Not Happy

My first rant.... here we go:

So my mother decided to "dis-invite" people from my wedding and add 2 more couples. What???? They're not even helping me pay for the wedding, so what gives them the right to play around with my guest list! Me & Fh were left with no other choice than to pay for this entirely on our own - and the only comfort we took from that was the fact that we now don't owe a THING to anybody. The whole point is that this is supposed to be OUR wedding.

First off - she didn't actually go to anybody and say "You're no longer invited". It wasn't like that. These people were a big huge part of my childhood growing up. Over the past couple years I've seen a LOT less of them. They left my church because of 'issues' they had about the Pastors (all absurd & childish). But even though they've been absent, I still wanted them a part of this day. I just figured that i'd be sure to not sit them with anybody they feel like they don't get along with. My mom decided (after the invites were all sent out) that it's going to be uncomfortable for the Pastors. I totally understand that, had it been brought up to me BEFORE invitations were sent out!! So now basically my parents are talking to them and saying that they need to reconcile with the pastors or we can't have them there. That is soooo not gonna happen. They're not "big" enough people to reconcile. So basically they're disinvited.

Now - i totally understand the thinking that led to this decision. If i had to choose a side, i'd definitely choose the Pastors, because of the situation. But I would not have disinvited anybody. Esp these people who really do mean a lot to me (not to mention that my family was just at THEIR daughter's wedding a couple weeks ago). So it's kind of annoying that this is happening.

And then my mother sneaked into my room this morning and took out some of the extra invitations I had. She sent 2 more out to 2 couples in my church I'm not even friends with. She said that she just felt like they should have been invited. Why couldn't this have been brought up to me way before???? I'm already 22 people over my limit, there's no way i can afford to add 4 more people to that. My mother said that she'll pay for these couples herself. Ummm... yeah, because i'm not! She said that these people are kind of wealthy anyway and will give a good gift. But I didn't want that kind of wedding. I want it to be filled with close friends, not the kind of people who get everything in life because of their money & connections.

Ahhhh!!! That just made me crazy today. Sorry for the long rant. Needed to tell people.

Re: Not Happy

i agree, she shouldn't have said anything to that couple AFTER they already received your invite that is wrong. I am sure that people can put their differences aside for one day, its about your wedding and not their issues with eachother. As pastors especially i would hope they can let go of the issue and not cause drama. There shouldn't be a problem if they were all together at a wedding, they are adults not kids or teenagers and should know how to conduct themselves at such an event. Also, if these ppl know you for so long maybe it means alot for them to see you get married, and in the end that should mean more than being told that since they have issues with other guests they cant come and cant see you getting married, seeing you get married is the MOST important issue and the only one that matters

Re: Not Happy

Honestly if I were you I'd still invite them. THey don't have to sit in the same place as the PAstor's. It's YOUR wedding and I'm sure everyone will respect that and will just be happy for you rather than be thinking about their issues. That' wouldn't be very Christian on any of their parts.

I would still invite them...especially if they were such an important part of your life.

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id call them and say dont listen to whatever my mom says

you are a grown up, you are getting married, your parents need to let go - its not their wedding its yours and your FHs - id be PISSED if my parents did that......if i was in your shoes id call the guests your mom decide to add behind your back and i would uninvite them - but im a spiteful biatch

Message edited 10/11/2008 4:37:51 PM.

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Posted by bluekat16

Honestly if I were you I'd still invite them. THey don't have to sit in the same place as the PAstor's. It's YOUR wedding and I'm sure everyone will respect that and will just be happy for you rather than be thinking about their issues. That' wouldn't be very Christian on any of their parts.

I would still invite them...especially if they were such an important part of your life.

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