OMG...I am livid..people always hurting me..

I am soooooooooo angry right now!!!!!!!!!! OMG!!!! This early and im so ****ed....I need to vent big time!

I have vented about this friend before and right now I am livid! She is single and lives the single life. She has no responsibilites, no one to answer to, goes out all the time and drives me nuts! When she used to go out, she would never ask me to go anywhere..she had her own group of friends and I was left out which was fine cause I was more into planning my wedding and focusing on my future. Now all of a sudden, when I have more responsibilities than ever before, she asks me all the time to go out and get drunk. Now she is the type of person who goes out and drinks and goes home with a guy. I am not into that. If thats her life than fine, I dont judge, but it is not mine.

So anyway, she asks me to go out tonight. I cant go, I have other things to do. My husband has been working over time like mad and I havent even spent time with him. So i tell her that although I would like to get together, I cant. She tells me that she cant deal with me anymore, that im ridiculous, and that she doesnt have time for me. I tell her that my life has changed a little bit and I have other responsibilities now and she says WHATEVER, tell me she doesnt have time for my bs and signs off aim!!!!!!!!!!

OMG...I am so mad!!!!!!!!! She never asks me to go out for dinner or go shopping (unless she has no one else to go with and needs me) she just wants to go hang in bars. I understand shes not married, I understand shes in a different stage of life and I never say anything to her about anything. I just understand. She even had the balls to tell me that my mom should be over her grief of her fiance cause its been 3 months...ARE YOU KIDDING ME??

This is the same friend that laughed at some of my proofs and many of you told me that she is jealous. I think im cutting this friendship today. IM hesitating to call her cause I know that I will go off on her so bad! And like I posted to Dubliner yesterday, with my irish temper, sometimes I cant control it....

What should I say to her? Am i wrong? Isnt a friend just supposed to understand?? I dont technically agree with her lifestyle but I try never to hurt her. She thinks life is so easy for me, that the adjustment of marriage is just easy as anything..she says im too close with my family and that I need to leave my mom alone..I am sorry, I disagree...

Any feedback? Any opinions? I am so upset right now!

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OMG??? Is her name Michelle???

Listen I had a friend like that...hence the word HAD!!!

She is jealous...and unfortuntely sometimes the single person feels bad that she is still single...

Don't sweat it...Really..I know it's hard..I had that friend for 15 years...but she REALLY isn't a friend to you.

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Cut her loose! She doesn't know how to be a true friend! You deserve better!

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I'm sorry that your friend got you so upset.She is totally wrong. First of all, she doesn't sound like much of a friend. She seems like she needs to grow up. I would tell her in person or via email exactly how you feel. Tell her that you wouldn't mind going out for dinner or lunch but that you aren't into the bar scene anymore & that you are married. I think it was very rude to suggest that anyone should be over their grief after a certain amount of time. It seems like she is acting very childish because she is getting angry because she isn't getting her way. It seems that she is very selfish and only thinks about herself. She doesn't sound like a very good friend at all.

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I wouldn't even call her. I'd just write her off. You don't need friends like that. If one day she comes around and realizes what a loser she was and wants to apologize, then maybe you can consider being her friend again.

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You poor thing! I don't really have any advice other than to say a friend should be able to add to your happiness, not be the cause of your stress. It's hard to give up a friendship but sometimes there are people that become toxic to your life and the only remedy is to let it go. Plus, anytime someone has something bad to say about your mother it's time for them to go!

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Mind you, she had this whole group of friends...and when she hung with them all the time...she NEVER asked me to do anything!!!!! Now, that a lot of them have moved on and do other things, she knows where I am???? I just cannot believe her!

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I'm so sorry you ar e going though this In my case I would probably let her go. You don't need fair weather friends or be the backup for when other things don't work out right. You deserve much better then that!

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You don't need her. I would write her off.

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Say Buh Bye!

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Well my friend..or lets just call her Satan...used to do the same thing to me...but it was because she KNEW I would feel bad about the sistuation and give her the attention he wanted...GIVE HER THE BOOT!!!


Better yet...she told you that she doesn't have time for your BS...well take that as a bye-bye...don't contact her anymore...don't play her baby games!!

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the ball is in her court now
she sounds bitter
let her come to you, you did nothing wrong! she is a baby for signing of aol like that

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I dont cry...

I am irish and I dont know if that has to do with anything but I try not to ever show my feelings and this ***** made me cry this morning. I cant believe this!

So because I am not into going to bars and clubbing, of course dont be my friend anymore?? Wow...

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sometimes you outgrow friends. I stopped being friends with people because of the same thing you're going through! All they wanted to EVER do was go to bars, hook up, cruise franny lew! That was never ME! i was never really a club person... but anyway, sometimes you have to let people go if you just have no common bond or real friendship anymore. It S u c k s but you can be better off. Its not your fault, she just can't seem to be interested in what you want to do...

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She does sound jealous, and it sounds from her behaviour that she is lonely and insecure, not content with life

Good luck with your decision

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I started writing her an email over and over the past couple of minutes and I keep deleting it. I dont want her to think she got the better of me.

I am soooooooo mad...

Usually I just put it off on jealousy..but this isnt even just my friend ya know...this is supposedly one of my best friends...when we were teenagers, the guys I used to hang out with despised her, hated her being around, my bf at the time (the guy in the army) even told me that if I didnt stop bringing her around that he would break up with me....

and i always chose her..and this is what I get!

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Noreen
You are a doll

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Noreen, I have a friend like that but she IS married!! I just pretty much email her once in a while and just avoid her. Don't be upset; she's not worth it. I understand your feeling hurt/upset though. Focus on your future and be happy!