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Posted by YankeeBride2012

So glad I'm not the only one. My future SILs became bigger wenches post-engagement. They managed to suck the fun out of bridesmaids dress shopping and lied to my fiance about me excluding them and making them feel unwanted at the appointment. Meanwhile, the saleslady commended me for being such a hands-off and easy going bride!!! As for the MIL, she's absolutely special. You know the type that manages to screw you over and keep a straight face the entire time? Yea, that's her. Where do I begin? For my engagement party which took place 7 months after the engagement, she refused to help me get addresses for her family members and I had to resort to contacting her family on social networking sites. At the party, she was 'surprised' to see her family there, and then expressed annoyance at the fact that most of the people in attendance were my family and friends. She made a point to count! You'd think she'd make a mental note to be more cooperative for the wedding invitations?!? HECK NO!! She made sure to give us a count of people AFTER I've already ordered my invitations and finalized my guest list. But wait, here's the kicker: She went and got a dress the same color as my bridesmaids even after I explicitly asked her not to get the same color. ANNOYING. ANNOYING. ANNOYING. I could tell you guys stories for days, but you'd think I'm making things up.

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OMG are u serious!! that sounds like a lot of stress, but breath you will be alright and not have to deal with her as much once all of this is over. At least its ur FMIL and not your own mother, (my mom claimed i was giving her chest pains because she hated the hall, and i had to swtich after putting a deposite down already for westbury manor) I can imagine wht ur going through.

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Hey at least she talks to you. My fML decided to kick me out of the house last year and I never went back. She never apologized for her actions either. She claims I am taking her son away from her and he changed cause of me.

The FH does not want her at the wedding and its a big mess right now. Only time will tell!

Good Luck

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That's terrible!! I am very fortunate my FMIL and I are very similar so we are always on the same page but I do have people that think I am going extravagant.

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I get the ' well I would never do that, but thats just MY taste...'

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I get 'you're not doing it right.' ALLLLLLLL THE TIME! And it can go for anything and everything!

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I can empathize! Its sucks to have an in-law that is so miserable. They should see it as they are gaining a child(without ever spending the money) and a helping hand when the time requires.

I have FIL issue with FH's dad. His son is the single golden egg and apparently I was never bright enough, pretty enough, or 'proper' enough for their child and family.

He would never talk to me. The first time he met me, he asked me 3 questions. I felt like I had failed a job interview it was so awkward.

His mom is a saint though.

Now we get complains (from my family and his family) about the date of the ceremony.Why aren't you getting married earlier? Why do you like this place? Why isn't it closer? You know we have to drive now? Why do you want this dress? You'll look ugly in it. Why are you choosing this color scheme. Are you including a multilingual MC? You know you have to make your invites multilingual too. And your website.

OMG. YOU PEOPLE. STOP B*tching or start contributing money!

OMG. I can't believed I just ranted. Sorry. Didn't mean to make that all about my story. :(

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Posted by YimingandJess

OMG. YOU PEOPLE. STOP B*tching or start contributing money!

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I feel the same way!! everyone wants us to get married like RIGHT now but no one understands it takes money.

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My FMIL actually asked me when FH and I got engaged why we didnt just have the wedding at the Knights of Columbus like his sister did. I looked at her like she was a crazy person. Thats not what FH and I want thats why we wont have it there lady!! Like really?!?!?!? Its not like shes even contributing!!! Keep your mouth shut if your not gonna break out the checkbook. Every time we talk about anything wedding its 'jenny did this.. jenny did that..' I DONT CARE ABOUT WHAT JENNY DID!!!!! And to think that we dont even have a definate date yet and this is what I'm going through I cant even imagine what you ladies are going through!!!

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Posted by angelicd77

My FMIL actually asked me when FH and I got engaged why we didnt just have the wedding at the Knights of Columbus like his sister did. I looked at her like she was a crazy person. Thats not what FH and I want thats why we wont have it there lady!! Like really?!?!?!? Its not like shes even contributing!!! Keep your mouth shut if your not gonna break out the checkbook. Every time we talk about anything wedding its 'jenny did this.. jenny did that..' I DONT CARE ABOUT WHAT JENNY DID!!!!! And to think that we dont even have a definate date yet and this is what I'm going through I cant even imagine what you ladies are going through!!!

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THIS IS ALL I HEAR!!! Kat did this, and Kat did that. Well Kat got married in Pittsburgh where not only is it ridiculously cheap to get married but she got a 'student discount' off of her hall and her church. I am not a student and nor do we live in Pittsburgh. We live in a place where it cost an arm and a leg to get married and we are gonna pay it!!! So shut your pie-hole!!!!

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I have had a rocky relationship with my FMIL. We've had our share of words and she has said some terrible things about me that FH has told me but I ignored, although of course, did not forget.

Since we made up and FH proposed to me, FMIL has been happy but I have a huge problem. She wants to run the show!! Every idea I have she wants to revise, she tells me the DJ I have to pick, the decorations I should have, the centerpieces...I AM LOSING MY MIND! I have gone dress shopping with my mother twice and now I'll be going with my mom and FMIL this Thursday. I'm very worried! She's going to want to push a dress on me that I will most probably dislike. Her tastes are very different from mine.

Not only that, the one time she met my MOH, she was so rude and stand-offish that I had to apologize to my poor MOH.

I do not know what her deal is but I want to shout at her, 'YOU'VE HAD YOUR DAY, LET ME HAVE MINE!!!!!!'

Going crazy. UGH.

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Posted by Helematu7

I have had a rocky relationship with my FMIL. We've had our share of words and she has said some terrible things about me that FH has told me but I ignored, although of course, did not forget.

Since we made up and FH proposed to me, FMIL has been happy but I have a huge problem. She wants to run the show!! Every idea I have she wants to revise, she tells me the DJ I have to pick, the decorations I should have, the centerpieces...I AM LOSING MY MIND! I have gone dress shopping with my mother twice and now I'll be going with my mom and FMIL this Thursday. I'm very worried! She's going to want to push a dress on me that I will most probably dislike. Her tastes are very different from mine.

Not only that, the one time she met my MOH, she was so rude and stand-offish that I had to apologize to my poor MOH.

I do not know what her deal is but I want to shout at her, 'YOU'VE HAD YOUR DAY, LET ME HAVE MINE!!!!!!'

Going crazy. UGH.

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Why are you going dress shopping with her?!??!?!?! I would not ask mine to come! She is crazy as it is, the dress part is about me and my mom. Def not FMIL!!

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Posted by Soon2BMrsB2013

Why are you going dress shopping with her?!??!?!?! I would not ask mine to come! She is crazy as it is, the dress part is about me and my mom. Def not FMIL!!

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Posted by Soon2BMrsB2013

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Posted by Helematu7

I have had a rocky relationship with my FMIL. We've had our share of words and she has said some terrible things about me that FH has told me but I ignored, although of course, did not forget.

Since we made up and FH proposed to me, FMIL has been happy but I have a huge problem. She wants to run the show!! Every idea I have she wants to revise, she tells me the DJ I have to pick, the decorations I should have, the centerpieces...I AM LOSING MY MIND! I have gone dress shopping with my mother twice and now I'll be going with my mom and FMIL this Thursday. I'm very worried! She's going to want to push a dress on me that I will most probably dislike. Her tastes are very different from mine.

Not only that, the one time she met my MOH, she was so rude and stand-offish that I had to apologize to my poor MOH.

I do not know what her deal is but I want to shout at her, 'YOU'VE HAD YOUR DAY, LET ME HAVE MINE!!!!!!'

Going crazy. UGH.

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Why are you going dress shopping with her?!??!?!?! I would not ask mine to come! She is crazy as it is, the dress part is about me and my mom. Def not FMIL!!

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Believe me, if I thought I could keep the peace and not invite her...I WOULD! Unfortunately though, she wants to come and I know if I don't bring her along she'll ***** about it FOREVER. I'm just going to breath and tell her no when she picks dresses I dislike. I already told my mother to back me up--and she definitely will!

In fact, I am hoping she won't be able to get out of work for the trying on of dresses tomorrow. I'd MUCH rather go with just my mom. Stress-free is the way to be!

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Posted by Helematu7

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Posted by Soon2BMrsB2013

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Posted by Helematu7

I have had a rocky relationship with my FMIL. We've had our share of words and she has said some terrible things about me that FH has told me but I ignored, although of course, did not forget.

Since we made up and FH proposed to me, FMIL has been happy but I have a huge problem. She wants to run the show!! Every idea I have she wants to revise, she tells me the DJ I have to pick, the decorations I should have, the centerpieces...I AM LOSING MY MIND! I have gone dress shopping with my mother twice and now I'll be going with my mom and FMIL this Thursday. I'm very worried! She's going to want to push a dress on me that I will most probably dislike. Her tastes are very different from mine.

Not only that, the one time she met my MOH, she was so rude and stand-offish that I had to apologize to my poor MOH.

I do not know what her deal is but I want to shout at her, 'YOU'VE HAD YOUR DAY, LET ME HAVE MINE!!!!!!'

Going crazy. UGH.

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Why are you going dress shopping with her?!??!?!?! I would not ask mine to come! She is crazy as it is, the dress part is about me and my mom. Def not FMIL!!

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Believe me, if I thought I could keep the peace and not invite her...I WOULD! Unfortunately though, she wants to come and I know if I don't bring her along she'll ***** about it FOREVER. I'm just going to breath and tell her no when she picks dresses I dislike. I already told my mother to back me up--and she definitely will!

In fact, I am hoping she won't be able to get out of work for the trying on of dresses tomorrow. I'd MUCH rather go with just my mom. Stress-free is the way to be!

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Hope she gets stuck at work for your sake!

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Posted by YimingandJess

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Posted by Helematu7

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Posted by Soon2BMrsB2013

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Posted by Helematu7

I have had a rocky relationship with my FMIL. We've had our share of words and she has said some terrible things about me that FH has told me but I ignored, although of course, did not forget.

Since we made up and FH proposed to me, FMIL has been happy but I have a huge problem. She wants to run the show!! Every idea I have she wants to revise, she tells me the DJ I have to pick, the decorations I should have, the centerpieces...I AM LOSING MY MIND! I have gone dress shopping with my mother twice and now I'll be going with my mom and FMIL this Thursday. I'm very worried! She's going to want to push a dress on me that I will most probably dislike. Her tastes are very different from mine.

Not only that, the one time she met my MOH, she was so rude and stand-offish that I had to apologize to my poor MOH.

I do not know what her deal is but I want to shout at her, 'YOU'VE HAD YOUR DAY, LET ME HAVE MINE!!!!!!'

Going crazy. UGH.

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Why are you going dress shopping with her?!??!?!?! I would not ask mine to come! She is crazy as it is, the dress part is about me and my mom. Def not FMIL!!

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Believe me, if I thought I could keep the peace and not invite her...I WOULD! Unfortunately though, she wants to come and I know if I don't bring her along she'll ***** about it FOREVER. I'm just going to breath and tell her no when she picks dresses I dislike. I already told my mother to back me up--and she definitely will!

In fact, I am hoping she won't be able to get out of work for the trying on of dresses tomorrow. I'd MUCH rather go with just my mom. Stress-free is the way to be!

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Hope she gets stuck at work for your sake!

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I get peoples unwanted suggestions and opinions all the time and it is getting old very fast. In the beginning it was like oh well how about a VFW? And I said no I think I want to try halls were not in a big rush. It was also suggested to me that I have my wedding in my mom's backyard and a few other things that I was just like, are you really saying this to me right now??? Everyone is so concerned about what I can afford. Unless I start asking you for money don't worry about what I can afford. Every time I do something or book something one of my FSIL's asks oh did you get help? Did someone give you money? Is is me or is that rude? That's not her business and the answer is no!

Now I mentioned in front of a family member that I want a photo booth and she's like 'well can you really afford that? You don't need that, its not a sweet sixteen anyway.'


feels good to get that anger out! haha

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Oh and I forgot about those that aren't concerned about what I'm spending and they are bitching that I have a Sunday wedding (before a monday holiday), asking me Why couldn't you do a Saturday? WHO gets married on a Sunday? ...I freaked out hearing that and couldn't hold my tongue. I said, Oh so were you going to pay the $30 pp difference for us? Because I will call the hall and tell them to move the wedding up a day, I don't mind if that is more convenient for you.

That takes nerve to complain to someone about the day they picked for their wedding. Its almost 2 years away that is plenty of time for you to figure something out.

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Posted by Sabellabride12

That takes nerve to complain to someone about the day they picked for their wedding. Its almost 2 years away that is plenty of time for you to figure something out.

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Posted by Sabellabride12

Oh and I forgot about those that aren't concerned about what I'm spending and they are bitching that I have a Sunday wedding (before a monday holiday), asking me Why couldn't you do a Saturday? WHO gets married on a Sunday? ...I freaked out hearing that and couldn't hold my tongue. I said, Oh so were you going to pay the $30 pp difference for us? Because I will call the hall and tell them to move the wedding up a day, I don't mind if that is more convenient for you.

That takes nerve to complain to someone about the day they picked for their wedding. Its almost 2 years away that is plenty of time for you to figure something out.

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I would've flipped as well. But since this happens so often I don't feel like initiating high blood pressure at my age so I try to talk back to them by getting them to observe themselves.

I recently had to tell someone this for the same situation:

' Well, it will be great if you can attend, but obviously I understand people have to consider other things in their life as a priority. Since all the people I invited are people I believe are really considerate and dear to me, I'm sure they all would understand the financial implications of a Sunday wedding versus a Saturday. I can only hope i will be as considerate for someone's big day as they will be for mine. Again, I understand if you can't make it. If you can't, your absence will be felt'

Hopefully the person isn't dense enough to not understand that I just told them: it's my wedding, not yours, other people have to be considered as well and the financial burden is on us so take your sob story somewhere else princess- you're not raining on my parade.

P.S. - whether or not my feelings on their absence will be happy or sad, well we would see come the wedding and how they respond. Lol

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My FMIL didn't come with me today (thank God)! And it was so enjoyable. I have found my dress!