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Pregnant Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor
cmc
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 04:25 PM+
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 04:25 PM
Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor
Yes... she tends to complain a lot anyway so I am concerned that she will go through the motions but be miserable. It's not that she may be pregnant... it's just that based on her personality, I think it is unlikely she will be pleasant and have a good time.
BillsBride
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 04:27 PM+
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 04:27 PM
Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor
Posted by cmc
Yes... she tends to complain a lot anyway so I am concerned that she will go through the motions but be miserable. It's not that she may be pregnant... it's just that based on her personality, I think it is unlikely she will be pleasant and have a good time.
If she is a 'Debbie Downer' in general, why have her in your party at all?
cmc
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 04:40 PM+
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 04:40 PM
Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor
We've grown up together and she's a good friend. I am not a bridezilla at all... I just feel it's a time for clelbration and I really want everyone to have a good time. I'm just concerned that she might be negative and/or not have fun and it will show.
ChrissynRicky
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 04:42 PM+
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 04:42 PM
Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor
Posted by cmc
We've grown up together and she's a good friend. I am not a bridezilla at all... I just feel it's a time for clelbration and I really want everyone to have a good time. I'm just concerned that she might be negative and/or not have fun and it will show.
Having a baby is a joyous and VERY PRIVILEDGED part of life, there would be no reason for her to be negative and not have fun.
She's there for you to celebrate your occassion, another joyous occassion.
ETA: You can't control how people will act at a certain point in their life, or at your wedding - you can't expect everyone to be screaming with excitement, most especially since there are other things going on in their lives - family problems, illnesses, etc. - Whether she's pregnant or not - she may be miserable/unhappy for other reasons, and you cannot control/change that. Same goes for everyone else!
nicothy
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 04:44 PM+
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 04:44 PM
Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor
its shouldn't matter things happen, you can't stop people's lives
lulugrrl
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 04:47 PM+
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 04:47 PM
Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor
Posted by ChristineAE
IMHO: Who cares!
One cannot expect others to stop their lives for your wedding. It may be the center of your world right now, but not others.
DITTO!!!
October Bliss
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 06:18 PM+
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 06:18 PM
Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor
I waited all day to respond to this. I read all the responses from the other girls, and on a completely intellectual level I agree - you can't dictate another person's reproductive schedule and family planning. The only person who thinks your wedding is the most important thing going on is YOU.That said, I asked my sister when she was planning on trying to have her second child before I asked her to be my MOH. She just gave birth to her first child in June, and I know she wants another one. She is planning to start trying in August 2006.
AlliNMatt06
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 06:25 PM+
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 06:25 PM
Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor
My sister who is MOH is 5 months pregnant. The baby will only be 3 months old at the wedding. I am so happy!!! I feel bad for my sister because the wedding will be hard for her with such a young baby.Pregnant women are so cute!!
BJandDan
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 06:41 PM+
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 06:41 PM
Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor
One of my bm's is going to have her first child 4 months before my wedding. When she told me I was so freaking excited. I can't imagine being anything but that. First of all it's her first. Second of all she is my friend. Third of all its my wedding. That is the order I see it in.
Nali
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 06:45 PM+
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 06:45 PM
Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor
Posted by ChristineAE
IMHO: Who cares!
One cannot expect others to stop their lives for your wedding. It may be the center of your world right now, but not others.
totally agree!!!!
Sunrise813
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 07:27 PM+
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 07:27 PM
Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor
Posted by cmc
We've grown up together and she's a good friend. I am not a bridezilla at all... I just feel it's a time for clelbration and I really want everyone to have a good time. I'm just concerned that she might be negative and/or not have fun and it will show.
If you are are a true frined then you should be happy at her amazing news! Its a baby!!!
I think the person who should be upset is her at you for your reaction to her news.
Sorry if I am being blunt but you asked the question.
VogueBride
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 08:11 PM+
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 08:11 PM
Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor
Posted by ChristineAE
IMHO: Who cares!
One cannot expect others to stop their lives for your wedding. It may be the center of your world right now, but not others.
100000000% agree.
MY FSIL found out last month she is preg and due 2 days before the wedding. if all were perfect, it wouldnt have happened like that bc now she might not be able to come to our wedding BUT....as long as they have a happy healthy baby...then thats all that matters. so 2 weeks later i find out that my SIL (married to my brother) also my MOH is preg and due 1 month after my wedding....but they deserve a WONDERFUL CHILD and i cant wiat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
THink of the blessing it is...it should be the least of your worries!
CKJ906
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 08:18 PM+
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 08:18 PM
Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor
No not at all! My MOH is pregnant and I don't care at all i just can't wait for the
MsKitty1274
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 09:00 PM+
Posted: Nov 08, 2005 09:00 PM
Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor
It doesn't matter to me, and it shouldn't considering...1 MOH has TTC for 2 yrs w/ no success and have been seeing a fertility Dr for the last 6 mos...she could be preggo for the wedding, and has said even if she is 8 mos preg, she will SO be here...provided her DH and Dr say it's ok.
The other MOH is preggo now, due 12/15, this is her first, and she turns 37 in Dec.
1 of my BMs is TTC now, so she may be preggo as well at the wedding.
The other 2 BM COULD also be preggo at the wedding.
Hey, I don't care, so long as I am not the one who is 6 mos preg....'cause my dress won't fit!!!
Preshy7
Posted: Nov 09, 2005 01:19 AM+
Posted: Nov 09, 2005 01:19 AM
Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor
should your MOH/bm or anyone for that matter plan their life around your wedding? absolutely not
id be happy for her and not say a word. for some people getting pregnant at all is a blessing. when god wants her to get pregnant, thats when it will happen!
AmyMarie
Posted: Nov 09, 2005 01:29 AM+
Posted: Nov 09, 2005 01:29 AM
Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor
I'm sorry, but I can't even believe that someone would really even be upset about this. Try not to forget that getting married is about you and your FI starting your life together as man and wife..not about how many people have fun at your party. It just seems so silly and superficial to expect everyone you know to focus on your reception. (because, obviously this is about the reception...no one can 'bring down' a wedding ceremony or mass)Amy
EmberLynn
Posted: Nov 09, 2005 02:18 AM+
Posted: Nov 09, 2005 02:18 AM
Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor
I can understand way you may react as you did, but I do agree with the girls. You should wish her the best with her new baby.A little celtic history for you, the celtic woman use to show up at the alter 9 months pregnant. It was considered a sign of good luck and ferity. The child didn't ever have to be the grooms. Later on it was just considered lucky to have married pregnant woman at the wedding.
BKtoLI
Posted: Nov 09, 2005 02:33 AM+
Posted: Nov 09, 2005 02:33 AM
Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor
I have 2 BMs that just gave birth in the last few weeks. At first, I was hesitant about it, but you know what? They didn't care about their appearance, and it matters more to me that they be there than anything else.And neither one of them was crabby, as much as I expected them to be. The only headache I can foresee (because I am having this now) is having to hold off on ordering the dresses and the having them rushed because of the pregnancy issues.
Don't worry about her attitude. You will only have to deal with it on the few occasions during dress searches and fittings anyway.
chloeme2
Posted: Nov 09, 2005 02:38 AM+
Posted: Nov 09, 2005 02:38 AM
Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor
One of my BMs is trying. She told me that she would be trying when she accepted to be in my BP. I was afraid that she might pop at my wedding but she would have to be 2 -3 months pregnant now and I don't think she is Well whatever, what's one more unexpected guest at the wedding
kissy27
Posted: Nov 09, 2005 07:21 AM+
Posted: Nov 09, 2005 07:21 AM
Re: Pregnant Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor
Honestly, It would not bother me! You can't make someone put a hold on their lives just because you are getting married & they are part of your wedding! As long as the person you ask does not see their pregnancy interferring w/them being a BM or MOH, you should not get mad..I had a similiary situation going into our wedding...I knew that both my FSIL & SIL were trying to get pregnant & that there was a chance they would be for the wedding..That did not stop be from asking them! To much of my surprise, both got pregnant early on & have already had my nephew's! But if either was pregnant, I would be so happy for them even if it was at my wedding
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