I'm New and I'm Very Sad

I've been lurking on this site for a few months now awaiting my engagement in early spring. I'm a fan of the fun and excitement of planning a wedding and I haven't posted a public topic yet on the boards because I didn't want to jinx anything. But now I'm upset.

Today our nation lost 7 heros. Yes we lose people everyday. It's still the American way to moarn over it. While 7 families and the nation mourn there lost I come to this board in the past few days and read about people freaking out over the most riduculous things I've ever read, namely publicly ripping vendors, ripping new brides, and ripping each other. Are you kidding me?

I know planning a wedding is your life right now but I hate to say this, some of you girls still really need to get a life. Are brides really this shallow?? Will I be this shallow? Are you getting married for the wedding or for the marriage??

Can't we all just get along?

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With all due respect, if you don't like the boards so much, why are you even on them - and why did you bother to post that negative message? If you feel they are shallow, just ignore them, no? JMO...

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Where is R&T when we need her???

HMMM I SMELL A RAT!!!

'I know planning a wedding is your life right now but I hate to say this, some of you girls still really need to get a life. Are brides really this shallow?? Will I be this shallow? Are you getting married for the wedding or for the marriage?? '

I hope LIW boots you hard.

How dare you come on here and try and start a fight with these girls. There has been a lot going on and the last thing we need is you. How dare you call us shallow and that we need a life

I am just going to shut my mouth because I know there are going to be girls on here who will rip you apart.

LADIES: THE USUAL DEAL, IF WE IGNORE IT, IT WILL GO AWAY!!! THIS INDIVIDUAL IS COMING ON HERE TO GET US STARTED! LET US UNITE AND IGNORE THIS LOW LIFE!! LIW WILL DO THE POLICING AND BOOT THIS PERSON!

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OMG HOLY ****

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Welcome to the board, Chrissy. I don't believe that people mean to be shallow or lose perspective but, it does happen. All the brides on the board are mourning right now and counting our own blessings.
Brides post for advice, to vent, to share, to warn and to have fun. Remember this is just a chat board and no one has to agree with one another. Yes, it gets unruly sometimes but try to keep it in perspective..remember it is very difficult to articulate in the written word. The board offers you the opportunity to gather a multitude of information related to planning your big day. Gathering information does not mean you have to take it or agree with it.

Good Luck, Chrissy and having meet several of these ladies in person in a GTG on 1/17---they are a wonderful, warm-hearted group of ladies.

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You know this is what I mean. You smell a rat? Wow you all took what was suppose to be a 'hey guys life isn't so bad look at what other's are going through today' kind of thing and just lose your minds.

I love this board and hope to be married by the end of the year. I read your post for ideas and because sometimes you guys are funny.

The point is lately some of you have turned this into a cat fight which has been unreal and unpleaseant. Hell **** mean.
I'm not an 'it' I'm a women in love and I want to come to a site that reflects this not ripping each other. My post was to say 'some of you are turning people off'. I'm a long islander and I have a right to be here too and I'm also entitled to an opinion.

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Please do NOT come to this board with words like:
I know planning a wedding is your life right now but I hate to say this, some of you girls still really need to get a life. Are brides really this shallow?? Will I be this shallow? Are you getting married for the wedding or for the marriage?? , and expect people to be kind

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Thank you Karen, you're classy, and I appreciate the kind words.

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I am with Jenn on this!

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JennBaby-

I hear you but please understand that I'm a women of peace and when I come to the boards and see people getting really catty, it saddens me very much.
When I get engaged soon the wedding will be some a lot of my life too. The problem is not many people have been very kind lately. This message goes out to the unkind people not the polite people.
I see the one's that have been unkind already answered my message very very quickly and with vengence. My last statement was why can't we all just get along. That part most everyone ignored.

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I agree with Jenn
When you post something like this I know planning a wedding is your life right now but I hate to say this, some of you girls still really need to get a life. Are brides really this shallow?? Will I be this shallow? Are you getting married for the wedding or for the marriage?? ,

Do you honestly think that someome is going to be kind???

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This is probably the only post she is reading sitting by her computer waiting for responses.WHATEVER

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Wow!!! Only one intelligent answer. Like yourselves I am in front of the computer. One person understood that I wasn't attacking all of you just the idiots that have been ruining my fun on the boards. Unreal. I'd hate to see what you guys do when faced with a real problem.
You all should read the post first and then respond.

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If you are a genuine person I will let you know that now that I sit back and even the day of the wedding the little things did not matter. However when you are planning your wedding you want everything to be perfect. I don't take back all the things I went over a hundred times b/c I was able to be rest assured on my wedding day that I had done my best. Everything was beautiful by the way

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I agree that tragedies like this definitely puts wedding plans into perspective, but people handle stress differently, and I wouldn't go so far as to say people here are shallow.

After 9/11 I felt so terribly guilty going on with my wedding plans, but that's how I was personally able to temporarily deal....to each his own.

I for one come onto these boards to get away from reality, so maybe that's what others are doing....but it's not fair to assume.

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Welcome Chrissy and unfortunetly as a 'veteran' poster on this board I will have to agree with you on this. I think we all need a break and come back fresh on Monday. I was able to read your post and see you weren't trying to be harsh. Some of us here do enjoy the wedidng planning but will have a marriage afterwards. Today's tragedy is a loss for America and i am deeply saddened by it. Feel free to express your opinions because there are many mature and wise women on these boards. Welcome aboard.

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Thanks Sunshine, Teri, and Curly!!!

I just want everyone to get along and have a good time on the boards. If we are mature enough to get married and be partners with someone we love, we should be mature enough to handle each other and deal with situations with peace, honor and respect.

It's all good, and I appreciate everyone's opinions with a happy, smart and healthy heart. May all your relationships go well and may all your dreams come true!

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Welcome aboard Chrissy. You will find that many of us are kind and actually here to help each other. I think that if you are a good judge of people, you will be fine. This is a public posting board..so please feel free to say what you want to. Lord knows many other people on here do..Good luck with your planning and the like. We are here if you need anything!

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Don't you love how people find this board so 'ridiculous' and 'shallow', that they actually still find the time to complain and make negative comments about it?

If this board is so 'petty' and the girls on it are so shallow that they are making this their 'life', then why would anyone even WASTE THEIR TIME POSTING ABOUT IT?

Wow . . . I don't know where that came from . . . it is so not me to be 'over-reactive', and I hope this board doesn't start thinking I am a nasty person, but one petpeeve of mine is rudeness . . .

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Thanks for the welcome NyCChic! Another smart woman with class that can read. It's so funny you can tell the people who have great relationships with their FH and the brides who settled.
The brides who actually read my post are probably great listeners who are rational and have less arguments over petty things with their man.
The one's that read what they wanted to read, took out the crap I wrote about being shallow and ignored what was positive. They probably jump down their FH throats at a drop of a dime. That's really too bad.
Oh well as I figured out I won't let a small group spoil the whole bunch. You guys still rock! (well most of you)
Peace