived at home prior to getting married...It was good though

Re: was the first year of marriage difficult for you?

No, our first year has not been hard for us at all.

We are even doing construction on our house and we haven''t even had many arguments doing that .

\We get along and work very well together.

Re: was the first year of marriage difficult for you?

DH & I have been together for almost 11 years now (on 1/2/08 it will be 11 years!!) so no, it definitely wasn't hard for us. If anything it was the opposite. I think it was quite possibly the best year of our lives. We have been through so much together already and it's just been so nice to call him my husband, have other people refer to him as such and just really enjoy each other and our newlywed-ship
The best is that we can now celebrate our 2 yr anniversary next year with our little one who will be born at the beginning of the summer
It's definitely been a great year!!!

Re: was the first year of marriage difficult for you?

I chose a little bit of A and B.

DH and I lived together for about 3 1/2 years before we got married so we were completely adjusted to each other in those areas.

The challenge came when we found out we were pregnant 3 weeks before the wedding. We planned the pregnancy but had absolutely no clue, NO CLUE, how hard it was actually going to be. DS is now 6 months old and DH and I celebrated our 1 year anniversary last month. Looking back, I would not change one single thing because we are much closer now than before we were married and became parents. However, I'm not going to lie, it was very hard at times getting to where we are now.

I can honestly say I love my husband more now than the day we were married...and it just keeps getting better.

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it was definitely interesting... ...but overall it was good and keeps getting better

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My husband and I lived together before we got married so there wasn't really any adjustment there. We have been through SO much together before marriage that our first year was like a beautiful vacation / honeymoon. We are very very blessed.

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The first year - well the first six months I thought were quite an adjustment. When we got home from the honeymoon, reality set in as did my homesickness. I had never lived from home and was struck with a bad case of homesickness. Nick was wonderful in every way with getting me adjusted. Despite living less than a mile from my parents, there were a few nights I would cry because I missed them so. Thank goodness he was so patient. We had our little tiffs here and there about doing dishes, and cooking and cleaning. But we got through them, we created our way of living together and we enjoy each other. We love living together and we get along great. Married life is just wonderful and I couldnt imagine sharing it with anyone else. We love coming home to each other and I love having someone to take care of and count on.