Re: Fight with FH - who's right?

we are only taking pics with our parents, grandparents (we only have 3 total) and our bridal party - we are doing all of those before the ceremony.... we are not doing any family photos (no aunts/uncles/cousins)....i dont see a reason for family photos - we are fine with candids of our extended family and ill ask the photographer to get table photos...my FHs sister's cocktail hour was almost ruined because of family photos - after seeing what happened with her (and she didnt even use any of the photos) we decided not to do them

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Posted by MikeandJess

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Posted by sweetdoublenn

Ooo than it has to be 10. I think they should make at least an effort..if not all can come then some? Would that work?

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I recommended this to him, I said tell them to come at 10 and who ever gets here, gets here. He didn't like that either.

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Posted by Future Mulligan

we are only taking pics with our parents, grandparents (we only have 3 total) and our bridal party - we are doing all of those before the ceremony.... we are not doing any family photos (no aunts/uncles/cousins)....i dont see a reason for family photos - we are fine with candids of our extended family and ill ask the photographer to get table photos...my FHs sister's cocktail hour was almost ruined because of family photos - after seeing what happened with her (and she didnt even use any of the photos) we decided not to do them

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I'm going to agree with you - I was so upset that we spent the entire time taking pictures with family even though DH and I saw each other before the ceremony to get everything done. I only had 1 hour to actually enjoy myself to eat and dance. So I say stick to your guns!

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Posted by wundmoretime

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Posted by MikeandJess

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Posted by sweetdoublenn

Ooo than it has to be 10. I think they should make at least an effort..if not all can come then some? Would that work?

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I recommended this to him, I said tell them to come at 10 and who ever gets here, gets here. He didn't like that either.

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did he even ask his family is this would be an issue? Maybe the siblings and parents? ican't see asking the aunts uncles and everyone else.

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Posted by MikeandJess

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Posted by wundmoretime

did he even ask his family is this would be an issue? Maybe the siblings and parents? ican't see asking the aunts uncles and everyone else.

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no he hasn't even asked them yet

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Posted by bluegreen08

The starting point should be him asking them!!! I told DH I wanted all of the grandparents to walk down the aisle because I think it's amazing that we have 7 grandparents still alive, and it's tradition in a Jewish ceremony. He argued with me over it and said his grandparents wouldn't want to etc, but I felt it would look weird if only mine did. Well, we decided I would mention it to them because I would afraid he would poison their thinking... and when I brought it up his grandparents were like... of course! That's how weddings usually are! (they aren't Jewish) so it wasn't an issue at all.

Don't stress about it until you know they won't want to do it. Also, you don't need to have all of the family come at 10. You can tell them 10:30 or even 10:45 and just have them go last... but remind them that the rehearsal starts at 11 so if they want formal pictures they can't be late.

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Re: Fight with FH - who's right?

i happen to agree with you. 10:00 AM is early??? are they traveling far? i don't understand this is YOUR day its a once in lifetime. can't people go out of their way or above and beyond just once?! i had a similiar problem. i told family to be at RH at 6:00 PM for family pics. CH was at 7:00. God help me what you thought i was asking. I got "oh i want to go home & relax", " i have to go home & walk the dog". i was like you know what if you want to be in some pictures please be there by 6:00 if not oh well. but i better not hear crap from you later on when you are looking at the album & you aren't in any of the pictures

i would stick to your guns! its your day!!

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Why don't you suggest to FH to just have the photographer go around the room and take pics of the tables without you two so u don't have to waste the time doing it if everybody can't agree..kind of compromise....

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I think you are definitely right-even with our families arriving an hour early, we still had to do some shots during the cocktail hour. It's hard to coordinate that many people so I say the earlier the better. I think some family was annoyed but it's one day and it's my wedding-no one said anything to me so I'm not sure. I compromised a lot leading up to the wedding and I didn't want to miss my entire cocktail hour-mostly because we had a string trio. I ended up only being at the ch for about 15 minutes so I got to hear them. I think you should talk to you FH again and maybe have some family get there at 10 and some at 10:30 since they probably won't all need to be there at the same time. Good luck and just remember it will all be worth it!!!

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You are right. His family can be there an hour early for pics. I mean for pete's sake, they'll have more time to enjoy the reception too!

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I honestly don't think that you are asking for much. 10am for an 11:30am ceremony is not that early I had all family members who were taking pictures with me get there at 5pm. Our ceremony was at 6:30pm on a Friday mind you so I'm sure they sat in traffic to get there but they got there. I dont blame you for not wanting to take pics during your reception with family.