Ering/wedding band drama

Ok girls so I need some advice in regards to my ering and wedding band.
I have a princess cut diamond with two trillion stones on the side. I picked out this style ring back last year when my fiance and I were looking. Ever since I have gotten it I have had minor issues with the trillions (they get dirty very easily). I always thought that some day when I upgrade my ring I will get a new setting without the trillions.

So here is the problem, now Im out there shopping for wedding bands and Im having such a hard time finding a band that fits nicely with the trllions because there is always a gap between the rings (and I really wanted to wear the rings on the same hand).

So today I went to ELSA showroom in farmingdale and she showed me some options which could work for now and reminded me that I could change my E ring band in the future but then she also showed me a e-ring/wedding band set that was so beautiful and within my price range and I ordered it! This new set is Pave stones, totally different from what I have now.

Now Im feeling so weird about it. FH says he doesnt mind at all that I change the setting of the Ering but I dont know if he really means that or just wants to make me happy. I feel guilty changing my ering even though Im not 100% happy with it.

What should I do?
Should I leave it as is and maybe change it in the future and in the meantime find a wedding band i like?
Or should I get the matching set and totally change the look of my ering?

Hmmm Im stressing over here! Any thoughts? Id appreciate your input.

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If you love the new set and FH is ok with it, i'd change it. Even if momentarily it is weird, once you have it for a few weeks it'll feel natural and you'll totally love it.

Any pics?

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FYI Pave stone setting get dirty very easily.

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The new setting would look like this.

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I have the same problem with my ring as well. I have a three stone ring (all princess cut). I could have gotten a custom band that would have a slope where it would meet with the center stone but then if I ever wanted to just wear the band it would look retarted. So I ended up getting a princess cut band(5 stones with prongs) and a plain white glod ring with scattered diamonds for everyday. It will have a little gap but it won't be very noticeable.

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Posted by JillBride08

The new setting would look like this.

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This is very pretty. Would you keep the stone round or princess cut? It is a totally different look from what you have. It's really up to you. you should go with what makes you happy and what you really love.

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This is my honest opinion....

When it comes to my personal experience...if FH says he doesnt mind...he means it....He sees you are having a hard time, and wanting a band to fit flush with the E ring is important to u. Thats why he doesnt mind. He wants you to be happy.

I dont think its that you dont believe him, its bc yu feel guilty. Dont ever feel guilty for wanting to be happy.

I fight with FH constantly about these things. I feel so guilty about wanting something, when he says 'ok its fine' I shoot back with 'I dont believe you' and it just goes back and forth. I dont believe him bc I feel guilty for wanting something.

Your FH is a good egg. He just wants u to be happy!

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Thanks girls. This helps. Im just gonna follow my heart I guess. I think Im gonna bring my best friend (who has great taste) back with me and get her opinion too.

What problems we have huh? Picking out diamonds, poor me. LOL Thanks again

Yea...FH is a good egg

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don't feel weird, if it looks beautiful and fh doesn't mind i say go for it. I think in the long run you will be much happier!

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Maybe you can get the new set and put the diamond in the new set and then replace the diamond in the center of the original ring with your birthstone and wear it on your right hand....this way you won't be getting rid of it.

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I say change it now, because otherwise in the future you might want to change your wedding band also... I think if he said he doesn't mind.. then he doesn't

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I have a similar issue since my ering is all emerald stones. I'm just going to have my band custom fit to my ering.

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I love the new one you picked out, very pretty. I honestly had to exchange my first setting because one stone fell out and had another one loose. It killed me, FH made me get a new one, he picked out the 2nd one. I didn't think I could but I did fall in love with my new one. I even like it better than my first one...oops did I say that!

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Ok...I would personally wait to change the e-ring. ONLY MY OPINION...but I would feel weird having a different e-ring so soon after I got it. I would get the band you really want and wear the e ring on the right hand. This way they don't have to fit together and it won't be a bing deal when you get another setting for the e ring. I am planning on doing this because this wedding is killing us and we don't have the $$ to get a really expensive band so I'm getting a less expensive one now and wearing by itself so in a few years I can fit them together when I get a ring with BLING! JMO
Good luck!

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I would not be able to part w/ my original e-ring entirely I would do one of two things. Have a band custom made to fit your e-ring or have the stones in your e-ring reset into a setting that will be easier to pair with a band. Make sure to save the original e-ring setting!! Have it reset with other stones maybe for your 5 or 10 year anniversary

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My e-ring was 3 pear shaped stones. I changed my setting as soon as i realized that no wedding band would able to fit near my ring.

Fh was not so happy with my decision but at the same time I will wear this ring forever and I think I should also be 100 % happy.

I made my e-ring a solitare and then used the two side stones in my custom made wedding band.

Fh is okay with it now, I say if hes ok with it do it... you arereally the one that needs to be happy with it.

good luck.. elsas is awesome