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JAAMS Posted: Nov 06, 2009 06:09 PM+

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Posted: Nov 06, 2009 06:09 PM

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i hope everything is ok! please let us know when you can

Nina1010 Posted: Nov 06, 2009 11:07 PM+

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MarjorieFrank Posted: Nov 06, 2009 11:48 PM+

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Im getting Married Posted: Nov 06, 2009 11:52 PM+

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Posted: Nov 06, 2009 11:52 PM

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Unfortunately people need to learn from their own mistakes but it is surprising that your FILs are okay with this guy staying with them

netsirk10 Posted: Nov 06, 2009 11:58 PM+

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Posted: Nov 06, 2009 11:58 PM

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thats horrible! did you tell FIL's about his criminal background?

MongieToBe Posted: Nov 06, 2009 11:58 PM+

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Posted by Im getting Married

Unfortunately people need to learn from their own mistakes but it is surprising that your FILs are okay with this guy staying with them

That's what I was thinking

for you & FH's family! Sorry hun!

daniellek730 Posted: Nov 07, 2009 12:55 AM+

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Posted: Nov 07, 2009 12:55 AM

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Unfortunately, people think they can 'fix' other people. This is very serious and a dangerous situation. What's worst about it is usually the person has to get rid of the person on their own and will not smarten up with the advice of others. It's unfortunate and I hope that your FSIL figures this out sooner than later.

Future Mrs H Posted: Nov 07, 2009 07:10 AM+

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Posted: Nov 07, 2009 07:10 AM

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OMG Marjorie- I dont know what to say! This is horrible. It may not be that your FIL dont want to do anything- they might be afraid of him. If they try to throw him out they might be afraid that he might do something. I know if it was me I would be afraid. At least get FH out of there. Can he come and live with you? Or maybe a friend? Unfortunatly you cant help someone who doesnt want help (FSIL) but if you can help FH that would be major.
I cant imagine what you are going through right now. I just want to let you know I am here if you need to talk.

SummerBride10 Posted: Nov 07, 2009 07:45 AM+

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Posted: Nov 07, 2009 07:45 AM

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What a sad situation....hang in there Marjorie, I hope your FSIL gets some help and gets away from this prick

miamimerger Posted: Nov 07, 2009 07:53 AM+

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Posted: Nov 07, 2009 07:53 AM

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Posted by daniellek730

Unfortunately, people think they can 'fix' other people. This is very serious and a dangerous situation. What's worst about it is usually the person has to get rid of the person on their own and will not smarten up with the advice of others. It's unfortunate and I hope that your FSIL figures this out sooner than later.

I agree. I would suggest talking to a counselor about this sooner rather than later. I know you might be thinking 'why would I have to talk to one, she's the one who is in danger!' You might be a better ally for FSIL if you have stronger support with you.

GinaMike24 Posted: Nov 07, 2009 08:03 AM+

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Posted: Nov 07, 2009 08:03 AM

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Why would they let know stay?? She has only known him a week? They need to kick him out!!

kater08 Posted: Nov 07, 2009 08:06 AM+

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Posted: Nov 07, 2009 08:06 AM

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They are letting a convicted RAPIST that they don't even know sleep in their home????? Forgive me for being rude, but I think the whole family needs some kind of therapy. Not only is that extremely dangerous, its just plain stupid.

I would not step foot in that house until this guy is out of the picture. Even then, he knows WAY too much about the family and their routine already. He could come back at any time, even after they break up.

Is there anywhere FH can go to live for the time being?? You and he seem to be th only ones that are aware of this exrememly dangerous situation.

heathery72 Posted: Nov 07, 2009 08:11 AM+

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Posted: Nov 07, 2009 08:11 AM

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It's so sad to see people not realize such a bad situation. Good luck I hope everything works okay for the best.

Drues_Girl Posted: Nov 07, 2009 08:15 AM+

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Posted: Nov 07, 2009 08:15 AM

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Thats crazyyyy!!!! Im so sorry you have to deal with this!!! Whats up with FSIL... SNap out of it girl... SERIOUSLY?

MrsC2010 Posted: Nov 07, 2009 08:48 AM+

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omg that is terrible.

I can't believe she is willing to not only put her life in danger but everyone else's around her. thats so scary. i hope everything works out

GR2010 Posted: Nov 07, 2009 08:51 AM+

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Posted: Nov 07, 2009 08:51 AM

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OMG!!! Marjorie that is terrible. I don't even know what to say... Why do the FILs let him stay in their home? Do they know he's a sex offender?

regy_k Posted: Nov 07, 2009 09:04 AM+

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Posted: Nov 07, 2009 09:04 AM

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holy crap Marjorie.....................

so sorry for u to be in this situation. dont even know what to say

I dont think there is anything u can do to help her if she refuses to see sense. the only thing is maybe u can have ur FH stay with u? is that an option?

praying for ur family to be ok

cateydee Posted: Nov 07, 2009 10:06 AM+

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Posted: Nov 07, 2009 10:06 AM

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how come FH and your FILs are disagreeing with you on this? is it just that they are afraid to confront your FSIL? are they afraid there might be repercussions if they try to kick this guy out? is he violating his parole in some way? are there kids in the house?

FM me if you'd like! im so sorry u are going through this

JAAMS Posted: Nov 07, 2009 10:10 AM+

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Posted: Nov 07, 2009 10:10 AM

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oh my gosh! I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. Can your FH stay with you awhile? That way at least you know that he is safe?

IMHO, I'd keep a really close eye on the situation, and if anything unusual happens, I'd call the police ASAP.

AngnShaun Posted: Nov 07, 2009 10:11 AM+

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Posted: Nov 07, 2009 10:11 AM

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Normally i would agree that people have to learn from their own mistakes... but her mistake has consequences for other people also...

unfortunately there really isnt anything you can do.... as long as he isnt breaking any laws right now...