NWR--Help-don't know to be scared or angry!!

Hello ladies...

I just recently discovered that fh has tons.., when I mean tons plenty.......of dirty/XXX-rated shows (clips) ........ that he downloads on the internet at night. I feel like he is cheating on me with it. What do I do? Stay quiet and keep planning the wedding, I am nervous..as I type!!! Feel free to fm me.

Thanks!!!

Re: NWR--Help-don't know to be scared or angry!!

I think you two definitely need to have a chat about this. You need to confront him, but not in an angry way. That will only put him on the defensive.

Has he gone out of his way to hide this from you???

Re: NWR--Help-don't know to be scared or angry!!

No not at all....it is just there...I mean if I had no idea how to work the machine..I would not know where to look. I was just trying to figure out why our machine is running slow. It is because he is saving all this filth on it. So the machine is running very slow. I started looking through the media player...

thanks so much!!!

Re: NWR--Help-don't know to be scared or angry!!

I agree you definitely need to talk, I mean this isn't necessarily a bad thing unless he lies about it or goes out of his way to hide it. I am not sure what to say other then communication and awareness are key!

Re: NWR--Help-don't know to be scared or angry!!

talk to him about it...keep an open mind , let him talk and explain it to you , if he feels he can talk openly without you freaking out he will be open and it will be easier for you to discuss you feeling too.

Re: NWR--Help-don't know to be scared or angry!!

I mean if this was a good thing...It won't make me feel bad...Right? It just bothers me...that there were so much!! I mean the hard drive is actually loaded!!!!

Re: NWR--Help-don't know to be scared or angry!!

its not that its a bad thing, its how it makes you feel...if it makes you feel bad then you need to understand why...you may not feel as 'bad' once you understand...your bad/angry feelings can change ya know....

Re: NWR--Help-don't know to be scared or angry!!

I definately think that you should express your feelings and concerns with him before you make any rash decisions. It seems like it bothers you a lot so I would not keep it bottled up inside.

Re: NWR--Help-don't know to be scared or angry!!

i agree that you should discuss this w/ FI and express your feelings. personally, i don't think it is a big deal. it's a fact of life that guys look and notice other females. if you feel offended or violated, explain this to him. obviously he wasn't trying to be sneaky and hide the fact that he does download it. don't get mad or make accusations, try to talk to him calmy and let him know that you are hurt and offended.

Re: NWR--Help-don't know to be scared or angry!!

You can look at it two ways.


1. He likes looking at the stuff and yiu need to have a little talk.


OR

2. His friends e-mail them too him and he has a good laugh about them. (MY FH had many when I met him and they were all e-mails friom his friends, he has slowed down tremendously since then!!)