Would anyone consider using a bridal consultant to help them plan their wedding?
You also have a valid gripe with the food issue, and as you pointed out it can put us (vendors) in a difficult spot. I would say half of the weddings that I have played in my life, I was not given (food wise) what the client payed for. The truth is that it should be the responsibility of whoever is paying to insure that they get what they pay for.
I didn't think I wanted/needed a bridal consultant. My fiance and I figured we could handle everything on our own and that a bridal consultant would just be an extra expense. However, our reception hall offers a "party coordinator" who is available to all of their brides "free of charge"...meaning, the cost is built into the cost of the hall price, however we can use her help for as much or as little as we'd like.
So far, it's been nice to run down my ideas with her, and she can guide me in the right direction for the house vendors (vendors that are recommended by the reception hall) that are within my budget...which is a huge time saver! She's also a good resource for other ideas.
We visited about a dozen reception halls, and a few of them had a party coordinator to use like this. We didn't necessarily choose the hall based on this perk, but it was a nice incentive. I figure, if I got her at my convenience, I might as well put her to work! :-)