Re: Need Your Honest Opinion-Gun at a wedding

I actually been to a wedding where the sister of the bride and her husband were both cops. they had their gun on their belts the whole time. There's no reason to put a gun in the middle of the table--aside from showing it off-.

Maybe it's not too bad if it's kept at his side. And it'll be a compromise, why put a gun on a table when you already have a centerpiece?

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He sounds like a typical BUFF. My entire family is police officers and my father never once let us see his gun. Till this day I still have no idea where he hides it. It is cops like this that give the good ones a bad name. He is a jerk and I would bluntly tell him if he can't leave his gun at home then don;t bother going to the wedding.

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I'm a police officer too, and I gotta agree with everyone... a gun is unnecessary at a wedding. It sounds to me that your friend's BF is a rookie. I have almost 10 years on the job and I wouldn't even think of slappin' my gun on the table at dinner nor would I ever bring it to a wedding!! My parents are afraid of guns and most of the people who I am friends with do not want to look at my gun either!! He sounds like he an overzealous, immature boy who became a cop because he was a weakling who was picked on, growing up.

Technically, he can bring his gun anywhere in NYS, but like the other PO stated above, what police action would he take at your wedding? None. Also, I assume you are getting married in Long Island- there is no reason why he should be taking police action out of the boros unless someone is about to get shot or carjacked and the perp has a gun too!! And lastly- the NYPD does not take drinking and carrying a gun lightly!! And for good reason!! Too may officers have hurt themselves and/or others by being drunk and armed! The reality of the situation is this: if this guy is found unfit for duty [ie. intox with his gun] he can get suspended!! And possibly lose his job!

So, tell your girlfriend that you do not want any guns at your wedding. If she cannot ensure that he will be unarmed, tell her that he is not invited!! The safety and peace of mind on the biggest day of your life is more important than this person being there.

Best of luck to you!! Let us know what happens!!

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Wow! I really would not be ok with a guest bringing a gun to my wedding, especially if there is an open bar and he's a drinker...I would be straight with your friend about how you feel. As another poster stated, let them know that they are invited, but the gun isn't

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Thats ridiculous- there is no reason he should have gun with him at a wedding. Just tell him no way.

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There is no way I would allow anyone to bring a gun to my wedding if children are going to be there. Its dangerous and unnecessary and if your friend doesn't attend because of that then it doesn't seem that she is much of a friend to begin with! JMO.

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Posted by AeroJenn

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Posted by superkat

I would simply tell her the truth. The two of them are invited but the gun isn't. If she drops out, then she isn't a good enough friend to care about your feelings and you are better off without her.

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Well said. I agree 100%.

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I agree too-i understand being passionate about your job, but if she drops out than she isnt a good enough friend

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This is YOUR wedding, and I do NOT think you are being unreasonable to ask to not have a friggin GUN displayed prominently at your wedding.... I have known many police officers who carry guns 24/7 and they are extremely discrete about it... This guy obviously is trying to make up for.... ahem.... inadequacies else where.

Guns are dangerous, and need not be a part of a family gathering. Unless you are inviting 'perps,' rapists, and crack heads to your wedding, I would set the record straight. If your friend can't understand, then there is something very wrong about that....

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Posted by superkat

I would simply tell her the truth. The two of them are invited but the gun isn't. If she drops out, then she isn't a good enough friend to care about your feelings and you are better off without her.

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well put.

this is your wedding and if it makes you uncomfortable, you should let them know.

it's sad but true... weddings can be defining moments in relationships. this might be one of them for you and your friend.

stick to YOUR GUNS sorry... i just had to

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WOW! One of Matt's best men is a cop, but he will not wear his gun if he is going out drinking.
I would talk to him, because it's not necessary to carry it at your wedding. Good luck!!

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I would tell him and or her not to come. The safety of your guests are far more important.

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One word- BUFF...

My DH is a cop and we had 30 cops at our wedding, and not one gun. People that carry a firearm while drinking should be suspended from their job. It is irresponsible to themself as well as those around them. The fact that he is parading his gun around like it's a 'cool thing' shows me that he is romancing the badge. Why your friend allows this is a whole other story.

Stand strong girl, no guns at the wedding!! Be safe, not sorry.

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Posted by JPC1125

HELL NO!!!! There is no reason to have a gun at a wedding.

People drinking...could get rowdy or someone could just mistakenly step on someone's foot and get them upset....then having a gun around will not help the situation any.


I would stick to your gut....if your friend chooses her bf and his idiot-ness over your wedding day, shes not worth it.

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I totally agree!!! There is no reason why he should bring it!!! He shouldn't even be carrying it unless it's for work. He can get into alot of trouble for that.

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Posted by superkat

I would simply tell her the truth. The two of them are invited but the gun isn't. If she drops out, then she isn't a good enough friend to care about your feelings and you are better off without her.

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Couldn't have said it myself. And heaven forbid someone gets their hands on the gun while at the wedding!

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I would tell them how I feel , This is YOUR day not the gun crazed maniac

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Posted by enjft

I would tell him and or her not to come. The safety of your guests are far more important.

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EXACTLY!


If he knows not to come to your home wiht it, why does he think he can bring it to a wedding?

Something tells me if you say to them that the RH doesn't allow guns, they'll say something stupid like 'oh they don't have to know' or he'll get on his soapbox about how he's a cop and he can have one anywhere etc...

Its not worth the risk. It will stress you out (it already is!) It's dangerous. It's inappropriate & it's unacceptable. And I would say that to her AND him together. And have you FH there to back you up.

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I had a similar situatation. My dad has a lot of friends in law enforcement that carry guns and I have always been around them growing up. My dad allowed them to bring the guns to my grad party but either had to keep it on them with the safety on or keep it in the car.

I imagine he'll ask the same at the wedding.

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Posted by soon2bcopswife

One word- BUFF...

My DH is a cop and we had 30 cops at our wedding, and not one gun. People that carry a firearm while drinking should be suspended from their job. It is irresponsible to themself as well as those around them. The fact that he is parading his gun around like it's a 'cool thing' shows me that he is romancing the badge. Why your friend allows this is a whole other story.

Stand strong girl, no guns at the wedding!! Be safe, not sorry.

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Well said very irresponsible of him and he is abusing his power as a copand it is officers like this that give the good ones a bad name and cause situations like the recent shooting...JMO

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NO GUN or NO INVITE! Your description of him scares me.

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Posted by superkat

I would simply tell her the truth. The two of them are invited but the gun isn't. If she drops out, then she isn't a good enough friend to care about your feelings and you are better off without her.

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I totally agree with this. Its great that she supports her husband, but if she wouldn't come to your wedding just because her husband can't bring a gun then she doesn't deserve to be there, especially as a bridesmaid.