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luvabul Posted: Jun 01, 2012 02:21 AM+

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Posted: Jun 01, 2012 02:21 AM

How much to give for wedding

Going to a friends wedding from law school, we are not super close or anything, but I would say casual friends. He didn’t invite many people from law school, but invited my husband and I. It’s a Sunday wedding, and if it matters it’s a Jewish wedding. I really have no idea what to give. My friend told me I should give $180 since I forgot she was saying something about 8 meaning good luck/wishes in the Jewish religion. Is that a good amount, more or less? Please advise.

Thanks

kattus Posted: Jun 01, 2012 06:46 AM+

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Posted: Jun 01, 2012 06:46 AM

Re: How much to give for wedding

$150-200 seems like a good amount.

leesah85 Posted: Jun 01, 2012 10:07 AM+

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Posted: Jun 01, 2012 10:07 AM

Re: How much to give for wedding

i personally never go to any wedding without giving at least $200. i think you're good with $200 on this one. if you want to respect the culture, do $208?

im not jewish so i dont really know.

HSsweethearts Posted: Jun 01, 2012 10:15 AM+

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Posted: Jun 01, 2012 10:15 AM

Re: How much to give for wedding

I wouldn't give less than $200 for a wedding.

You want to give in multiples of $18. Since 18 symbolizes chai or life. , so you can give $216 or you can give $200.18

At our wedding we actually got VERY few gifts in chai (18). One great aunt sent us a $36 check and that was about it.

Ellynrose Posted: Jun 02, 2012 10:09 AM+

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Posted: Jun 02, 2012 10:09 AM

Re: How much to give for wedding

I recieved a couple of checks for 180, but from singles... I'd personally do no less than 200 for a couple.

LMEL1223 Posted: Jun 02, 2012 12:37 PM+

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Posted: Jun 02, 2012 12:37 PM

Re: How much to give for wedding

I always give 100 per person so 200 for DH and I.

As far as culture goes 18 is the numeric representation for Jewish symbol 'chai' This symbol represents life and virtue so many people give monetary gifts in multiple of 18 believing that it means a long life filled with virtue for the couple.
so 180 would follow that tradition.

kshea23 Posted: Jun 03, 2012 07:42 PM+

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Posted: Jun 03, 2012 07:42 PM

Re: How much to give for wedding

anywhere between $150-200 for a friend

HSsweethearts Posted: Jun 04, 2012 02:35 PM+

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Posted: Jun 04, 2012 02:35 PM

Re: How much to give for wedding

I should add that giving gifts in chai is not a requirement by any means, just a little way to wish the couple well. As I mentioned, almost no one gave us out gifts in chai, so if the amount you want to give doesn't fit in to that, don't go crazy

leesah85 Posted: Jun 04, 2012 04:49 PM+

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Posted: Jun 04, 2012 04:49 PM