How many of you call your MIL or FIL mom and dad?

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I posted this awhile ago. I dont call my MIL 'mom'
I tried it once and dont feel comfortable. Dont get me wrong, I love her a lot, and my mom called her in- laws mom/dad, but I just cant find it in me to call her that.
I only have one mom. That is just my opinion.

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How weird that you posted this ! I Was going to post the same thing ! My mom and I were talking about it this morning. She was saying how years ago it SHOCKED and OFFENDED her or anyone in her family if they heard about someone that DIDNT call their inlaws MOM or DAD. Now she is not phased by it.

I sometimes call my MIL 'ma' but to me, my mom is MA and thats it. I have one mother and one only !
I adore my MIL and have no problem calling her 'MOM' or 'ma' but to me it just will always feel a little weird.

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I don't. I would like to but I feel like it would hurt my mom and dad. They are very sensitive about my 'new family'.

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I do. My inlaws insist on it. It took me while to get used to. But we are all family, so my paretns aren't upset that I have another set of parents.

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I call them by their first names. Well I have only seen my FIL 3 times so I don't call him anything really. My MIL is very nice, but I have 2 moms already (my mom and stepmom). Scott also calls my parents by their first names.

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no way. I call his mom miss P and I call his dad G

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I call my MIL 'mom' but my FIL by his first name. My situation is different however-my own mother passed away some time ago and it's nice to have that word back in my vocabulary!

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I try and get around it, it does feel weird. Gary, on the other hand, was calling my Mom 'Mom' many years ago and now has begun to call my Dad 'Dad', he is so comfortable with it and I love that. I wish it was easier with me with his parents but my parents live below us and we see them so much more often.

I am with you Anna in calling my own mother, 'Ma', that would be hard to call my MIL 'Ma' now too.

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Nope! Personally, I could never address anyone 'mom' or 'dad' unless they were my actual mom and dad! LOL I call them by their first names.

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DH and I call each other's parent's by their first name. But neither of us are really comfortable doing that yet, so we really don't call them anything!

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I don't and I never plan to call them mom or dad.

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I call my MIL Mom sometimes-she's got five children & several grandchilder & great children so I don't think she phased either way. The kids call her Grandma Marie, so we often refer to her as that. My FIL passed away, but from what I've heard about him-he would have asked me to call him Dad!
Rich always jokes about calling my very snobbish, manly Dad 'Daddy' Which I would pee my pants if he ever did. He's on a first names basis w/ my parents. We call my Mom Grandma Karen alot too.
When the kids get involved we become Mom & Dad & our parents go up to the next level
Rich calls my little grandma 'Gram'-she loves him, she says he looks like he could have been one of my Grandpa's brothers!

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Last year after we were engaged his parents sent us cards for something and they wrote Love, Mom & Dad on his card but on mine they put their first names...so I took that as a hint and I call them by their first names.

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Too funny, I got a manicure this weekend and the nail girl was asking me the same thing. She said in China everyone calls them mom and dad and was surprised with my response. Teri, I have the same exact feeling as you do. I can't call them mom or dad. They aren't my mom and dad. I really try not to address them..which is even more awkward. I will write mom and dad in Christmas cards and stuff but in person I can't... They never said to call them by their first names either and Mrs. XYZ is too formal .. so I just avoid it.

Every now and then I have caught my MIL struglle with it as well...when she goes to address her husband in a story or something to me...it is funny but sad.

Although DH and I never discuss this topic I can tell he avoids it with my family as well. My mom and dad have pleaded with him to call them by their first names since we began dating like 7 years ago but he can't do it. He was always brought up saying Mr and Mrs and my parents absolutely hate being called Mr and Mrs so instead DH doesn't say anything.

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No, and for the same reason as Teri.

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as I read Terri's post I remember we got a Christmas card and it was signed from Mom and Dad. Now I think about it, Roger calls my mother mom and my step dad by his first name. I guess its the reception people get from the other person.

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so far, I've avoided calling them anything. They're called 'mommy' and 'poppy' by their children. I just can't get myself to say mommy. Poppy I could handle, but then whet do I call her? I'd like to just call her Angie, but I fear she'd be offended.

Al calls my parents mom & dad - his choice.

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Rob loves my parents and calls them Mom and Dad, but for me, it's so hard. I do try to call his Mom, 'Mom' but I don't say anything to his dad ... like Niecey, I avoid it if I can. In cards, his Dad signs 'Dad', and in cards I will write 'Dad', but in person, I just can't do it!

I just don't feel that closeness with his Dad! And I feel I only have one Mom, but she tries so hard and Rob does call my mom, 'mom', so I try with her!!!

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I am sorry but I am only calling my parents mom and dad. I call them by their first names. My husband and his sisters have always called them by their first names too, never mom or dad. However, he calls my mom Ms. Marl (for Marilyn) and Mr. Ossie (for Oswald). It kinda cute because he is the only one that call them that.