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Since FH's parents will be in charge of the gifts and bringing them back to their house (since we leave the hotel the next morning for the HM). When we come back we'll open them at his parents house.

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I'm Chinese-American (not from NY) and DH is Jewish, both cultures in which giving money is traditional. We're OOT and have been to weddings up and down the East Coast. We've seen presents at weddings before once you start heading south of NY, but have never seen them opened at the weddings. The weddings we've been to have only a few presents (all of them together could fit into a sedan), as most people send them beforehand.

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I'm African American, and most of my family is from the south. fh same thing... my family does gifts and monetary gifts.. the older family members give gifts.. in fact, my grandparents and fh's parents have both been getting calls from family members wondering how come there were no registry cards in the invites..


my younger family, mostly gives monetary gifts.. but i don't think it's because of it being a NY thing.. and that's never been why I did it.. I give money because I'm too busy to go shopping for the gift.. a check I can write on the way to the reception hall (which I normally find myself doing) i give monetary gifts at bridal showers, baby showers and housewarming's too.. i barely have enough time to shop for me..there just aren't enough hours in the day for me to shop for you to!

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I don't know if I've ever seen anyone opening gifts at the wedding either. I think sometimes you can see a few gifts but i'm not sure.

We're planning on opening envelopes and anything else AFTER the HM.....that's partially because the first leg of our Hm is to vegas and I don't want to worry about gambling the money away...LOL.

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Hi, Ladies!! Really interesting reading your posts on this topic!! Thanks, so much!!! Mary MOB

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Yea, in this area its usually $$. Outside of NY its different.

We decided that we will leave for our HM on Monday as opposed to Sunday, so we can have Sunday to relax and open gifts then.

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Mom, you are so funny!!!!!!!

That must have been a 1970s thing to do with opening up the gifts at the actual reception!!

My FH's parents told me they used to have these stir sticks that they would give people for their drinks that had little bells in them at the top. The guests would ring them for the couple to kiss and they had their names and wedding date on them. Apparently, these stir sticks for drinks were all the rage back then and everybody had them at weddings. Kind of interesting, huh?

What other 1970s wedding customs can you remember?

Luv ya,

Debi

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Posted by beachprincess

Mom, you are so funny!!!!!!!

That must have been a 1970s thing to do with opening up the gifts at the actual reception!!

My FH's parents told me they used to have these stir sticks that they would give people for their drinks that had little bells in them at the top. The guests would ring them for the couple to kiss and they had their names and wedding date on them. Apparently, these stir sticks for drinks were all the rage back then and everybody had them at weddings. Kind of interesting, huh?

What other 1970s wedding customs can you remember?

Luv ya,

Debi

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I'll have to ponder that one!!!! Mom

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Posted by Dani731

I had a few OOT guest who counld not make it to my shower, bring gifts to the wedding instead or in addition to an envelope. Those gifts were opened the day after the wedding. We got married on a friday & did not leave for our honeymoon until Monday.

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Yes!! I think that would account for most presents seen at the wedding reception. Or the guest that feels money is too impersonal.

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i think we will open them the next morning. either with or without our parents (its mostly money isnt it?) we cant do it the wedding night bc by the time we get back to the hotel i dont want to ven think about that!

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ive never seen gifts opened at a wedding. we are going to open them after the wedding b/4 the honeymoon since we have a day in btw. this way i can start the thank yous on the plane.