Re: QOTD: Now that we know how much things cost, do you feel you have to cover your plate when you are a guest at a wedding?

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Posted by Ty
Yes i agree a gift is a gift, but if you are having financial problems either come alone or dont come at all.

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This is one of the most disgusting comments I have seen on here in a long while.

Re: QOTD: Now that we know how much things cost, do you feel you have to cover your plate when you are a guest at a wedding?

Not trying to be rude, But every family has bad eggs that we must invite to make the parents happy
In our case its not right to take advantage of the situation.

Re: QOTD: Now that we know how much things cost, do you feel you have to cover your plate when you are a guest at a wedding?

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Posted by Ty

We always cover our plates.

Just what frustrates us is the fact that we both have very cheap family members, they expect to come to the party, eat and drink everything insight and give a check for $25.00 to cover them and a guest. So anybody on here says they wouldnt be upset if somebody did that is being alittle unrealistic. Yes i agree a gift is a gift, but if you are having financial problems either come alone or dont come at all.

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A GIFT IS A GIFT... or as another poster said - its not a cover charge. If you're only inviting people to get $$$ from them, then you shouldn't be inviting them at all! The gift should have NOTHING to do how much they eat or who they bring. You're going to be disappointed if your expectations are to make money. Why do people forget that a gift is just that - a gift!! it has no strings attached.
The people you invite are not taking advantage of anything - because you were the ones who invited them! And if they're people you 'have' to invite (because we know we all have those) then so be it but don't begrudge them for giving not covering the cost of the meal.

Re: QOTD: Now that we know how much things cost, do you feel you have to cover your plate when you are a guest at a wedding?

Sorry everybody disagrees - my opnion,
But I find it odd how everybody is inviting everybody they want to invite, and nobody they dont want to invite (out of respect of your parents there are people I dont even know and never met, but I must invite them.) Not referring to my friends who I could care less about the friends are the ones I appreciate for being and just celebrating and having a great time.

I also know If i couldn't afford to give a respectful gift I wouldnt show up, But thats me!!!!!!!!!!!

Re: QOTD: Now that we know how much things cost, do you feel you have to cover your plate when you are a guest at a wedding?

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Posted by Soon2bMsZ

Well we were always generous with our gifts for weddings in the past IMO
I really don't take where they are getting married into account. Not to be mean but its the bride and grooms choice to pick a hall for $100 p/p or $300 p/p and I can't afford to give one couple $600 just so I know I covered my plate!!!
Also why should the couple who couldn't afford to spend more then $100 or less p/p get the same gift as everyone else????

Not everyone has the same financial situation. Some people have their parents paying for the wedding so it didn't cost them anything. Should I give nothing?

I base it more on my relationship with the couple then the hall. I would never give a cheaper gift b/c it was a less expensive hall so to be fair I can't give a more generous gift b/c its a more expensive hall.


If my good friend got married and had a bbq dinner in her backyard... I would give the same to her as if another close friend got married at Oheka.

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Re: QOTD: Now that we know how much things cost, do you feel you have to cover your plate when you are a guest at a wedding?

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Posted by tray831

Yes.......I have and I do.

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ditto!!!!

Re: QOTD: Now that we know how much things cost, do you feel you have to cover your plate when you are a guest at a wedding?

I always try to cover my plate. If someone close to me I usually give a little more.

Re: QOTD: Now that we know how much things cost, do you feel you have to cover your plate when you are a guest at a wedding?

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Posted by Ty

We always cover our plates.

Just what frustrates us is the fact that we both have very cheap family members, they expect to come to the party, eat and drink everything insight and give a check for $25.00 to cover them and a guest. So anybody on here says they wouldnt be upset if somebody did that is being alittle unrealistic. Yes i agree a gift is a gift, but if you are having financial problems either come alone or dont come at all.

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Who are you to tell anyone how they would react if they was given a less than 'satisfactory' check from a guest?

I didn't think of any of my gifts as a 'cover.' And if someone, like my aunt who is sick and very poor, didn't come to my wedding because she is having financial problems, then the entire REASON for coming together and celebrating LOVE is lost.

Your comment is disturbing, and very revealing as to how you see life.

Good Luck to you and your husband.

Re: QOTD: Now that we know how much things cost, do you feel you have to cover your plate when you are a guest at a wedding?

I always have and always will cover my plate, I think it is the least you can do!

Re: QOTD: Now that we know how much things cost, do you feel you have to cover your plate when you are a guest at a wedding?

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Posted by DMcK

I always have and always will cover my plate, I think it is the least you can do!

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Same here!