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Do you tip the sales/banquet manager at RH?
Olinka79 Posted: Jun 03, 2008 10:35 AM+
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Do you tip the sales/banquet manager at RH?

Hi Guys, My wedding is this Sunday and I am getting nervous! :) :)

So our sales/banquest manager said we have to tip the Maitre'd ($6/guest) and the bridal attendant. ($75) Do we also have to tip the banquet manager? He was involved in booking the hall for us, went over the menues, answered our questions, etc. Does anyone know if we have to tip him and if so, what is appropriate?
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roan126 Posted: Jun 03, 2008 10:41 AM+
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Re: Do you tip the sales/banquet manager at RH?

$6 pp for the Maitre-d sounds like a lot...I think the going rate is $3 - $5 pp.

You arent really supposed to tip the banquet manager unless you feel he goes above and beyond...if so, you can give him $100 - $150.
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Olinka79 Posted: Jun 03, 2008 10:52 AM+
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Re: Do you tip the sales/banquet manager at RH?

Yes with 220 guests our Maitre'D tip is $1300...so you're saying that's a lot?
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2007 Crescent Bride Posted: Jun 03, 2008 10:54 AM+
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Re: Do you tip the sales/banquet manager at RH?

That's a lot
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ant090608 Posted: Jun 03, 2008 11:21 AM+
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Re: Do you tip the sales/banquet manager at RH?

That sounds like a lot of money for a tip.
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mjay Posted: Jun 03, 2008 11:23 AM+
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Re: Do you tip the sales/banquet manager at RH?

YOu do not have to tip the banquet manager. YOu tip what you can to the bridal attendant and Mait D.. We tipped 100 for the bridal attendant and like 350 to Mait D.. we didnt have alot of money left because of the expenses of a wedding.. They can not expect you to tip that much.. If you have its one thing.. but if you dont ,, you work with what you have..
I dont get why they charge 20% service fee and then they give you lil envelopes telling you how much you should tip.
They should leave that up to you and your discretion.
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missliss Posted: Jun 03, 2008 11:25 AM+
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Re: Do you tip the sales/banquet manager at RH?

$6 pp is outrageous, the maitre'd should absolutely be tipped but you do not have to give them that much. It's usually anywhere between $2-$5 a guest, but telling you outright $6 a person is absurd for him to suggest.
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nycgirl79 Posted: Jun 03, 2008 11:55 AM+
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Re: Do you tip the sales/banquet manager at RH?


Posted by missliss

$6 pp is outrageous, the maitre'd should absolutely be tipped but you do not have to give them that much. It's usually anywhere between $2-$5 a guest, but telling you outright $6 a person is absurd for him to suggest.



I agree...most halls 'suggest' a certain amount to tip, but $6 is definitely the highest I've heard. If you have 220 guests, I personally would give about $7750-$850 to the maitre'd, but remember that the amount you tip is at your discretion - if you feel that they went above and beyond on your wedding day, add a bit more (if you feel like it!).

As for the banquet manager, you definitely do not need to give him/her anything.
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acsm Posted: Jun 03, 2008 11:58 AM+
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Re: Do you tip the sales/banquet manager at RH?

it was suggested for us to tip the banquet manager and everyone else that day.. all depends on the hall.. they tend to give you a range.. we went with the lower end because it started to add up...
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sophisticat13 Posted: Jun 03, 2008 04:24 PM+
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Re: Do you tip the sales/banquet manager at RH?

I agree with the other brides that $6 pp is a lot...I have never heard of a tip that high for a maitre d before either. $3-4 pp is the average rate.
I don't think it is expected that you tip the banquet manager because I believe that they make a commission (this is what I was told). Unless they really went above and beyond and threw a lot of stuff in for free, and you want to, don't worry about it.
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lauraandrob2009 Posted: Jun 03, 2008 04:27 PM+
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Re: Do you tip the sales/banquet manager at RH?

I think I need to quit my job and become a maitre d - that sounds crazy to me.
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Maria31 Posted: Jun 03, 2008 04:30 PM+
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Re: Do you tip the sales/banquet manager at RH?


Posted by Olinka79

Yes with 220 guests our Maitre'D tip is $1300...so you're saying that's a lot?



YES, IMO that is an extreme amount!
We are giving $3-5pp - depending on the service on the day of the wedding.
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oldladybride Posted: Jun 03, 2008 07:43 PM+
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Re: Do you tip the sales/banquet manager at RH?

as for tipping the maitre d' we were told that that money ii also distributed to the kichen help. the gratuity you pay (the 18%) is given to the wait staff. why they differentiate I don't know; it is a pain. but don't quit your job the$$$ doesn't all go to the one guy.
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PegaLega Posted: Jun 03, 2008 10:35 PM+
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Re: Do you tip the sales/banquet manager at RH?

your BM is a totally different person then your maitre d-unless your hall actually assigns you the same person. The rate is 3-5 pp, you dont have to tip the full 5, do what you can afford. And your bridal attendants are 50-100 depending on how you feel about what they have done for you.

If your BM is someone different NO you do not have to tip them
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PegaLega Posted: Jun 03, 2008 10:37 PM+
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Re: Do you tip the sales/banquet manager at RH?


Posted by Olinka79

Yes with 220 guests our Maitre'D tip is $1300...so you're saying that's a lot?[/QUOTE

YES way too much, think about it like this-that is their pay (or most of it) for ONE 5 hour event? shooooooot that is $260 and hour too much
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ldrenckhahn Posted: Jun 04, 2008 01:34 PM+
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Re: Do you tip the sales/banquet manager at RH?

Not to be a cheap jerk but we are spending so much money I am not tipping them very much! Maybe $250-$300 max for the maitre d for 150 people and $100 for the bridal attendant. IMO people in the wedding business make ridiculous amounts of money at the poor bride/groom's expense!

I'd be more inclined to tip my florist and my photographer more than average because they provide a skilled service!

Sorry for the rant but I find 'suggested tips' extremely obnoxious and downright rude! If you go above and beyond then I will tip you appropriately! If you don't then you will be tipped accordingly!
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tgrlily339 Posted: Jun 04, 2008 08:01 PM+
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Re: Do you tip the sales/banquet manager at RH?


Posted by Olinka79

Yes with 220 guests our Maitre'D tip is $1300...so you're saying that's a lot?



Wow that sounds insanely high! My hall told us the standard is $2-3/guest and if we think he does an exceptional job then give a little more.
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ChristinaNTodd08 Posted: Jun 04, 2008 08:39 PM+
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Re: Do you tip the sales/banquet manager at RH?

$6 seems really high. Most places we saw 'suggested' $3-5.
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chakrasdeosil Posted: Jun 04, 2008 08:48 PM+
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Re: Do you tip the sales/banquet manager at RH?

Wow, i agree with everyone else, $6 pp. is alot. it's recommended $3-5 pp. But then again, it is Glen harbor... they are the most expensive on 'wedding row'
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jessica08bride Posted: Jun 04, 2008 09:23 PM+
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Re: Do you tip the sales/banquet manager at RH?

to be fair, dont you also have 2 captains to tip on top of your maitred? if it was recommended to be 6 pp, maybe they included the captains in on the charge.
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