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AwaitingAugust Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:24 PM+

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Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:24 PM

DH's mother ...

thinks that i should attend their family's events without DH ...

i say hell's no.

even DH agrees it'd be stupid for me to attend their events without him (eg: if he's sick or whatnot and can't go)

oh, and when i say 'events', i mean birthday parties and other such celebrations.

so how bout you guys?

AngnShaun Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:25 PM+

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Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:25 PM

Re: DH's mother ...

id go... i actually love Shauns extended family... its his parents i dont like.. and his mom is usually too messed up to make it to any event...

flibbertigibbet Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:28 PM+

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Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:28 PM

Re: DH's mother ...

i voted no.. but i guess it depends on what it was.

if it was like... evil sister in law's birthday... hell no.

if it was one of the sisters birthdays that i liked... then maybe.

but for the most part no.

cateydee Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:29 PM+

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Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:29 PM

Re: DH's mother ...

i go. and he goes to my family's stuff without me.

eta that's cuz we LIKE each other's families. If you dont really care for the family, i dont see why it even makes sense for you to go.

MerSaysEh Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:29 PM+

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Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:29 PM

Re: DH's mother ...

i'd go. but i'm super close to Jon's family.

Byrne2Be Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:30 PM+

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Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:30 PM

Re: DH's mother ...

Totally depends on the event.

I'd go with my SILs. Well, 3 of my 4 SILs...

I don't go near the 4th one unattended.

I'd go if it were an event for my neice or nephews...love my little munchkins!

I would feel very uneasy about doing anything solo with my MIL She has 3 daughters of her own and she is not warm with any of them so she has no reason to be warm/kind to her newest daughter in law....she's a toughie

kris_gets_hitched Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:30 PM+

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Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:30 PM

Re: DH's mother ...

No.

Most of them pretend not to speak English unless it's convenient for them, which is a trait I despise.

So....no.

Lsorrent Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:30 PM+

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Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:30 PM

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I'd probably go. I'm pretty close with DH's family.

Byrne2Be Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:32 PM+

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Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:32 PM

Re: DH's mother ...

Posted by kris_gets_hitched

No.

Most of them pretend not to speak English unless it's convenient for them, which is a trait I despise.

So....no.

Oh for pete's sake.

kris_gets_hitched Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:37 PM+

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Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:37 PM

Re: DH's mother ...

Posted by Byrne2Be

Posted by kris_gets_hitched

No.

Most of them pretend not to speak English unless it's convenient for them, which is a trait I despise.

So....no.

Oh for pete's sake.

Dude seriously, the best part is, I understand *some* Bengali in conversation...so I know when they're talking about me.

And one day I couldn't take it anymore and blurted out...'I wish people would just say what they think of me in English. I've had to learn a lot of Bengali words in order to know how ya'll feel'

******crickets******

Thats-What-She-Said Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:38 PM+

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Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:38 PM

Re: DH's mother ...

No, not until I have kids.

AwaitingAugust Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:40 PM+

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Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:40 PM

Re: DH's mother ...

Posted by kris_gets_hitched

Posted by Byrne2Be

Posted by kris_gets_hitched

No.

Most of them pretend not to speak English unless it's convenient for them, which is a trait I despise.

So....no.

Oh for pete's sake.

Dude seriously, the best part is, I understand *some* Bengali in conversation...so I know when they're talking about me.

And one day I couldn't take it anymore and blurted out...'I wish people would just say what they think of me in English. I've had to learn a lot of Bengali words in order to know how ya'll feel'

******crickets******

wow ... just wow!

jhines4684 Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:57 PM+

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Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:57 PM

Re: DH's mother ...

it depends on what it is and who else is there, otherwise, no.

SummerBride10 Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:58 PM+

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Posted: Mar 28, 2011 05:58 PM

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I would. i love his family!

rdubs Posted: Mar 28, 2011 06:13 PM+

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Posted: Mar 28, 2011 06:13 PM

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I would go but that's me. Definitely depends on your relationship.

mariedsgn Posted: Mar 28, 2011 06:45 PM+

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Posted: Mar 28, 2011 06:45 PM

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I'd go, and I have in the past! I get along really well with Anthonys family!

jackieee Posted: Mar 28, 2011 06:49 PM+

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Posted: Mar 28, 2011 06:49 PM

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I'd go and I have done this before. I mean it only happened once. It was for a friend of his family's baby's baptism. We just moved, so Dino didn't feel like going, but I had already RSVPed yes, and she came to my bridal shower and goes to all his family events, so I went without Dino. His mom, bro and wife were there, so I hung out with them.

If he was sick, I would go to any of his family's birthday parties, etc. I like his family a lot though. We all get along.

MrsSx2 Posted: Mar 28, 2011 07:43 PM+

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Posted: Mar 28, 2011 07:43 PM

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I would vote 'hell to the no' if it were an option.

StaceyWill Posted: Mar 28, 2011 07:45 PM+

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Posted: Mar 28, 2011 07:45 PM

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No way. I don't like to go even if DH is with me.

T E R I Posted: Mar 28, 2011 08:20 PM+

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Posted: Mar 28, 2011 08:20 PM

Re: DH's mother ...

I've gone to DH's nephew and niece's communion, two different years without DH and thats having to ride in a car with his family to western Jersey there and back for both of them