Re: Wedding Gifts... Where and When Opened

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by debismom

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by debismom

I didn't know gifts were predominantly money!!!! Thanks!! Mary MOB

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in NY it is. Everyone just gives envelopes. Gifts are to be given at the bridal shower. I am curious though, what do you get for the wedding after a person already had a shower. I am just asking because i know most showers I've been to by the time of the shower just about everything is gone off their registry. Do they have to do another one? i don't know how that would work. Plus for example, ive put so many things on my registries for the shower, i even went to look the other day to add things but i couldn't really pick other things, i felt like i had way more than enough.

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Here in Lancaster, gifts are taken from the registries for shower and wedding. And if you have an Amish/Mennonite family connection, even though you and FH aren't Amish/Mennonite, you're likely to get very unique gifts, such as quilts, etc. At my wedding, I had some friends give me really unique gifts from Mexico. The ones I loved the most were embroidered pillowcases, probably done by hand. Mary MOB

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oh ok so they give you other things besides whats on the registry, and not typical things you would put on a registry. Yeah because i was thinking that after my shower i dont know how many things will be left, and if guests brought gifts i would have to add ALOT more things after a shower bc i am having 300 guests and i dont think i would even be able to do it. But this makes more sense.

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Oh, definitely!! Here the couple can get whatever, and not from a registry. Traditionally that's Lancaster County, but maybe with the newbies moving here from other states, they can teach us a thing or two!! Mary MOB

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Ok, now I'm wondering what other States' traditions are!! Anyone know? Mary MOB

Re: Wedding Gifts... Where and When Opened

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Posted by debismom

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by debismom

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by debismom

I didn't know gifts were predominantly money!!!! Thanks!! Mary MOB

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in NY it is. Everyone just gives envelopes. Gifts are to be given at the bridal shower. I am curious though, what do you get for the wedding after a person already had a shower. I am just asking because i know most showers I've been to by the time of the shower just about everything is gone off their registry. Do they have to do another one? i don't know how that would work. Plus for example, ive put so many things on my registries for the shower, i even went to look the other day to add things but i couldn't really pick other things, i felt like i had way more than enough.

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Here in Lancaster, gifts are taken from the registries for shower and wedding. And if you have an Amish/Mennonite family connection, even though you and FH aren't Amish/Mennonite, you're likely to get very unique gifts, such as quilts, etc. At my wedding, I had some friends give me really unique gifts from Mexico. The ones I loved the most were embroidered pillowcases, probably done by hand. Mary MOB

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oh ok so they give you other things besides whats on the registry, and not typical things you would put on a registry. Yeah because i was thinking that after my shower i dont know how many things will be left, and if guests brought gifts i would have to add ALOT more things after a shower bc i am having 300 guests and i dont think i would even be able to do it. But this makes more sense.

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Oh, definitely!! Here the couple can get whatever, and not from a registry. Traditionally that's Lancaster County, but maybe with the newbies moving here from other states, they can teach us a thing or two!! Mary MOB

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well every place has different traditions and i notice most of them stick. For example here in ny its been like this for a very long time, same for when fh's parents got married too. My parents got married in another country but even there they give monetary gifts, ive noticed in alot of european countries they also do this. Also since NY is full of people from so many countries, alot of these traditions come from there. Maybe the money thing is because of that

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Posted by debismom

Ok, now I'm wondering what other States' traditions are!! Anyone know? Mary MOB

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most other states do give gifts at the shower. NY is one of the few states that guests give cash to the couple

Re: Wedding Gifts... Where and When Opened

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by debismom

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by debismom

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by debismom

I didn't know gifts were predominantly money!!!! Thanks!! Mary MOB

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in NY it is. Everyone just gives envelopes. Gifts are to be given at the bridal shower. I am curious though, what do you get for the wedding after a person already had a shower. I am just asking because i know most showers I've been to by the time of the shower just about everything is gone off their registry. Do they have to do another one? i don't know how that would work. Plus for example, ive put so many things on my registries for the shower, i even went to look the other day to add things but i couldn't really pick other things, i felt like i had way more than enough.

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Here in Lancaster, gifts are taken from the registries for shower and wedding. And if you have an Amish/Mennonite family connection, even though you and FH aren't Amish/Mennonite, you're likely to get very unique gifts, such as quilts, etc. At my wedding, I had some friends give me really unique gifts from Mexico. The ones I loved the most were embroidered pillowcases, probably done by hand. Mary MOB

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oh ok so they give you other things besides whats on the registry, and not typical things you would put on a registry. Yeah because i was thinking that after my shower i dont know how many things will be left, and if guests brought gifts i would have to add ALOT more things after a shower bc i am having 300 guests and i dont think i would even be able to do it. But this makes more sense.

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Oh, definitely!! Here the couple can get whatever, and not from a registry. Traditionally that's Lancaster County, but maybe with the newbies moving here from other states, they can teach us a thing or two!! Mary MOB

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well every place has different traditions and i notice most of them stick. For example here in ny its been like this for a very long time, same for when fh's parents got married too. My parents got married in another country but even there they give monetary gifts, ive noticed in alot of european countries they also do this. Also since NY is full of people from so many countries, alot of these traditions come from there. Maybe the money thing is because of that

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Denise, thank you for sharing that!! Very interesting!! Sometimes, I think things are the same everywhere and they're not. Mary MOB

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Posted by debismom

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by debismom

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by debismom

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by debismom

I didn't know gifts were predominantly money!!!! Thanks!! Mary MOB

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in NY it is. Everyone just gives envelopes. Gifts are to be given at the bridal shower. I am curious though, what do you get for the wedding after a person already had a shower. I am just asking because i know most showers I've been to by the time of the shower just about everything is gone off their registry. Do they have to do another one? i don't know how that would work. Plus for example, ive put so many things on my registries for the shower, i even went to look the other day to add things but i couldn't really pick other things, i felt like i had way more than enough.

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Here in Lancaster, gifts are taken from the registries for shower and wedding. And if you have an Amish/Mennonite family connection, even though you and FH aren't Amish/Mennonite, you're likely to get very unique gifts, such as quilts, etc. At my wedding, I had some friends give me really unique gifts from Mexico. The ones I loved the most were embroidered pillowcases, probably done by hand. Mary MOB

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oh ok so they give you other things besides whats on the registry, and not typical things you would put on a registry. Yeah because i was thinking that after my shower i dont know how many things will be left, and if guests brought gifts i would have to add ALOT more things after a shower bc i am having 300 guests and i dont think i would even be able to do it. But this makes more sense.

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Oh, definitely!! Here the couple can get whatever, and not from a registry. Traditionally that's Lancaster County, but maybe with the newbies moving here from other states, they can teach us a thing or two!! Mary MOB

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well every place has different traditions and i notice most of them stick. For example here in ny its been like this for a very long time, same for when fh's parents got married too. My parents got married in another country but even there they give monetary gifts, ive noticed in alot of european countries they also do this. Also since NY is full of people from so many countries, alot of these traditions come from there. Maybe the money thing is because of that

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Denise, thank you for sharing that!! Very interesting!! Sometimes, I think things are the same everywhere and they're not. Mary MOB

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no problem and thank you for sharing. I tried to look up how it differs from state to state but couldn't find anything. I am trying to think of other states that give money but not sure which other states do this. But i am guessing it has to be a european tradition. For example most people i know do come from a european background, or even other countries in south america for example. The neighborhood i grew up in was a melting pot, our HS was even in the newspaper for having the most nationalities in a school. Many of the people i know are even first generation americans so their families stuck strongly to traditions from their own countries. We also give money at baptisms and most events like this.

Re: Wedding Gifts... Where and When Opened

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by debismom

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by debismom

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by debismom

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by debismom

I didn't know gifts were predominantly money!!!! Thanks!! Mary MOB

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in NY it is. Everyone just gives envelopes. Gifts are to be given at the bridal shower. I am curious though, what do you get for the wedding after a person already had a shower. I am just asking because i know most showers I've been to by the time of the shower just about everything is gone off their registry. Do they have to do another one? i don't know how that would work. Plus for example, ive put so many things on my registries for the shower, i even went to look the other day to add things but i couldn't really pick other things, i felt like i had way more than enough.

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Here in Lancaster, gifts are taken from the registries for shower and wedding. And if you have an Amish/Mennonite family connection, even though you and FH aren't Amish/Mennonite, you're likely to get very unique gifts, such as quilts, etc. At my wedding, I had some friends give me really unique gifts from Mexico. The ones I loved the most were embroidered pillowcases, probably done by hand. Mary MOB

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oh ok so they give you other things besides whats on the registry, and not typical things you would put on a registry. Yeah because i was thinking that after my shower i dont know how many things will be left, and if guests brought gifts i would have to add ALOT more things after a shower bc i am having 300 guests and i dont think i would even be able to do it. But this makes more sense.

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Oh, definitely!! Here the couple can get whatever, and not from a registry. Traditionally that's Lancaster County, but maybe with the newbies moving here from other states, they can teach us a thing or two!! Mary MOB

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well every place has different traditions and i notice most of them stick. For example here in ny its been like this for a very long time, same for when fh's parents got married too. My parents got married in another country but even there they give monetary gifts, ive noticed in alot of european countries they also do this. Also since NY is full of people from so many countries, alot of these traditions come from there. Maybe the money thing is because of that

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Denise, thank you for sharing that!! Very interesting!! Sometimes, I think things are the same everywhere and they're not. Mary MOB

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no problem and thank you for sharing. I tried to look up how it differs from state to state but couldn't find anything. I am trying to think of other states that give money but not sure which other states do this. But i am guessing it has to be a european tradition. For example most people i know do come from a european background, or even other countries in south america for example. The neighborhood i grew up in was a melting pot, our HS was even in the newspaper for having the most nationalities in a school. Many of the people i know are even first generation americans so their families stuck strongly to traditions from their own countries. We also give money at baptisms and most events like this.

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Thanks, Denise!!!! Gonna run. Debi wants to check out some wedding place. Fun!!!!! Mary MOB

Re: Wedding Gifts... Where and When Opened

09 crashing ----I am from Dominican Republic and over there you give presents (not money) for the wedding, and actually what you do is that you buy the gift from the registra and you live the gift in the store and they deliver all the gifts a couple of days before the wedding... We only give money is to the Bride and Groom that are moving to another country and what we do is that the Bride and groom create a wedding account at a bank and the guests deposit the money in there. So we actually dont take anything to the wedding.

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I had a few OOT guest who counld not make it to my shower, bring gifts to the wedding instead or in addition to an envelope. Those gifts were opened the day after the wedding. We got married on a friday & did not leave for our honeymoon until Monday.