pregnant bridesmaids?

My sister in law is going to try to get pregnant before my wedding. Also my friend is going to as well. I want them both in the bridal party, although haven't asked them yet. My sister in law knows she is a BM, but I haven't asked my friend yet. My friend, because of health reasons cannot try to get pregant before December, which cuts it close to the wedding.

1. Do I ask my friend to be in my BP, but while telling her that it is ok if she doesn't want to be because of the pregnancy?

2. If they are pregnant and in the BP, is it hard to be involved, go to fittings etc?

I don't want my friend to feel obligated to be in it.

3. How many of you have or have pregnant BMs? How did it go?

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I think you should let her decide. I have a friend in the same situation - she wants to have a baby in June and my wedding is in April. I don't feel it's right to say she can't be pregnant - although she did ask me if I minded - I said of course not. The only thing she can't be involved in is drinking at the bachelorette party and the wedding. Otherwise she'll be participating (unless any unforseen circumstances - we'll adjust to it) She's not pregnant yet and may not be that far along by April or maybe she will.

As for fittings, what she did was go to RK Bridal in NYC where bm's have an option to buy a dress on their own through them - they measure themselves and order the size based on that - and then ask for extra material too just in case and then when it comes in, you go and get it, RK Bridal does NOT do any alterations on it. They won't do alterations for pregnant bridesmaids. They say they've had too many bad situations where the girl wasn't happy with the alterations so they just stopped doing it.
But if your BM knows of a good seamstress she can have that person alter the dress. Just make sure the last fitting is a few days before the wedding just in case she puts on a few pounds with the baby right before the wedding.

Good luck!

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My sister was pregnant at my wedding, she was my MOH. Everything worked out perfectly. Some people aren't comfortable being pregnant and in the wedding. I would still ask them and let them decide later on what they want to do. There are so many dresses these days that they will feel and look beautiful even if they have a big belly.

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My SIL will be pregnant at my wedding, and she already ordered the dress before gettin prego. SHe will just need the dress altered, they will be adding panels to it. Leave it up to her.

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Thanks for your help girls! I will ask, and have her decide, even if she changes her mind down the road.

I like the added order of fabric!

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My sister who is one of matrons of honor will be8 months pregnant for my wedding, she already has her dress, its a maternity and closer to the date she'll have it altered no problem. Her baby shower is just a few days before my wedding..and its wokred out great so far!! She has gone places withme..totally helped me..no problems!!!Give them the option..im sure itll be fine!!! Good luck!1

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Thanks!

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My FSIL is pregnant and I ordered an a-line 2 piece. In the largest size '24' .

Also, because it is a-line and most dresses are very long, and if it doesn't fit her ..you can always alter the skirt by pulling up the skirt so that it can fit her belly.

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One of my brides maids is actually due the day before my wedding argh!!!! The doctor says since this is the 2nd child it will most likely be born before.Anyway she has the same dress as all the brides maids in an empire waist style. Still you have to leave the decision up to them on how they would feel about being in the wedding

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My FSIL will be about 8 months preg on my wedding, which is just 2 1/2 wks away. She has the dress at a seamstress now, trying to do something with it. I told her if it can't be altered she should just buy a nice dress and it's OK with me. She said I may regret that one day when I'm looking at the pictures and she's not wearing the same thing as everyone else. But really...will the world stop if one person is dressed differently? Will my marriage fail? No. So although I would prefer everyone be the same, I'm not going to stress over it.