picking/telling bridal party??

ok so we dont have any place booked yet but I am pretty sure FH and I are 100% decided on our bridal party...but not the question is, is it too early to tell them (bc we dont have a hall booked) and if its not, I want to get them all gifts and a cute card asking them to be in the party, any ideas?? Thanks girls, you all always have the best ideas!!

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I would suggest not telling them...I made the mistake of telling people and now I am beginning to regret some of my decisions...If I could do it over I would Wait until later

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I would definitely wait to tell them. I've been engaged since 2005. I had my eparty in July 06 where I asked them. However, since then, Fh has kicked out 3, replaced one, and I've kicked out three. Added one which I should've since the beginning, because she's been one of the best in helping me.

If I had waited till the year mark to ask them, my BP would be completely different. It causes soo much less drama to wait.. I know you may say its not going to change, but you never know. The three I kicked out, and one of FHs are my cousins, and because of family drama, they are out.

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Take some time and think about it before you start picking.

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yeah I'm having this problem too. My mom said that I should ask everyone at my eparty which I plan on doing in Aug. We might hold off on that now until next year but I didnt want to have it too close to the wedding. I dont want people to feel like they have the e party, then showers, bparty. etc. back to back. I was trying to have my eparty asap. But I'm def. not ready to pick my bridal party too much drama right now :(

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Oh, definitely wait! You might realize you really didnt want someone or you really did want someone and it'll be too late. I only told my BP right away because they're all family. FH has not though. He's still thinking about it.

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even if both sides of the bp is family would you all still wait??

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I ask after I had teh RH booked. I believe the rule of thumb is to ask before or near the e-party. I have ask all my bridesmaid. I got them each a little something, like $10 gift, and a card. The card has a pink dress on it and says will you be my bridesmaid. I found them in a paper store.

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Posted by rocketsummer17

even if both sides of the bp is family would you all still wait??

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Posted by cherish83

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Posted by rocketsummer17

even if both sides of the bp is family would you all still wait??

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I would still wait. You NEVER know... Like I mentioned, the ones I cut out of the wedding (3 BMs and 1GM) are cousins.

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I would wait until after you book the RH, thats what i did, I wanted to have the place booked before i aked everyone. My bridal party is all family also

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i asked my girls to be in my bridal party back in november, and we still havent booked a place lol. it doesnt matter if you are booked or not, just as long as you def want these people in your bridal party. i made cute little cards with a poem in them and had cookies made up that said " will you be my bridesmaid? "

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What did everyone do for the MOH? same thing as a bridesmaid but just said moh instead?

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Posted by rocketsummer17

What did everyone do for the MOH? same thing as a bridesmaid but just said moh instead?

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Im waiting until next year around this time cause you never know what could happen even though most of my bridal party is family members, Im only going to ask my MOH since its my sister and I wouldnt want anyone else to be it

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I asked my MOH and I definatly dont regret that...but I should have held off on others...

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I asked EVERYONE right away! I was wayyy too excited. My MOH is my Best friend, one of BMs is a good friend from college, everyone else is related.
I had no trouble asking these people because I know in two years we'll still be close.

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i'm going to ask officially at the E-party. i want to get shirts made that say maid of honor, and bridesmaid, if we choose to have a wedding party past the MOH's and BM's, yea, we still havent decided on that

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Is it necessary to have a bridal party? we've considered opting out of this tradition to mixed reviews. I watched both my brothers go through major drama with their wedding parties so I'm anti bridal party. Is this totally out of the question?

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Posted by amandah75

Is it necessary to have a bridal party? we've considered opting out of this tradition to mixed reviews. I watched both my brothers go through major drama with their wedding parties so I'm anti bridal party. Is this totally out of the question?

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Posted by amandah75

Is it necessary to have a bridal party? we've considered opting out of this tradition to mixed reviews. I watched both my brothers go through major drama with their wedding parties so I'm anti bridal party. Is this totally out of the question?

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Posted by amandah75

Is it necessary to have a bridal party? we've considered opting out of this tradition to mixed reviews. I watched both my brothers go through major drama with their wedding parties so I'm anti bridal party. Is this totally out of the question?

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I had considered the MOH and BM only, but then there are those who feel they should be in the wedding party, and I'm sure drama would unfold. One person in particular is known for her inappropriate outbursts. Just keep reminding myself its about us, not them and ours has been as untraditional a relationship as you can get so why stop now =0) I just wanted to know I wasn't crazy for not wanting a bridal party. I'm sure now I'll hear how selfish I'm being

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Hi Ladies,
I wish I can go back in time lol. I was so excited after we got engaged in October that I asked a friend of mine who I grow up with. This person & I have been friends for a very long time but have become distant in the last few years. When I asked her we were hanging out a lot more & since we have been in each others lives for sooo long I just had to ask her. Now we have become distant again & I am unsure if she even really wants to be in my BP.

I am unsure how to approach the situation I do not want to hurt anyone's feelings. I also feel if she does really want to be in my BP then that's great maybe this will bring us closer again, but if she really doesn't want to be I want her to know there is no hard feelings & she can be apart of my wedding in another way. I just have to figure out how to talk to her, she gets sensitive.

Any suggestions?

Also my FH could not picj btw his two uncles as BM that he is very close to so he picked both. I only have my cousin as MOH but now I am thinking of making my other cousin MOH, she is a BM already does that look bad?

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I would wait before telling them.