Not all the invites had been received....

and already the drama starts :(

Not all my guests got their invites and I had a guest flat out ask me why they didn't have an "and guest" and if that meant they couldn't bring someone.
Then had the nerve to flat out ask "if" all the other single people on the list were invited by themselves.
How rude? how can you question a bride & groom's GL and their decisions? WT heck I was sooo mad! then she tells me she's going to fill out the reply in crayon. (probably out of spite- but this person knew they were going to be with out a guest weeks ago) I don't get this latest rage...And also they also said they would be altering the reply card purposely trying to mess with it so we couldn't figure out who it's from.... this on top of the person asking how to respond b/c they didn't understand what to do


I know our reply cards aren't the norm but gesh!!
I want to uninvite some guests... I hope it gets better.


~corrected and added clarity~

Message edited 9/2/2008 8:20:31 PM.

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I just dont understand the nerve of asking....if I was so offended I wasnt invited with a guest Id not attend before I asked to bring one!

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I just don't get it ... what business is it of theirs who has a date and who doesn't? I don't have to justify our decission to our guests... it's the just

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some people have b a lls ! so annoying

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yeah i just had a phone call from my dad bc he had to call his friend to see if him and his wife were coming (whom btw were the only ones invited) and he tells my dad yeah me and my wife are comign and so is my daughter and her bf and my dad was like i couldnt say no i was like hello ur not paying for it give me his number ill tel him she isnt invited so he goes well so and so is not coming and either is so and so im like yeah 320 people invited hoping half say no im not replacing people is his kidding me???

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that stinks! i'm sorry I just don't get why people feel they can invite the world!

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seriously like they never had a party before that they had to pay for what the ef lol

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Posted by jrzygrl

...And also they also said they would be altering the reply card purposely trying to mess with it so we couldn't figure out who it's from...

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lol I wish I used a pen that needed a special light to see it. But I mean really how childish are people still? act your age! it's a formal event why do you need to act like you are in middle school. and the best part I talked to the person tonight and they went on as if nothing happened last night... so odd.

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Great is this what i have to look foward to???

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Just stand up and say "ACT LIKE AN ADULT!" No you don't have a guest and like many other SINGLE people they don't have a guest so GROW UP! Seriously, crayon? Tell this person NO KIDS ARE ALLOWED at the wedding! If they want to act like a child, they'll be treated like one! Some people need to get a grip! Since you know who it is, I would leave their tablecard off the seating table, They'd sure feel stupid then!

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I agree... it is so not her place to be asking if she can bring a guest. I'm kinda limited with who I can invite, so I'm definitely not giving all the single people the option to bring a date with them. I'd rather use that space to fill with MY friends. I don't think that's so much to ask. The only ones I'm giving a 'guest' to are the ones that I know are in a relationship. People should understand that. Being that my FH lives in Colorado, I NEVER got insulted when I didn't receive a "plus guest" on my invites to friends' weddings, even though I'm in a serious relationship. Even when I was single. I'd NEVER call the bride and bother her with crap like that. Ugh.

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I love it! thank you ladies!
I don't think you have just this to look forward to you have a lot more good ! (I hope) I just got a very nice email from my family out of the country and said they got the invite! and of course they were coming


as for the party pooper I did actually tell her kids are not invited! this is so strange coming from a close friend. I really didn't feel the need to justify the GL to her.
But FH and I decided that we are only inviting people minus of course married couples.
Those in a "serious" long term relationships/ people obviously that are formally engaged to each other/ we even invited those couples living together. But even some of those semi serious couples were limited to no guests for other reasons. But the S.O's name was included on the address/ inner envelope depending on if they lived together or not. So far no other craziness.... and it's not like the people invited wont know other people! I think maybe this person had a really bad day and felt the need to pick on me. Either way the majority right now has been people are living the invitations!

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This story just keeps getting funnier

here are some of my favorite parts ....

"your right - it is nonsensical and regardless of what the answer is, it doesn't change my rsvp response, bc i really don't care if the queen of sheeba shows up. I guess the bull*#&@ of it is knowing where exactly I stand (and I'm quickly learning that that's one of life's precious moments). i'm partially pis@*& off about it because you weren't upfront about it, and if that's where I stand then that's fine too, better to know now."

"and what the truth was (that bc i'm not in relationship i'm being discriminated against.)"

I flat out said "I don't know what to say other then if you are that insulted don't come? I'll miss you but the guest list was a decision "FH" and I decided on.... I don't know and honestly I don't really care- (if this other guest comes or not b/c this person was concering themselves with the fact that this other guest could potentially have a date and not them) if i concern myself and invest too much time in whatevery one else is doing or not doing I'll go more crazy then I already am"

GAH! I feel like I'm losing a close friend but apparently they didn't see it coming that they weren't invited with a guest- ridiculous!!

Apparently this isn't changing their reply as they stated numerous times so i'm curious to see if and how this one comes back- I just can't believe the nerve of some people.



I'm a mess of emotions.

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whoah they got balls ...

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Posted by Soon 2b Mrs Bev

Great is this what i have to look foward to???

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I guess there truly is all kinds of people out there... I just got off the phone with my MOH she made me feel much better! and I'm laughing at this b/c it's too ubsurd to do anything else with really. I really do sometimes feel that there has to be something that goes right eventually lol I'm just looking forward to having a new beautiful day whatever happens with my new DH... in just over a month- everything else is just minor details at this point

G/L ladies (I really do a lot of random venting- I'm sure things will be good for you! if not we'll just turn into bridezillas there's worst things right?)

Message edited 9/4/2008 11:18:13 PM.

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yikes....good luck with that guest....she seems a tab rude!