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guest list disaster FMIL driving me insane!!!

eternityawaits Posted: Jun 24, 2003 10:43 PM+

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Posted: Jun 24, 2003 10:43 PM

guest list disaster FMIL driving me insane!!!

We made our guest list a month ago. Invites went out a week and a half ago. We invited 155 people at that time, knowing full well that some won't be able to come, which is fine because mom doesn't want to have to pay for more than 125. Well, we went over the guest list w/FMIL TWICE before I sent the invites, and now she's going 'Well, who did you leave off? I don't want to slip and mention that they may be invited to the wedding. I would have invited so-and-so instead and left off (insert couple's name here)...' and on and on and on. We only left off 5 of the couples she wanted to invite, and she hasn't even spoken to them in months anyway! I want to tell her, 'Well, If I was YOU, I'd keep my darn mouth shut!' It's too late NOW, obviously, but we kept the names on the list in case we get a lot of no's back, and there is still plenty of time to mail more if necessary - the response date is Aug. 5th. AAARRRRGGHHH If I go downstairs right now I know I'm gonna have to say something to her!

August2003 Posted: Jun 24, 2003 10:47 PM+

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Posted: Jun 24, 2003 10:47 PM

Re: guest list disaster FMIL driving me insane!!!

Sorry to hear about it. This is a very stressful time. Our invites just went out also. Hope your night gets better.

Alvatorre74 Posted: Jun 24, 2003 11:29 PM+

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Posted: Jun 24, 2003 11:29 PM

Re: guest list disaster FMIL driving me insane!!!

prncssrachel Posted: Jun 24, 2003 11:30 PM+

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Posted: Jun 24, 2003 11:30 PM

Re: guest list disaster FMIL driving me insane!!!

Tell her she can pay for all the extras!

eternityawaits Posted: Jun 24, 2003 11:32 PM+

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Posted: Jun 24, 2003 11:32 PM

Re: guest list disaster FMIL driving me insane!!!

I was thinking about that! She is not paying for ONE SINGLE THING!! My parents are paying for everything and if they don't want to pay for more than 125 I think she should just leave it alone and mind her own business!

yabbobay Posted: Jun 24, 2003 11:36 PM+

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Posted: Jun 24, 2003 11:36 PM

Re: guest list disaster FMIL driving me insane!!!

I think you calmly tell her that its not financially possible to invite these people right now, but if she would contribut X amount of dollars you would be glad to send out the invites.

or she can wait for the no responses

butterfly20 Posted: Jun 24, 2003 11:41 PM+

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Posted: Jun 24, 2003 11:41 PM

Re: guest list disaster FMIL driving me insane!!!

you can give her the option to invite those people, and whoever responds yes she needs to give you the money cause they are not in your budget

eternityawaits Posted: Jun 24, 2003 11:45 PM+

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Posted: Jun 24, 2003 11:45 PM

Re: guest list disaster FMIL driving me insane!!!

I have tried to discuss this with her calmly and rationally - her response is always 'Well, I would have not invited.... and asked this one instead' Now I'm just trying to ignore it but she just gets under my skin. Rational is not in that woman's vocabulary.

prncssrachel Posted: Jun 24, 2003 11:46 PM+

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Posted: Jun 24, 2003 11:46 PM

Re: guest list disaster FMIL driving me insane!!!

See, I was half being a PIA about the telling her to pay, but I also do believe there are ways you can explain that she can pay for her portion of the guest list that she feels she was gyped on. Good luck!

prncssrachel Posted: Jun 24, 2003 11:47 PM+

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Posted: Jun 24, 2003 11:47 PM