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you are not alone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My mom has not talked to me since the wedding because of similar reasons

- The day after the wedding tons of people sent me pics so i put them all in an album and sent everyone the pics, my mom for some reason thought they were the photographers pictures and bc when she was walking down the aisle she wasnt looking in a pic, and another pic was weird bc it was just random peoples pics, she thought that the photographer and me purposely altered the pictures to make her look bad (who the hellll would ever do something like that???)

- During the prayer of the faithful during the ceremony my grandfather (my moms father) who passed away a few years ago, his name was mispronounced....yeah apparently that was my fault

-My nephews tux shirt was wayyyy to big on him (the tux place only asked him to try on the jacket and pants when i went with my brother and nephew) so that was my fault (ps the tux place was 5mins away from where we got dressed so my brother took my nephew to get a new shirt and was back in like 15mins)
i think there are other random reasons like these that i cant think of at the moment bc my mom is just crazy and when i talk to my dad, he tells me 'moms still in a mood' so yeah i havent talked to her since the wedding and bc my mom apparently regressed to the age of 12 and she even deleted me on myspace, so im no longer her myspace friend lol (i mean i can only laugh about stuff like this bc its sooo ridiculous)

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sorry double post

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Posted by ILOVEBRIAN2008

sorry double post

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I never want anyone to go through this but it makes me feel better that I'm not alone..... You're all right, the wedding is about us, not them.

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I had similar problems

My mother complained that the photographers and videographers took more pics of the groom's side of the family.
Question for my mom: how did the photographers and videographers, who'd never before met either family members, know who's who?

She insists it's a conspiracy against her.

Actually, only those who danced were mostly in the camera's view. Those were my instructions. Those people who are outside smoking or sitting at tables instead of participating probably didn't look interesting enough to photograph, right?

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I didn't even have a picture alone with my MIL and she isn't a step! Tell them to get over it. Has your husband tried sticking up for you or voicing his opinion?

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Some people are very selfish. I didn't get an alone pics with my mom and I even apologized and she doesn't think it's a big deal at all. Bottom line you can't make everyone happy and to be honest with you it was all about you and your husband that day, not them!

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I am so sorry to hear about the drama...and I too experienced it! It P I S S E D me off to the point the family member and I are not currently speaking. Dont let them ruin anything...you are still honymooners and they should have some respect that you cant make everyone happy and that most importantly it is YOUR DAY WITH YOUR HUSBAND!

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that's pretty selfish!!! the only complaint I heard was my half sister was annoyed there's not a pic of me, my sister & her all together (we didn't grow up together though, so we're not that close)......I mean why do these people waste the energy just to make you feel bad when there's nothing you can do after the day is over. don't let them bother you!!!

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With my first marriage I had to deal with my mom and dad and their second spouses. IMO I think it is jealousy between them, he felt that she got more than they did. Tell them it is too late to do anything about it and that you are sorry but you were very busy that day and perhaps they should have spoken up then but you can't do anything about it now. If they keep harping in it, then you are going to have to tell them you don't want to hear it anymore. Sometimes it is hard to get the backbone for it, esp to your parent, but it may need to be done. Don't let them bring you down. It is hard to make everything even with 2 sets of parents.

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Posted by LeeLee111

Thank you so much ladies, you made me feel much better.... And unfortunately no my mom was not crying tears of joy, shes an attention getter and permanent victim.....,MMy husband is so fed up with everyone's garbage too.

Love you ladies, thanks for being there for me.

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I agree...it's time to put this in the past where it belongs...it's not your fault that those things happened, and you were gracious enough to apologize anyway. When/if they bring anything negative up about your wedding again, don't let them drag you into it...say something like 'We went over this before and I actually apologized about those things to you even though they were not my fault. Can we talk about something else?' and follow it up with a question for them to answer. Stand your ground...you don't want to let them think that they can walk all over their new daughter-in-law (like another PP said, what's going to happen if they aren't the first to hold their new grandchild if they are doing this to you now?).
And yes, they are really selfish...how can they say things like that to you?

On another note, I totally understand about your mother...FM me if you ever need to talk!

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I can understand totally. My mom was really mean about my professional photos and the lack of family shots. She just made me feel horrible about the situation. What am I supposed to do now? Sorry it wasn't better organized! Whatever! And I know I'm going to have to hear about it again this week b/c she's picking out her pics for her parent album. God help me.

I'm sorry you are dealing with this and I hope it gets better for you!

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Thanks ladies....you are all amazing. My husband is so over everyone's crap. I dont want time to fly by and we're still harping on this.

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The only drama, was my mom complaining that I didn't take enough pics with her. Sure proved her wrong. She just doesn't understand that the bride and groom take most pics with their bridal party.