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Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?

VS11 Posted: Mar 21, 2005 10:18 AM+

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Posted: Mar 21, 2005 10:18 AM

Re: Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?

I am...I bought a memory candle with my grandmother's name on it and one for FH's uncle..

mcaula Posted: Mar 21, 2005 10:31 AM+

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Posted: Mar 21, 2005 10:31 AM

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Thanks for the idea ladies Fh and I definately wanted to something to commerate our grandmothers who both passed away.

Kiddo115 Posted: Mar 21, 2005 10:38 AM+

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Posted: Mar 21, 2005 10:38 AM

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We are doing a flower offering to the Blessed Mother, where a song will be played and in the program it will say why we are doing that.. we will probably say a short prayer while we are over there... I can't even begin to think about it cause I start to cry.. lost way too many people....

MandM07-03-05 Posted: Mar 21, 2005 12:24 PM+

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Posted: Mar 21, 2005 12:24 PM

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We did a memorial candle for DH's mom. We got both our unity candle and the memorial candle from Wax Inspirations

thanx for the link it has some grest prases and poems!

i collected a bunch of pix of my grandparents and framed them. i have 1 frame left over and i'm going to put a poem inside it.

m&m2005 Posted: Mar 21, 2005 12:40 PM+

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Posted: Mar 21, 2005 12:40 PM

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I made several candles for our family and friends who have left us. It was important for us because FH just lost his dad to cancer. We are having them blessed during the ceremony and lit at the reception. We just haven't decided if they will be placed on the tables with the closest relative, for example.. his dad's would be on his mom's table.

halloweenbride04 Posted: Mar 21, 2005 01:36 PM+

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Posted: Mar 21, 2005 01:36 PM

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DH lit a memorial candle for his Dad and on the back of our program I wrote: 'Though we cannot see you we know you are here, though we cannot touch you we feel the warmth of your smile' and listed the names of our deceased relatives and close friends. The priest also mentioned DH's Dad in the Prayer of the Faithful (we had a mass).

MandM07-03-05 Posted: Mar 21, 2005 06:06 PM+

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Posted: Mar 21, 2005 06:06 PM

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jaylovesme Posted: Mar 21, 2005 09:45 PM+

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Posted: Mar 21, 2005 09:45 PM

Re: Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?

in the jewish religion, we do also similar to what you guys are doing. we light a yursite(i tihnk that's how you sell it) candle. my fh father died when he was only 2. my fh will light the candle before our cermony, the rabbi will also do a special prayer after he lights it.

aidamarie Posted: Mar 22, 2005 01:08 AM+

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Posted: Mar 22, 2005 01:08 AM

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Posted by LO13LO13

we are having this candle holder, we are going to light it at the ceremony and then have it moved to our dais, i thought it would be a nice way to have them 'at the wedding' with us

I just asked the same question, my brother past away unexpectedy in June, and i want to have a candle also, wasnt sure if it was appropriate. Please tell me where you got this candle, I havent seen any like this.

goingtobemrs Posted: Mar 29, 2005 10:28 AM+

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Posted: Mar 29, 2005 10:28 AM

Re: Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?

If we are doing this verse for his dad, should we write at the bottom 'Dad' or his name?

Although we cannot see you
We know that you are here
Smiling down, watching over us
As we say “I DO”
Forever in our hearts
Forever in our lives
And so we say our vows in
In loving memory of you:

kay Posted: Mar 29, 2005 12:01 PM+

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Posted: Mar 29, 2005 12:01 PM

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Posted by jpavig

Posted by swags1016

We also had a memory table which I loved having around us.

I love, love this idea. I'm going to borrow that idea if you don't mind.

me too

ManhattanWoman Posted: Mar 29, 2005 12:12 PM+

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Posted: Mar 29, 2005 12:12 PM

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We're lighting a memorial candle right after we light our unity candle. The unity candle will be on the altar and the memorial will be on a stand in front of where we're sitting. After we light our unity candle we will go down and light the memorial candle. (Both the candle and our programs will have the names and a message)While we're lighting it a friend will read a passage from the bible and say the names of our loved ones who have passed.

Also.my dress will have pictures of my grandparents pressed into it ( the underside) and FH will have a handkerchief with his dad and brother pressed onto it too! I will be making the iron-on transfers.

Love the memory table idea!!!