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PLEASE vote on time frame!

BriBri529 Posted: Jun 30, 2003 06:44 AM+

BriBri529 MEMBER SINCE: 8/02 TOTAL POSTS : 7121 WEDDING DATE: Jul 10, 2005

Posted: Jun 30, 2003 06:44 AM

PLEASE vote on time frame!

Okay, I know you are all tired of me posting about my church dilemna, and I promise you will never have to hear about it again (except for the final decision of course

).

I haven't received an overwhelming response in the past, so I decided to do a quick and easy poll- Please Vote!

#1

My House to My Church-9 minutes

3:00 - Ceremony begins (cannot have a mass- 'celebration' is 30 minutes long)

Travel time between Church and Villa Lombardi's: approx: 21 minutes

6:00 Reception Starts

(guests will be sent suggestions for what to do between church and reception- parents will not host at houses.)

OR

#2

My House to Fiance's Church - 53 minutes

3:30 ceremony begins (will not have time for a full mass, so 'celebration' - 30 minutes long)

Travel Time between Church and Villa Lombardi's: approx. 37 minutes.

Reception begins 6:00

If these were your options, what would you choose?

Thanks Ladies!!!

MayDay16 Posted: Jun 30, 2003 07:59 AM+

MayDay16 MEMBER SINCE: 12/02 TOTAL POSTS : 946 WEDDING DATE: May 16, 2003

Posted: Jun 30, 2003 07:59 AM

Re: PLEASE vote on time frame!

#1 - Less stress, more time. The advise I give any bride is to make sure you give enough time between the church and the ceremony. This prevents you from being too stressed. If you are actually looking to enjoy your cocktail hour this will give you enough time to take pictures and enjoy your day. It sets the tone for your day, you won't feel rushed and the day doesn't go as fast.

daisybride Posted: Jun 30, 2003 08:23 AM+

daisybride MEMBER SINCE: 5/03 TOTAL POSTS : 1527 WEDDING DATE: Jul 24, 2004

Posted: Jun 30, 2003 08:23 AM

Re: PLEASE vote on time frame!

I would go with #1, but why does the travel time between the church and the reception hall change? Wha tkind of sugestions will you be making for the guests to do in between? That is a good idea!

Niecey Posted: Jun 30, 2003 09:09 AM+

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Posted: Jun 30, 2003 09:09 AM

Re: PLEASE vote on time frame!

Go with #1 (and too be too concerned for your guests - they will find their way! believe me...most people are use to it!). I had almost the exact timing situation as #1 except my reception was 6:30. We took pictures in vbetween and we were rushed towards the end if I wanted to be part of my cocktail hour! My MIL was very upset about the time difference and was very hard on us for this but even she realized that day how quick that in between time goes.

MIL hosted a little thing at the hotel in between - pastries and things for her family and friends. My family and our friends all found things to do and not one person said anything to us. I laughed my co-workers all dressed up - hung out in a Borders and read magazines!! They didn't care but it was kind of funny. LOL

jags77 Posted: Jun 30, 2003 09:18 AM+

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Posted: Jun 30, 2003 09:18 AM

Re: PLEASE vote on time frame!

#1 definitely

the less travel time you have the better off you'll be .
less stress. and you won't have to worry about traffic.

aliciahelene Posted: Jun 30, 2003 09:47 AM+

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Posted: Jun 30, 2003 09:47 AM

Re: PLEASE vote on time frame!

# 1!!!

BriBri529 Posted: Jun 30, 2003 08:00 PM+

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Posted: Jun 30, 2003 08:00 PM

Re: PLEASE vote on time frame!

bump

HeatherandNick Posted: Jun 30, 2003 08:50 PM+

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Posted: Jun 30, 2003 08:50 PM

Re: PLEASE vote on time frame!

Olgaki Posted: Jun 30, 2003 08:52 PM+

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Posted: Jun 30, 2003 08:52 PM

Re: PLEASE vote on time frame!

I'd pick number 2 - I HATE WAITING BETWEEN CHURCH AND FOOD!

cluelessbride Posted: Jun 30, 2003 09:07 PM+

cluelessbride MEMBER SINCE: 8/02 TOTAL POSTS : 4570 WEDDING DATE: Oct 23, 2004

Posted: Jun 30, 2003 09:07 PM

Re: PLEASE vote on time frame!

as a bride, #1

prncssrachel Posted: Jun 30, 2003 09:16 PM+

prncssrachel MEMBER SINCE: 2/03 TOTAL POSTS : 11213 WEDDING DATE: Jul 03, 2005 WEDDING LOCATION: Stewart Manor Country Club

Posted: Jun 30, 2003 09:16 PM

Re: PLEASE vote on time frame!

#1, you're the one who will have the most stress the day of, so why add. I don't mind waiting in between the church and the reception.

August2003 Posted: Jun 30, 2003 09:24 PM+

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Posted: Jun 30, 2003 09:24 PM

Re: PLEASE vote on time frame!

While #1 has a long wait period, number 2 seems to be risky with not enough time. People always find something to do. It's your day to do whats best for you and try to not worry about the guests, they will be fine.
btw-Villa is beautiful and the food is great!

Maribelle7777 Posted: Jun 30, 2003 09:41 PM+

Maribelle7777 MEMBER SINCE: 5/03 TOTAL POSTS : 5699 WEDDING DATE: Apr 30, 2004

Posted: Jun 30, 2003 09:41 PM

Re: PLEASE vote on time frame!

#1 but don't let guests give suggestions...you'll get either no one suggesting anything or too many suggestions and people going 'why didn't you pick my suggestion?' Or ask some of your friends or family for suggestions, but not via the invitation. Perhaps someone will offer up their home for the 'down time'. but if you ask for suggestions it might seem like you're asking for someone to offer up their home...not something you want to do.

Is there no way to push the church back later?
If not, then people will just either go home or go to their hotel. Don't worry about parents having guests at their home in between or not. And don't sweat it, your guests will not be upset that there was such a long time period in between each. Like others said, people find things to do in between. Yours is not the first to have 'down time' and certainly not the last : ) Don't sweat it!

Otherwise, you can do #2 but can you book a hotel for the night before so you get ready closer to your fiances church?
And are you taking into account traffic in your time frames?

JR515 Posted: Jun 30, 2003 09:44 PM+

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Posted: Jun 30, 2003 09:44 PM

Re: PLEASE vote on time frame!

# 1 for the same reasons everyone has stated....less stress and don't worry about the guests they will be fine. Good luck with your decision.

BriBri529 Posted: Jul 01, 2003 06:49 AM+

BriBri529 MEMBER SINCE: 8/02 TOTAL POSTS : 7121 WEDDING DATE: Jul 10, 2005

Posted: Jul 01, 2003 06:49 AM

Re: PLEASE vote on time frame!

Thanks for your votes, girls!

aliasPook Posted: Jul 01, 2003 08:13 AM+

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Posted: Jul 01, 2003 08:13 AM

Re: PLEASE vote on time frame!

I vote for two. As long as your ceremony starts on time, I don't think it'll be a problem.

anna Posted: Jul 01, 2003 08:36 AM+

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Posted: Jul 01, 2003 08:36 AM

Re: PLEASE vote on time frame!

#1, but I would also make sure the church is the one that means the most to you and hubby.

karen32 Posted: Jul 01, 2003 08:58 AM+

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Posted: Jul 01, 2003 08:58 AM

Re: PLEASE vote on time frame!

from a bride's perspective #1. guests can always find something to do. if there's enough time they can even go to the church casual and use the time in between to change

HappyEverAfter Posted: Jul 01, 2003 09:16 AM+

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Posted: Jul 01, 2003 09:16 AM

Re: PLEASE vote on time frame!

I would vote for #1. I had to give up taking our pics at a site like Westbury Gardens b.c it would have meant too much rushing around the day of. FH and I decided that it was more important to enjoy the day, and our guests- many of whom will be traveling long distances to be with us. For your peace of mind I think the closer church and more picture time will work better. Good luck!

Annemarie13 Posted: Jul 01, 2003 09:18 AM+

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Posted: Jul 01, 2003 09:18 AM