picking/telling bridal party??

ok so we dont have any place booked yet but I am pretty sure FH and I are 100% decided on our bridal party...but not the question is, is it too early to tell them (bc we dont have a hall booked) and if its not, I want to get them all gifts and a cute card asking them to be in the party, any ideas?? Thanks girls, you all always have the best ideas!!

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I would suggest not telling them...I made the mistake of telling people and now I am beginning to regret some of my decisions...If I could do it over I would Wait until later

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I would definitely wait to tell them. I've been engaged since 2005. I had my eparty in July 06 where I asked them. However, since then, Fh has kicked out 3, replaced one, and I've kicked out three. Added one which I should've since the beginning, because she's been one of the best in helping me.

If I had waited till the year mark to ask them, my BP would be completely different. It causes soo much less drama to wait.. I know you may say its not going to change, but you never know. The three I kicked out, and one of FHs are my cousins, and because of family drama, they are out.

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Take some time and think about it before you start picking.

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yeah I'm having this problem too. My mom said that I should ask everyone at my eparty which I plan on doing in Aug. We might hold off on that now until next year but I didnt want to have it too close to the wedding. I dont want people to feel like they have the e party, then showers, bparty. etc. back to back. I was trying to have my eparty asap. But I'm def. not ready to pick my bridal party too much drama right now :(

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Oh, definitely wait! You might realize you really didnt want someone or you really did want someone and it'll be too late. I only told my BP right away because they're all family. FH has not though. He's still thinking about it.

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even if both sides of the bp is family would you all still wait??

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I ask after I had teh RH booked. I believe the rule of thumb is to ask before or near the e-party. I have ask all my bridesmaid. I got them each a little something, like $10 gift, and a card. The card has a pink dress on it and says will you be my bridesmaid. I found them in a paper store.

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Posted by rocketsummer17

even if both sides of the bp is family would you all still wait??

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I would still wait. You NEVER know... Like I mentioned, the ones I cut out of the wedding (3 BMs and 1GM) are cousins.

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Posted by cherish83

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Posted by rocketsummer17

even if both sides of the bp is family would you all still wait??

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I would still wait. You NEVER know... Like I mentioned, the ones I cut out of the wedding (3 BMs and 1GM) are cousins.

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2 of mine are my sisters and the other 2 are cousins, and we've always been so close that I consider them more like sisters. If the circumstances were any different, I would have waited.

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I would wait until after you book the RH, thats what i did, I wanted to have the place booked before i aked everyone. My bridal party is all family also

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i asked my girls to be in my bridal party back in november, and we still havent booked a place lol. it doesnt matter if you are booked or not, just as long as you def want these people in your bridal party. i made cute little cards with a poem in them and had cookies made up that said ' will you be my bridesmaid? '

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What did everyone do for the MOH? same thing as a bridesmaid but just said moh instead?

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Posted by rocketsummer17

What did everyone do for the MOH? same thing as a bridesmaid but just said moh instead?

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I took my MOH (my sister) out to dinner to ask her

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Im waiting until next year around this time cause you never know what could happen even though most of my bridal party is family members, Im only going to ask my MOH since its my sister and I wouldnt want anyone else to be it

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I asked my MOH and I definatly dont regret that...but I should have held off on others...

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I asked EVERYONE right away! I was wayyy too excited. My MOH is my Best friend, one of BMs is a good friend from college, everyone else is related.
I had no trouble asking these people because I know in two years we'll still be close.

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i'm going to ask officially at the E-party. i want to get shirts made that say maid of honor, and bridesmaid, if we choose to have a wedding party past the MOH's and BM's, yea, we still havent decided on that

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Is it necessary to have a bridal party? we've considered opting out of this tradition to mixed reviews. I watched both my brothers go through major drama with their wedding parties so I'm anti bridal party. Is this totally out of the question?

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Posted by amandah75

Is it necessary to have a bridal party? we've considered opting out of this tradition to mixed reviews. I watched both my brothers go through major drama with their wedding parties so I'm anti bridal party. Is this totally out of the question?

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I don't think its necessary at all! It's your wedding, after all. What you can do is just have a MOH and best man, so you at least have two people to help you, and if you can just pick family members so no one is dissapointed.