Spinoff to HM babies

Anyone ever think about how they would react/handle finding out you were PG before the wedding?? As I stated in my previous post, I live in constant fear of this recenlty and I have NO IDEA why!! We are careful and it would be a blessing...but I guess after being together 11 years I think..."Of course NOW it would happen unexpectedly!!" I guess I'd maybe just change my dress last minute?? lol...

Am I alone with this thinking??

Message edited 9/4/2008 12:13:56 PM.

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Well at this point.. Im 29 days away so it wouldnt' be a big deal for me...unless I blow up in the first 3 weeks!! But we are planning on trying on the HM sooooo it would be great....now!! If I was over 2-3 months to my wedding I would be upset acutally.

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this happended to a coworker of mine, but for her it was the biggest blessing of all. she got engaged in december, and planned a june wedding. a month after she got engaged, she found out she was preggers. she had just ordered her dress too, but she really could care less about any of the wedding stuff after she found out. she was always told that she wouldn't be able to conceive naturally, so of course she was ecstatic. she still had her wedding, and her dress was altered to fit her expanding belly.

under normal circumstances though, i would have been upset if i was pregnant at the wedding, only because i know we not ready for a baby then, and we took precautions to make sure we wouldn't get pregnant before we ready. but if it happened, i wouldn't have let it get me down.

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I would have freaked out.

My DH's family is pretty old-school and they would probably disown us. If it had happened I would have told NO ONE - not even DH. I would have waited until after we were married and played it off as a HM baby - it would have been AWFUL. Seriously.

I feel like even now it would be awful. Isn't that bad? My family would jump for joy - I think his would be angry.

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honestly i dont know, i dont want a baby so i think i would be really upset (actually i know i would be upset) - im not sure if i would even want to have the baby - i know that sounds horrible, but we arent ready mentally or financially to have a child, we live in a 1 bedroom apartment for godsakes and there are so many things that i want to do BEFORE kids, like have a house, a lot of money in our savings account, travel, etc.....i dont know, kids are A LOT of work and they are FOREVER and that scares me.....i know i want kids one day, but i dont know if i will ever be ready any time soon....if it happened now id probably want to jump out a window and my feelings arent going to change once we are married either - i dont know, i feel like im pretty young to be getting married and really young to be mother even though im one of the most responsible people i know (sad but true )

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it would freak me out, but we are planning on trying right after the wedding so i would prob look at it as a blessing...i can't wait to be a mommy!!!

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If it was up to FH I would be preggers already -- too bad I control the pill hahaha!

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I thought I was the only one who had that fear!!! I don't know how I'd react, I'd totally freak out if it happened!

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Oh gosh...I lived in constant fear also. We were VERY careful but somehow I thought I was preggers at one point, cried about it and ran to the store to buy a test. It was negative.

But I had nightmare upon nightmare about it. I just didnt want to be THAT girl that was pregnant on my wedding day. Also we had a quick engagement and I was scared if I did get pregnant that people would think the only reason we got married was bc of the baby.

Anyway I dont want a kid yet but if I was pregnant, I would just embrace it, you know. Its hard to say how I would feel.

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I swear, I had your same fear!! at the 9 month mark (back in January) i thought for sure i'd get pregnant... then each month i was like, ok, if i got PG now, I'd be 8 months at the wedding and that went on until last month. I swore that it was going to happen, lol

so i totally understand your fear!!!

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Posted by yelley77

I swear, I had your same fear!! at the 9 month mark (back in January) i thought for sure i'd get pregnant... then each month i was like, ok, if i got PG now, I'd be 8 months at the wedding and that went on until last month. I swore that it was going to happen, lol

so i totally understand your fear!!!

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Posted by Jenn04

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Posted by yelley77

I swear, I had your same fear!! at the 9 month mark (back in January) i thought for sure i'd get pregnant... then each month i was like, ok, if i got PG now, I'd be 8 months at the wedding and that went on until last month. I swore that it was going to happen, lol

so i totally understand your fear!!!

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OMG -I was the same way. I kept calculating the time and trying to figure out if I'd be showing or not! LOL!

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see i like kids, and sometimes i will admit that i get baby fever around my nephew BUT at the same time i also see the huge impact my nephew has on my FSIL - and im not ready for that - babies are so dependent and i just cant imagine that right now - everything revolves around the baby and i dont know how i would deal with the things she does, her whole life is different, she is different - she tells me that if it happened i would change my mind once the baby was born, she says that when you see your baby you love it so much and all those things dont matter anymore and you wouldnt trade any of it - and i believe her because i can see how much she loves my nephew, she is such a great mom to him BUT even though she tells me that, and even though i can see her love for him radiate out of her i still dont want one i dont know, i dont think i have the patience right now - im selfish i guess - and i dont want to share FH, i want it to be just us for awhile, and i cant wait until the wedding and house are done with so we can relax a little and spend money more freely on things like trips and dinners, i want to enjoy eachother and THEN have a child later on

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i think i would be most mad about not being able to drink at my wedding/HM

of course it would be scary and hard if i was pg now cause we're living in an apartment and our savings is pretty much wiped out cause of the wedding but i think FH and i would take it well. after the 1st OMG moment i would be excited to be preggers

note: i'm TOTALLY not wishing for this to happen though!!! we want to wait 4-5 years before we start trying!

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Posted by KK Holiday

i think i would be most mad about not being able to drink at my wedding/HM

of course it would be scary and hard if i was pg now cause we're living in an apartment and our savings is pretty much wiped out cause of the wedding but i think FH and i would take it well. after the 1st OMG moment i would be excited to be preggers

note: i'm TOTALLY not wishing for this to happen though!!! we want to wait 4-5 years before we start trying!

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Posted by LuvMyAlfonse

I would have freaked out.

My DH's family is pretty old-school and they would probably disown us. If it had happened I would have told NO ONE - not even DH. I would have waited until after we were married and played it off as a HM baby - it would have been AWFUL. Seriously.

I feel like even now it would be awful. Isn't that bad? My family would jump for joy - I think his would be angry.

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Posted by yelley77

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Posted by KK Holiday

i think i would be most mad about not being able to drink at my wedding/HM

of course it would be scary and hard if i was pg now cause we're living in an apartment and our savings is pretty much wiped out cause of the wedding but i think FH and i would take it well. after the 1st OMG moment i would be excited to be preggers

note: i'm TOTALLY not wishing for this to happen though!!! we want to wait 4-5 years before we start trying!

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holy 15 days.

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Posted by Future Mulligan

see i like kids, and sometimes i will admit that i get baby fever around my nephew BUT at the same time i also see the huge impact my nephew has on my FSIL - and im not ready for that - babies are so dependent and i just cant imagine that right now - everything revolves around the baby and i dont know how i would deal with the things she does, her whole life is different, she is different - she tells me that if it happened i would change my mind once the baby was born, she says that when you see your baby you love it so much and all those things dont matter anymore and you wouldnt trade any of it - and i believe her because i can see how much she loves my nephew, she is such a great mom to him BUT even though she tells me that, and even though i can see her love for him radiate out of her i still dont want one i dont know, i dont think i have the patience right now - im selfish i guess - and i dont want to share FH, i want it to be just us for awhile, and i cant wait until the wedding and house are done with so we can relax a little and spend money more freely on things like trips and dinners, i want to enjoy eachother and THEN have a child later on

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I would be upset if it happened now. I'm a little under 4 months away from the wedding and I'm a plus-sized bride...I don't need to be anymore plus-sized. Also it wouldn't be the ideal time...as it is even right after the wedding it wouldn't be an ideal time financially...but it would be a litle more tolerable.

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Posted by yelley77

I swear, I had your same fear!! at the 9 month mark (back in January) i thought for sure i'd get pregnant... then each month i was like, ok, if i got PG now, I'd be 8 months at the wedding and that went on until last month. I swore that it was going to happen, lol

so i totally understand your fear!!!

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OMG -I was the same way. I kept calculating the time and trying to figure out if I'd be showing or not! LOL!

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Ha ha, believe it or not I have the exact same fear...lol. I want it to happen soon after the wedding, but I just feel like, just because it would happen now, when we least expect or need it lol. I want to be beautiful and skinny looking in my gown, so it would definatly not be great. Trust me, I am freaked out and being extra careful now.
On another note, I think we will start trying asap after the wedding, at least after 6 month. We are both "older" ( I will be 28 at the weddding and FH 33) and have been together for so long that this is what we have been wanting for so long. All our friends around us are having babies and I have major baby fever.

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I was totally nervous right before my wedding. My friends pick on me saying that they never think about it but i do! I would've been devastated (even though it would be a blessing) I mean we were together over 7 years and made it that far...why now?? lol I wanted to enjoy myself and have a drink if i wanted....but I made it through thank goodness. Don't get me wrong though I would've freaked out and then been happy...but still...