Re: Guest may bring a two-month old!!!!!!!

I still go back to my original post-- babies that little sleep all the time, except when their mommies and daddys want to sleep.

At least- that is what I have experienced.

Re: Guest may bring a two-month old!!!!!!!

I would think that as long as they are respectful and take the baby outside when it's crying, you'll barely know the kid's there. It's not like he/she will be running around or anything.

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JUST SAY NO!!!!!!!

i told eveyone. NO babies / children at the shower - other than my one flower girl... and absolutely NO NO NO kids / babies / anything at the wedding. its not the place for it. so if you cant find a babysitter, dont come!!

im so mean, but i just dont care!!! i have been to way too many weddings where the kids have gone balistic.
-jenn

Re: Guest may bring a two-month old!!!!!!!

We have a 2 month old and a 4 month old coming to our wedding. It's the only way we get to see our friends AND their new babies, so I have no problem with it at all. I'm giving them access to the bridal suite in case they need extra space or privacy.

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I'm fairly certain that you will never have an opportunity to smell the baby and highly doubt that a parent would let their child stink and not take care of it.

My best friend brought her 6 week old baby to my wedding. She breastfeeds, so when necessary, she disappeared with her and I never knew where she went. During the ceremony, if she fussed the slightest bit, either she or her husband took the baby out. I never heard her once, and she slept through the entire day.

If you don't want children at your wedding, that's one thing, but your comments about not wanting a stinky baby and a breastfeeding mother at your wedding are a little distasteful. Besides, most babies that young smell yummy!

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My FSIL just had a baby (my nephew!!!) and she will be bringing him to the wedding and reception becasue he is breast feeding. I don't have a problem with it because I want her there. Honestly I would rather have a 4 month old than a 9 year old running around...

If you want to see this family member I think you should allow the kid. It's a lot to ask to have them drive whatever distance and have one stay @ the hotel with the child...

Re: Guest may bring a two-month old!!!!!!!

I think a 2 month old is fine. really a 2 month old is much less trouble than a 2 Year old!
And they are defitenly too small to leave for a long trip, but the parents shouldn't be punished for having a baby close to yor wedding.

I would hope they wouldn't change the baby at the table,so don't worry about it being stinky.

You can either let them use the bridal suite or the bathrom. I don't see a problem with changing a baby in a rest room. Like the book says, everybody poops. People won't be offended, you see it all the time.

Just the diaper is smelly when it is being removed, but then babies smell all pretty after the baby wipes & baby powder. And not all diapers are poop.

As for breast feeding, ask her if is she going to breast feed & how she would handle this at the wedding. Maybe she didn't think it through. I think letting her use the bridal suite is a good idea though.

My main concern is that it would be too loud for a 2 month old.

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Chances are if the baby is only 2 months old, it will be sleeping or eating most of the night. They are usually pretty quiet.

If the baby cries during the ceremony I would hope she would have enough tact to walk out.

I'd rather have a 2 month old at my wedding then a 2 year old.

You should be happy that she's even willing to make an 8 hour trip with a baby for you!

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Can you find a babysitter near your house that she could leave the baby with for the ceremony and reception?

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OMG! We are having this same argument today on my website. LOL!

Getting back to the couple, if you have ever had a 2 month old, you wouldknow that you would not want to leave him or her for an extended period of time. So my guess is they either bring the kid or they don't go. If you would really like them their, give a pass on the kid. At two months they spend most of their time sleeping and eating anyway. If you don't care if they show up or not, tell them they cannot bring the baby. This will most likely gaurantee them not attending.

On the breastfeeding thing, all I have t say is get over it. It's a boob. There is nothing dirty or nasty or shameful about it. And for those who say breastfeed in the bathroom, why don't you take your dinner into a public bathroom and see how it makes you feel.

Re: Guest may bring a two-month old!!!!!!!

My feeling on the subject (and this is my own personal viewpoint :) is that...like others have said..the two month old will hardly be noticeable. From experience and being at weddings where we always have the kids invited, I can say that the baby will prob sleep the entire time and if by any chance it cried during the ceremony, the parent would walk out with it...or its as easy as popping a bottle it the babies mouth. I have found that its adults that cause the most disturbance...i was at a wedding this past weekend where cell phones went off. I couldnt believe it!

Relax and enjoy your day...believe me when i say you won't even remember a baby being there when all is said and done!

Re: Guest may bring a two-month old!!!!!!!

Girlfriend..this is the post I have been trying to write. I just got invited to a shotgun wedding for one of my BM's.
Well, first words out of mouth, instead of conrgrats were 'don't think that the baby is invited to my wedding.' I promptly hung up the phone and that was it. I did not invite kids to my wedding because I don't want them there. I don't want someones cute baby sharing in MY day and MY & FH's day ONLY.
You are the bride and you deserve the spotlight..not some 2 month old baby.

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I think that if they wanted to bring the baby they should have asked you first!!!! Not all of a sudden change their mind and just decide to come and bring the baby and tell you about it through your FH after they have made their decision.

Some weddings are very formal events, and if children, including babies, are not invited then people should not assume that they can just bring them. Bottom line is its your party and your decision, whichever it is, should be respected.

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simply put, a reception with loud music is no place for a baby which requires sleep, thats why you are limiting babies and todlers from the wedding

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Posted by MrsKinMay05

Girlfriend..this is the post I have been trying to write. I just got invited to a shotgun wedding for one of my BM's.
Well, first words out of mouth, instead of conrgrats were 'don't think that the baby is invited to my wedding.' I promptly hung up the phone and that was it.

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I understand you not wanting children at your wedding, but it doesn't sound like you're being a very supportive friend.

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Posted by MrsKinMay05

Girlfriend..this is the post I have been trying to write. I just got invited to a shotgun wedding for one of my BM's.
Well, first words out of mouth, instead of conrgrats were 'don't think that the baby is invited to my wedding.' I promptly hung up the phone and that was it.

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I understand you not wanting children at your wedding, but it doesn't sound like you're being a very supportive friend.

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Thank you I needed that. I am being such a baby myself over this. I have the free miles to go but I just don't want to.

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Posted by MrsKinMay05

Girlfriend..this is the post I have been trying to write. I just got invited to a shotgun wedding for one of my BM's.
Well, first words out of mouth, instead of conrgrats were 'don't think that the baby is invited to my wedding.' I promptly hung up the phone and that was it.

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I understand you not wanting children at your wedding, but it doesn't sound like you're being a very supportive friend.

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Thank you I needed that. I am being such a baby myself over this. I have the free miles to go but I just don't want to.

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Go, if you can! I'm sure it'd mean a lot to your friend and you may regret missing it. I'm sure she could use some friends to lean on right now!!!

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I am in the same boat,,,,,,,,with my FH sister. She has a 3 month old, we aren't having kids at the wedding. She said she has to breast feed every half hour so she cannot come without him. So she's not coming. Not to mention the fact that my wedding will be the first time that FH entire family sees the new baby because they are not on Long Island. I offered my apartment which is in the same town as the reception hall for the baby to stay with a sitter that FH mom was going to provide. She won't budge. I didn't want to start anything with other family members that couldn't bring their kids. We are also having a band there that is loud, I don't think it's any place for a young baby. It's your day...................people need to not give you a hard time about any of your decisions.

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Posted by debbiedee77

I am in the same boat,,,,,,,,with my FH sister. She has a 3 month old, we aren't having kids at the wedding. She said she has to breast feed every half hour so she cannot come without him. So she's not coming. Not to mention the fact that my wedding will be the first time that FH entire family sees the new baby because they are not on Long Island. I offered my apartment which is in the same town as the reception hall for the baby to stay with a sitter that FH mom was going to provide. She won't budge. I didn't want to start anything with other family members that couldn't bring their kids. We are also having a band there that is loud, I don't think it's any place for a young baby. It's your day...................people need to not give you a hard time about any of your decisions.

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We are also having a band, and I know it will be very loud. Plus maybe I just don't want to share the spotlight And I already cut out kids from my side of the family...Were you the one who told her no or did you have FH tell her? I feel uncomfortable telling her myself (I would never call or email her--she is not close to my FH--relationship too difficult to get into, but he only met her 2 years ago...).

Re: Guest may bring a two-month old!!!!!!!

My FH told her about us not having kids at the wedding. She kept saying about how her situation is a 'special situation'. I wouldn't think that a reception from 8-12am with a 8 piece band is good for a 2 month old's ears.