Need advice on giving wedding gift - Long

Being a newlywed this shouldn't be a problem, right? Alas, it is. Here's the background: for our wedding we received mostly cash but some gifts that were high end items on our registry (ie: the teapot that usually is never bought (LOL), platters, etc). The cash was super helpful b/c we paid for it ourselves. The gifts were also very appreciated - and I think of those people every time I use them.

My sister is getting married this May. Between my dad and her inlaws, the reception, most of the wedding & their furniture is bought and paid for. Left on her registry are many of her china dishes plus some other high end items. I wanted to buy her a few place settings (she only has 4 of 12 so far) , her high end salad bowl and Godinger cheese platter as a gift. I am her MoH and in addition to the gift, I paid for 1/2 her shower, my gown, and all sorts of other stuff. I thought it would be a nice gift...my cousin (also a Bridesmaid) frowned at the idea and said I should only give cash.

Yes, they're all on her registry

and I was thinking I'd give them the gift in advance so they wouldn't have to worry about lugging the gifts around.

My sister is getting married this May. Between my dad and her inlaws, the reception, most of the wedding & their furniture is bought and paid for. Left on her registry are many of her china dishes plus some other high end items. I wanted to buy her a few place settings (she only has 4 of 12 so far) , her high end salad bowl and Godinger cheese platter as a gift. I am her MoH and in addition to the gift, I paid for 1/2 her shower, my gown, and all sorts of other stuff. I thought it would be a nice gift...my cousin (also a Bridesmaid) frowned at the idea and said I should only give cash.

Need advice on giving wedding gift - Long

I did not receive one gift for my wedding, it was all cash. I preferred the cash. Guests knew we were from out of town so maybe they didn't want us to bring them home. But it depends on the situation, I bought my good friend her silverware(off her registry), because she just bought a house and needed this stuff. You should know your sister and wether she wants to get the rest of her stuff or does she need the money. I actually bought the rest of my china after the wedding.

I think all that stuff you want to buy is great. Maybe you can ask her if she is going to buy all the stuff after the wedding if she doesn't receive it. Then you'll know it's OK to buy it.

Need advice on giving wedding gift - Long

I think as long as it is on her registry I think it is fine to give a gift than money. I received a service for 4 dish set for my wedding. I have to return it because I have three settings already (my mother's china, his aunt gave us China, and my everyday dishes). I didn't know the wife, so we never invited her to the shower. So either they just didn't know what to give for the wedding or they assumed a shower would be first. They were invited kind of last minute. My friend didn't get most of her China so I know she would have appreciated getting stuff. Just remember to bring bags so she can carry them home. I never expected gifts so I was kind of trying to stuff things into other gift bags.

My sister is getting married this May. Between my dad and her inlaws, the reception, most of the wedding & their furniture is bought and paid for. Left on her registry are many of her china dishes plus some other high end items. I wanted to buy her a few place settings (she only has 4 of 12 so far) , her high end salad bowl and Godinger cheese platter as a gift. I am her MoH and in addition to the gift, I paid for 1/2 her shower, my gown, and all sorts of other stuff. I thought it would be a nice gift...my cousin (also a Bridesmaid) frowned at the idea and said I should only give cash.

Need advice on giving wedding gift - Long

Give the dishes... Otherwise, if you give her cash, she'll just have to buy the dishes herself and it will have less meaning...like you said, you think of the person who gave you the item when you use it. She's going to have to get them at somepoint anyway to complete her set...do that for her.

Yes, they're all on her registry

I got both gifts from the registry and cash, I even got a few gifts that were not on the registry and I LOVE them. So go with your initial idea and get a gift, especially if its something she wants.

Yes, they're all on her registry

That would work out better. I had my shower 2 months before the wedding and one of the ladies decided to give me the silverware for the wedding. We had to borrow a set of his mothers to use until we got our own. This way your sister will have time to put everything in it's place. When we got home from the wedding, we just dumped everything in a pile becasue our flight was leaving in 6 hours.

My sister is getting married this May. Between my dad and her inlaws, the reception, most of the wedding & their furniture is bought and paid for. Left on her registry are many of her china dishes plus some other high end items. I wanted to buy her a few place settings (she only has 4 of 12 so far) , her high end salad bowl and Godinger cheese platter as a gift. I am her MoH and in addition to the gift, I paid for 1/2 her shower, my gown, and all sorts of other stuff. I thought it would be a nice gift...my cousin (also a Bridesmaid) frowned at the idea and said I should only give cash.